Are you ever sad...

OK ladies, so I post this here as I have 3 under 3, but I lately I think I'm grieving the end of my reproductive years. Not for health reasons, but just that at this point, dh and I agree that we feel our family is complete.

So...why can't I get over the fact that I'll never get to be pregnant again? I loved it! I loved the excitement of finding out and the whole process. Especially the part about getting beautiful babies out of it.

Each month I secretly hope that I'm "accidentally" pregnant. How stupid is that! I even still track when I'm ovulating.

So, am I really nuts or what? Anyone else ever feel this way?

 

Sorry guys, I need to update my ticker. Ava and Bella nearly 2.5 and Jax is almost 10 months.

 

Yup!!!

I realize my situation is not really the same as yours but.

DH says were done but I'm not ready to be done yet. He said wait until they are a year old and then we can talk about it again.

The twins are only 5 months right now but I too track when I am ovulating and tend to give DH a little more attention during that time of the month hoping that I might "accidentely" get pregnant (with twins again would be great). Too bad he is quite careful especially since I am not on birth control. But the way I see it is I want another baby and dont want to be on the birth control to prevent that. DH knows its possible and yet still continues to sleep with me so If it happens then it happens.

And no I dont think you are nuts. I would love to have as many babies as the lord is willing to give me but DH thinks 2 is enough and 3 is his absolute limit and I knew that before I married him so we will most likely be stopping at 3.

 

I get sad too. We had to do IVF with both pregnancies & a surprise pregnancy feels out of reach, though I know it "could" happen technically...only takes one egg & one sperm, right? I loved being pg both times. I just love the whole entire experience & what better reward at the end? Totally know what you mean.

 

I feel your pain!! I have 5 and still feel that way!!! I also had to do IVF - and would do it again in a heartbeat!!!
I LOVE being pregnant!!!!

 

me too!! I've got an almost 4 year old and the twins and I know that we are done having babies but I still watch TLC baby stories and wish I was going through it again. I saw a woman yesterday who was pregnant and just remembered that a year ago I was too and it made me sad I never will be again. As hard as it can be sometimes, it's really the best thing. Still, I feel so blessed that we have 3 healthy girls so in that respect, I really couldn't ask for more!!

 

as my twins first birthday fast approaches I know how you feel...DH wavers between "we're done" (I had a VERY ROUGH section and it freaked him out) and "wait till they're 4 and then we'll see"...some days I really want to have another one and some days I'm ready to make the appt for him to get the big snip! LOL

I mourn the fact that they're not really "infants" anymore but it is really exciting to watch them learn something new every day!

 

Our first came naturally, then after 10 years we decide to do IVF, and I got pregnant with the twins. All of the 10 years inbetween I wished and prayed to I could be pregnant one more time. The IVF process also produces 3 more embryos, and we feel that we have to use them all since we believe at that stage it's already life. Now the thought of having 3 more ,which could very well be possible ,kind of freaks me out, but it must be what God wants for us. The though of none of them working, makes me genuinely sad, I want to be pregnant "one more time". I think that one more time will continue for ever. I think for me it would be a process to get me to the next stage, were your kids are grown, and that the productive years are simply over.

 

I feel the same way. We knew going into the last pregnancy that this would be our last one. We only planned on three children - then we got the bonus baby this time around. I hate being pregnant but I love babies. Our girls are almost six months now and I am starting to get the itch again! I too am really sad that we won't have that newborn experience again. As much as I hate being pregnant, I am also sad that we will never have the excitement of, "What are we going to have?""When is the baby going to arrive?""Will it look like dh or me?"

You are not alone!

 

I do sometimes get sad because I feel like that part of my life is over. But then I think I have 3 great kids and how much easier it will be a few years not having to worry about having a baby and all the fun stuff we can all do.

Not to mention when I think about the future and college and weddings, etc.

I'm also finding it hard having to have my twins on my oldest DD's school schedule so it will be nice to not have to worry about that.

We are done and I am happy about that and feel very lucky to have 3 beautiful kids, but I do sometimes get sad when I think about never being pregnant again, but it doesn't last too long. So you are not alone in this, I think it's totally normal.

 

Thanks everyone. I'm relieved that I'm not the only one. I too am very grateful for my children and know that we have been richly blessed.

DH and I are 100% sure that now would not be a good time for another baby. For now, I'm going to focus on enjoying watching them grow up and sleeping through the night!!! Who knows what might happen in a couple of years though!

Thanks again!

 

Oh yeah! We've got 5 and I'm having a really hard time dealing with the fact that we're done. We had a lot of help conceiving our others, so the chances of us conceiving on our own are pretty slim. We're not preventing a pregnancy, and I've got my fingers crossed we have an "accident".

 

I feel that way sometimes. I also have been having dreams lately that I am pregnant. I do not want any more.

 

It took so many years to get our two little guys that I understand being sad about never having anymore kids. We had to go through IVF and after all the medical treatments, shots, etc.....I just don't think my body can go through that again. SO, we are so happy and grateful for our wee ones.

 

I feel that way sometimes, I loved being pregnant, it was a great experience and we'd be doing it again if we would have only had one baby. I also hate to think that I'll never have a tiny baby again. I love watching the girls grow and change but part of me wants them to stay babies. There's no chance of an accident here, I got fixed during my section, so I can't even dream about it!

 

I just want that one more chance to have a baby again. I will miss this stage when it's over.

 

I know that we are finished too. My DH had a vasectomy in January and I am on birth control (for health reasons). Although I don't want another baby, I keep reminding myself to treasure this time. I don't mind rocking them at night when they awake crying. During those sleepless months I didn't feel such joy or longing . . . I was too tired to feel anything.

 

Nope...I knew I was done having kids when I got pregnant this last time. We only wanted 2...but then found out #2 , was actually #2 & #3. I had a tubal shortly after the twins were born and am happy as pie Three is more than enough for me to take care of alone with DH gone with the military all the time.