Are you allowed to.....

Have sex?

Ok I know this is an odd question but a twin pregnancy is so different from a single that I'm worried. I've had a few bleeding scares and my infertility Dr. said I couldn't have sex until my next u/s which is tomorrow. It's been a week and I'm still getting very light spotting. He said if I was still bleeding at my u/s I would have to wait until I see the high risk ob/gyn and ask her. I dont see her for another week and a half! My pregnancy hormones are making waiting not very easy :lol: .

So have any of you been "cut off" for the whole pregnancy?? I have a bad feeling I wont be able to have sex until after these babies come. I know its whats best for them but it doesn't mean I will suffer silently

I never had bleeding with my daughter and we were never cut off but I know a twin pregnancy is different so I figured you ladies would know more then most of the moms I know.

 

You are going to get all kinds of different answers to this one! I have had no complications and have not been put on any kind of restriction. But I know with spotting you want to be careful. Not to say you will be restricted the whole prenancy but for the health of your babies it's best to wait until you get the go ahead. (As hard as that may be :blush: )

 

My doctor asked me not to for the first trimester and then cleared me to go ahead after that.

 

I think it totally depends on the pregnancy. My Dr never told me not to. We stopped completely when I was put on bedrest 9 weeks before they were born. But honestly, it hadn't been very often the last little while before that, since I was enormous and uncomfortable.

 

I would say to get the OK from your Dr & then just go with what they say :good:

Good luck!

I wasn't able to since I had a placenta previa - it was too dangerous.

 

I was spotting for a few weeks in the beginning and was rushed into an ultrasound at 11 or 12 weeks, thats when we found out it was twins. My dr said about half of all pregnancies have some sort of spotting so he wasn't concerned. He said that the cervix is a little sensitive and with the extra blood flow down there it's not unusual. I was told not to have sex though later on in my pregnancy when I was on bedrest.

 

I think that definitely depends on the pregnancy. I was told not to after about 3.5 months due to a short cervix.

 

We stopped halfway through the 2nd trimester when I had a painful episode. I'm really concerned about PTL anyway, so was relieved hubby agreed with me that we should stop. Dr. never told me not too, but I feel better this way.

 

I did not the entire pregnancy. My Peri said no way.

 

I did not the entire pregnancy, not because of dr's orders, I just didn't want to take any extra risks.

 

We stopped after we learned it was twins (about 19 weeks). We were really worried b/c they told us we might lose one at that u/s and we didn't want to risk it. I soon became so big and uncomfortable that I wouldn't have wanted to anyway.

 

I would follow your doctor's instructions. I was very low risk for a twin pregnancy, never had any spotting, and was told it was fine by my doctor. At my 34 week appointment when I was 1 cm dilated the doctor told me that if it was painful at that point I should stop. It had become too awkward and uncomfortable long before 34 weeks!

 

Hadn't had to deal with any complications as of yet.....just wanted to encourage you to enjoy each other in other ways although it may get you worked up and difficult to NOT, so that's up to you--but let's just say, satisfying dh may just satisfy you..........now there is TMI

 

Ours are IVF twins also. We've gone the whole pregnancy doing without, and then some...two months before doing the procedure due to abdominal surgery prior. I had lots of spotting during the first trimester, then after all the progesterone shots in the tushie, I got to take it in suppository form...ewwwwwww. By our 18th week we got the "go ahead" for intercourse, but by then I was so miserable and starting to get huge so nothing about it excited me. We tried once and it was a circus. Luckily, my DH of 15 years agreed we could "sacrifice" for the duration. I do look forward to the day we can get together again though. *sigh*

 

My doc said no more around 24 weeks, but I have had a totaly uncomplicated pregnancy so far.

 

I got the restriction during part of my pregnancy too, de to bleeding and spotting. The reason my doc gave me was hat if blood can come out, bacteria can take the same route the other way and cause an infection. She explained we wanted to avoid infection because they could cause pre term labor. I think there could be other reasons to not have sex too. I remember an orgasm would send me into contractions towards the end of the pregnancy.

It sucked! I was super horny! (hows that for TMI) DH and I did a lot of exploring of, shall we say, other ways to have fun.

 

I was on complete pelvic rest from the time we did the transfer until the end. Then I kept having trouble with my c-section incision and that along with having twin newborns, it was not until they were 3 months old that we dtd. It was almost 1 year.

 

Thanks so much everyone.

I didn't realize so many women with twins didn't DTD during their pregnancy. Pregnancy tends to make me a little extra "excited" and not being able to take care of that itch is going to drive me nuts. Dh is willing to give up for the entire pregnancy but we are a very sexual couple and cutting "it" out will be hard. I know there are other ways but I would think an orgasm could have as bad of an effect on things as sex. Ahhh the things we give up for healthy twins

I'm just glad my spotting has stopped and both babies seem to be doing great!