Are your twins "exclusive"?

My girls were 21 months on Sunday and the last couple of months I have been noticing that they enjoy the company of other children less and less. I take them out all the time and they have an older brother so it's not like they aren't exposed to other children. We go to friends houses, play dates, the park, etc so they are constantly exposed to other children but they seem to be less tolerant lately and it seems to be getting worse.

When we're out it's not that they are playing "with" each other, more "around" each other and they often fight (same thing at home) however if another child comes to play where they are playing they push them away and say "no". I had to break up a few fights at story time at the library this morning where they were refusing to share the bean bag pillow they were sitting on with anyone but each other.

Anyone else notice this? Is there anything I can do to help them socialize with other kids?

 

At this age, parallel play is common, so you will see them play more side by side then together w/ each other and other kids. I did notice and still notice that my kids prefer the company of each other then other kids. The only thing I suggest is keep having them interact with other kids at the playground, playgroups, family and friends. My BF has a little boy 6 months younger then my twins and I know when the three of them together, I have to remind my twins to play with their friend and not ignore him. So, I will go over and play with their friend and have them join in and usually that gets the play time started for them to play with their friend.
Both of my twins are pretty shy, it takes them a while to warm up to new situations and people. I will make it a point to say hi to other kids and adults, so that my kids can see that other people are generally not scary.

 

Nathaniel is more then William. Nathaniel is lost when William isnt around and when they are with other kids, Nathaniel stays with William. William could care less.

 

They will probably grow out of it when they get older (school age) and basically have to be around other kids. My girls are 3.5 and they do not like to play with other kids either. Even when given the chance, they will play with each other and no one else. I'm sure it's pretty common in twins. I think once my kids get to preschool they will open up more. Then again they may be shy and still not want to play with anyone else!

 

Mine are the same age, but they are in daycare so they are around other kids a lot. As far as I can tell they are often together, but also play with/near other kids. they certainly seem interested in the other kids. Actually, this is a questions I should ask their daycare teachers!

 

Mine are a little older but they also seem to play either with each other or near each other and sort of ignore other children. Even when I've snuck in to daycare to watch them playing I've noticed they always seem to be aware of where the other one is...I chalk it up to a "twin thing"