Babies in Therapy

Who else here has babies in some kind of therapy? My two are both in birth to 3 for physical and occupational. They are 8.5 months now, still not crawling. They can't roll from back to front....the other way yes.
I feel like my babies are so behind and it's my fault. Does anyone else feel like it's their fault? My babies were born at 37.5 weeks so it's not like they were premature!
I feel like I just bought them all the wrong toys, did all the wrong things with them period.
They are just the sweetest things and I love the fact they are staying "babies" longer though

Anyone else in a similar situation?

 

I don't have babies in therapy but just wanted to say it isn't YOUR FAULT! I am sure you are a great mom and did everything you could. Please don't beat yourself up about it. My DS didn't crawl until he was 10.5 months but started walking at 13 months. He was also very chunky (24lbs at 10 months). I think the extra weight slowed him down and it was too hard to crawl.

 

The only way it would be your fault was if you WEREN'T getting them the OT and PT. I have a friend whose daughter didn't walk until she was almost 2, by the time she was 3, you would have never known she was so far behind. Being proactive and getting them the help they need is what makes you a good mommy. Some kids just don't do things when they "are supposed to", that is why early intervention exists. Did you know that around 60-70% of kids in early intervention, never have another problem developmentally once they "graduate" and move onto school age? That is why soooo much money is put into EI. It has shown itself to be money well spent!

 

QUOTE(EOMommy @ Feb 21 2009, 04:07 PM) [snapback]1199247[/snapback]
I feel like I just bought them all the wrong toys, did all the wrong things with them period.


:hug: It is so not your fault and no toy would help them rollover. You did nothing wrong. Some babies just develop at a different pace than others. You are doing a great job getting them the help they need and being an advocate for them. Keep up the great work. :good:

 

My girls get PT and I wonder if they will end up with speech therapy at some point as well.

It isn't your fault.

 

I had that concern at one point. One of my boys is in PT for his flat head and torticollis. Turned out, it most likely happened in utero because there wasn't a lot of room in there. His brother had a flat head on one side, but he was willing to sleep on the opposite side so the flat area has rounded out nicely. My other boy, though, is still flat on the back of his head, but he's making progress. I worried that i left him on his back too long. I now know it wasn't my fault and there isn't much I could do but try to keep him off his head. His PT is going very well too.

You are definitely not at fault. Like it was said before, babies develop at different ages. Like some babies teeth at 5 months, while others teeth after they turn one. You are doing what you need to in order to get your baby to develop those skills. Actually, my boy in PT hasn't developed his protective reflex yet. He'll sit up, but he'll fall over without trying to stop it from happening. My other boy has it no problem and has great balance. We are currently working on the reflex now. He just learned to sit up on his own. it took him a while, but he just got it yesterday!!! His brother has been sitting up on his own for a few weeks now. So just keep doing what you are doing. You are doing great so far. Don't lose site of what good you actually are doing for your baby.

 

Thanks everyone!
I just feel like maybe they needed more tummy time, or more time doing this, etc....I like that stat though sharongl!

It just seems like progress at first was quick...now it's slow, and our OT therapist hasnt been here for 2 weeks and I feel like we have nothing to show!

 

One of my babies is in OT and is going to start PT soon because she is not yet crawling. She can roll all over the place though. (She has CP due to a brain bleed) I agree, it's not your fault and you shouldn't feel guilty if you are getting the help they need. I had these same feelings not too long ago when I was told Hannah needed PT as well as OT. I felt like I had done something terribly wrong and somehow it just had to be my fault. I think it may be a little natural to feel that way at first, but like I said, it's not your fault.

 

It is not your fault! All babies develop differently and you are doing the best thing and getting them EI now!

 

I think twins take a little longer. Just last month (8 months) I had my smaller twin at the peds office because I thought she needed additional therapy. We'd done some cranial sacral stuff but she wasn't sitting, rolling, hated tummy time etc. He didn't think she needed anything but time. Now 1 month later she's almost crawling! Rolling all over the place, sitting better than her bigger sister who I thought was more advanced.

Keep up the good work!

 

I was in your situation and I felt like that all the time. My two were born full term yet my son had to go to PT (for torticollis) but neither of them were rolling until... well, they were never big rollers.. but my dd didn't start until 8/8.5 months and they were both "later" crawlers. :hug: You are doing nothing wrong and you didn't do anything wrong. I promise you they will catch up. My two are 2.5 now and no one can tell they crawled late, walked late or anything. It's hard not to take it personal, but please remember you are doing an amazing job Momma. :hug: