At the hospital on D-Day – who will be there?

For those with a planned c-section, do you plan to have family/friends there that same day? I personally fear I might want to recover just a bit without the pressure of “entertaining.” Haven’t had a c-section before so I’m not sure what to expect, but I’m a bit of a private person when it comes to these kinds of things. Then again I don’t want to offend the grandparents and other special friends by not letting them meet the boys on their birthday.

So for those who have had a c-section before, what was that first day like?

 

I had my c/s at 3pm and after the c/s is a total blur to me. :blush: I was drugged up and out of it most of the time. We had alot of people there after I had the babies. My husband, my parents, my brother, my inlaws and my BIL. It sounds like alot but honestly, I wouldn't have changed one thing. :wub: It was the first grandkids on both sides and everyone was beyond happy...and it was nice to see their happiness around me. But if you feel like it's not something you'd like, you could always have your hubby ask them to not come visit until the next day. You are the one who counts and should feel comfortable. :good:

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I had an emergency c/s so there wasn't much planning involved. That being said, my parents, my brothers, my IL's, my DH's grandparents, and my SIL were there after I delivered. Keith took them to see the babies in the NICU. They saw me for like 5 minutes after they took me out of recovery and then they all left so I could rest. It worked out really well, and they were all very respectful of the fact that I had just had major surgery and wasn't in the mood to socialize.

Whatever you decide, just make sure you communicate that with your family and I am sure they will be understanding of your wishes! Good Luck!

 

I did not want anyone in the delivery room or hospital the day my kids were born. I wanted it to be between my DH and me. Plus, I was so uncomfortable after my vaginal delivery with my older DD and the twins were born early so they went right to the NICU and I needed lots of monitoring for pre-e. I am glad that it was just us.

 

Luckily, and un-luckily, I live about 2 hours from both my and my in-law families. We probably won't have visitors until the weekend following the twins birth. Our families are also very understanding about giving us time and will come when they know they'll feel comfortable. Not sure what kind of birth I'll be having but I know I'll want to sleep any minute I get!

 

Thankfully it will be me and DH in the OR when we deliver via c-sec. Once I get to a postpardum room then I will let people come and visit. But not while I am in recovery. I just want my privacy.

 

I know this is going to sound strange, but I prefer visitors on the day of my c-section. I had both my prior ones in the morning and the IV drugs are so strong that for the rest of the first day I was feeling absolutely no pain. As long as people didn't mind seeing me nurse, I was fine with visiting that first afternoon and night. For me, day 2 was the hard one and I didn't want anyone around except DH. By day 3, I was back to normal and ok with visitors again.

 

I don't have experience with twins, but my first DS was a scheduled c-section and I even try to keep the date and time quiet until I deliver. I ddin't want to see anyone after the surgery. couple of days before c-section I told parents and in law the day but not the time and thanks God it was weekday. so they all come after 5pm I had c-section at 11am ,but DS was taken to the NICU for IV because of the low blood sugar and parents and in law was mostly near me and believe I really didn't want to see them for a long time.
This time if I will have a c-section I will not change a thing. the only might be one positive thing is that they live 1,5 hour away from that hospital and might be would be able to come next day. and I hope this is really better. I can put myself together and hopefully kids woudl be with us and not in the NICU.

 

I had my two sisters and my husband in the deleivery room VB of my twins and my older daughter. My parents, ILS, SIL, and some others were all there! I wouldnt change that for anything! For me a healthy birth is an exciting time to celebrate!! After the twins I was a little sick throwing up because of the meds they have given me so I was glad there were people there to hold the twins!! I wouldn't change it for anything!

 

I had a planned c/s & I was pretty out of it right afterwards.
The babies and I came back to my room & my MIL and her boyfriend were there along w/ my dad & his girlfriend, my SIL and BIL, my best friend and of course DH.
Having them around was totally fine with me :good:
The problem was all the other 'visitors' that came throught that day & the next day. I believe we had around 30 visitors :shok:
It just got to be too much for me & I was overwhelmed. I was trying to learn how to feed the girls, working on very little sleep and still sore/out of it from the surgery.
The Nurse finally put a sign on our door saying that 'all guests must check in at the nurses station' before entering. That helped a lot!
I would say besides having your 'core group' there it may be best for some to tell people to come visit once you are home.

 

I'm so glad this question was asked....I haven't even thought about it yet. With my little girl (1st pregnancy) I didn't think I wanted anyone there but DH, but my water broke at 4 am and I didn't deliver until almost midnight - I just wasn't dilating. My DH, my dad and stepmom, and my MIL were all in the room until it was time to push (i got my epidural VERY early - I'm such a wimp), then it was just DH and i. 10 minutes later Frankie was here and cleaned up, they all came back in the room to meet her. I wouldn't change a thing about it, except maybe have our older kids there afterwards. It was just way too late though.

This time will be a c-section, so I think I'll wait until i'm out of recovery to see anyone. They are more than welcome to peek their heads in the NICU w/ DH though - I would rather him be w/ our babies than me.

 

my c-sec was emergency at 7pm so I didn't have visitors that night except for my mom and sister. I guess those are visitors. To be honest it was no big deal. They held the babies for a few minutes than left. I never felt the need to entertain as people are there to see the babies, no me. I was a bit drugged out anyway.

I didn't have "recovery" last in a typical operation. I went right from the OR to my room where my mom and siter were with my other 2 kids. My mom came to me with my kids to my appt and they brought me right up to the hospital from my appt. My mom had to wait for my sister to come pick her up as she is not from around here and didn't know how to get home. Needless to say, it was really nice to have them all there when I came out of the OR, I could show off my babies for 5 min then I went to sleep for a bit and they left. It's such an exciting time that it is wonderful to share it with others.

Actually, since I was a bit out of it, it was nice to have people there to help dh hold the babies since I couldn't do that for any amount of time.

I think it all depends on how polite the visitors are. If it is a quick visit, I think that's nice, but I wouldn't want people hanging out for hours.

 

My C-section was scheduled for 8 a.m. and we told the grandparents to come to the hospital around 11 a.m. My OB said it would be 2 hrs before I was in a room so we didn't want people sitting in the waiting room at the hospital. Of course, the grandparents didn't listen and showed up at the hospital at 8 a.m. We had visitors all day that first day (mostly immediate family). At times it was very overwhelming for me (especially later in the evening), but overall it wasn't too bad.

 

I have scheduled my date as well, and we have agreed to not have anyone there. I have a large family so therefore depending on how I feel afterwards, we may make some announcements, but that's all tentative for now!

 

I was a mommy who didn't want ANYONE around the day my boys were born except for me and DH and I am so glad that it didn't turn out that way.
Since I went into labor at home I had my c-section at 5am. My DH called my parents and they got to the hospital soon after we went into the OR. By the time we were in recovery my in-laws had arrived too. The first person into recovery with DH and I was my dad (we could only have 2 people at a time in recovery) and I am so glad. My boys are his first grandchildren and it was one of the only times I have ever seen my (very un-emotional) dad cry. My mom came in next and she cried too, then my MIL and then my FIL and his second wife. Since I only saw people one or 2 at a time in recovery it was fine, plus I was feeling pretty good from all the drugs. Once I was back in my room my best friend and another friend from work stopped by for a few minutes. Both of my grandmothers came that day and my cousin (who came from 5 states away just to help me when they were born). My godmother came by that afternoon too. By evening I was pretty tired and it was just DH and I. He felt guilty leaving me to go home and sleep but he had been up forever and knew he would be back early the next day. My boss arrived and told him to go home and she sat with me for 6 hours! She just let me sleep and made DH feel comfortable enough to go home and shower and get a little sleep before coming back. I am forever grateful to her for doing that for us. It was a long day but I would not have changed any of it.
If we have any more children I would want it to be the same way.

 

This really is your time. Yes, extended family is excited and want to see the babies, but you need to feel comfortable about having others around. If you're not comfortable, tell them you don't want visitors until xx time after the birth. You need to recover and bond with your babies. Don't worry about offending anyone and stress the medical reasons why you don't want visitors until you do. (It might make it easier for people to understand then.)

And when people are there and you need them to leave, don't be afraid to speak up. Your babies need a healthy mom.

 

I know I will be having the babies early by c-section and they will be taken quite quickly to NICU. I have told my husband and family that no-one (except hubby) will be seeing the babies before I have had some time with them in the NICU, so they are only going to come in the evening or next day. My worst fear is them seeing and hearing my MIL before they have had chance to properly see and hear me!
Yes they are all excited to see the babies but so am I and I don't want to feel resentful of visitors in those first few precious hours.

 

My c-section with Trevor was at 5:00pm. DH was in there with me. My parents and IL's were there waiting when it was over, I think this mainly had to do with him being premature more than anything. So they did all come in to see me after it was over. I was fine with that, no one stayed very long. Honestly it was nice to know people were there. However, if it had been a planned c-section I don't think anyone else would have been there, just DH.

 

We have a scheduled c-section coming up and it will just be DH and I. I really want some time for breastfeeding and bonding with just our family. Our folks are 1000 miles away so they are coming in 3 days later - if my mom was allowed in the OR for vaginal or c-section delivery she would have been there but in Colorado they do not allow that which is a bummer - they only allow 1 person even though a million medical personnel can be in there...lol. I do like company though, so if I am going crazy I will call close friends who will be anxious to visit. I have a feeling though that I will treasure this quiet time for a few days...because starting the weekend after we will have some kind of relative staying with us for approximately 5 weeks straight.

 

No matter what type of delivery I have it'll be dh and my mom in the room. After I'm sure my dad and my IL's will come to see the babies and probably the girls. Hopefully everyone will wait to come to see them for a few days!

 

I am hoping for a vaginal delivery and my dh and mother will be there with me. All the rest of the family and friends will be waiting for us. I love having visitors, it makes you feel great. With my first ds there was a huge group of people waiting outside of my door listening to the delivery. It was great to have all of that support. No one stayed a long time just enough to get a quick squeeze and say congrats!

 

I couldn't stop my mom and dad from being at the hospital if I wanted to :lol: These are their first grandkids, and they are way too excited.. I would not want to deny them that first day. Plus, I think it's pretty special to have close family there to meet them on their birthday. As long as I can take the time I need to make sure that I am learning breastfeeding and have some time with them myself, I will be happy. My family is pretty respectful of that, so it should be fine. That being said, I can totally understand how other people would like to have it a more personal experience and not get overwhelmed. I think that whatever you feel most comfortable with is the most important!

Reading other people's stories made me a little teary.. I won't lie.. pregnancy hormones are ridiculous!

 

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Thankfully it will be me and DH in the OR when we deliver via c-sec. Once I get to a postpardum room then I will let people come and visit. But not while I am in recovery. I just want my privacy.


I agree with above, day one is good plus I don't think I could keep my family away from seeing their first set of spontaneous twins that we know of so...with that being said, I think FIL will be driving from PA shortly after their birth and with my dd's emer section he was there on day two and I wasn't really happy cause its akward cause he stayed a long time in the room like half a day at least. I am afraid this time that if he is visiting and it's day 2, I may not be so accepting especially depending on the sensitivity of our newborns health.

I expect company when they arrive home but I am not shy about feeding cause I cover myself or taking a nap. Company can help me watch dd so I can nap. I hope all of these help but really you set guidelines for what you know right now that you will not accept and mention the parts that are concerning to you and go from there. Good luck!

 

Well my friends and I were discussing this the other day. They (as well as myself) are hoping for a vaginal delivery. I'm going back to the hospital that I went to before and they allowed 3 people inside. Should I need a C-section, only one of my friends, Kristi, is going in. She has even told my boyfriend and he said that he didn't care cause he doesn't want to be in there anyway...the wimp... :lol:

 

hopefully, DH and I. I know my MIL will want to be there, but we probably will tell her to go home and wait.

 

This is my fourth pregnancy with my first DS I had a virginal delivery and there were people galore my partner MIL mum step father too many medical people it was like a party in the delivery suite . With my twins I had an emergency c-section at 5pm on a sunday evening I had no visitors apart from DH until the following day which was great for me as I really needed that time to meet the babies and I was much more with it the next day. With my youngest DS I had another c-section but it was planned DH and I went in early in the morning and he was born at 10am my sister came for a visit that afternoon but the morphine really affected me the last time and I was out of it for a full 24 hours. They are all so different best of luck with it what ever happens :hug: