Are we ruining/spoiling our girls

The girls start the night in their own crib (together). At about 5am they won't go back to sleep, wether they have just eaten or are inbetween feedings, so we put them in our bed and they cuddle one with each of us and they fall right back to sleep. Now I have read and heard many times that co-sleeping isn't a good idea and can spoil the child, but it is only for a few hours (so we can sqeeze sleep until at least 8).

Does or did anyone else do this, or are we really being selfish and need to just get up with them???

 

Oh my gosh...we do the same thing on the weekends! I love it...cuddling is so much fun AND buys us another hour or so of sleep. BUT...I'm like you, I feel really guilty doing it because I know you aren't supposed to. I certainly don't want to make it a crutch. I'm interested to see what everyone else has to say.

 

As a mom who did co-sleeping(night wakings on) I would do it again in a heartbeat. Jessy still sleeps in bed with me but most nights she sleeps thru and Jazzy sleeps all the way thru in her own bed and goes to sleep by herself. I think in no way has our cosleeping hurt either one and I got more sleep myself.

 

For many months I would sleep on the couch or in the guest room bed with a baby cuddled up against me......they are now sleeping in their own cribs only CIO for a minute a two a couple of times a night. If they really need me I go to them. Last night our Jacob was crying hard due to teething we went to him, gave him teething tablets and milk and he went back to sleep after I held him dozing for a 1/2 an hour.

Even on weekends the boys will cuddle up with us and take a nap occassionally.....but, we have never put the boys in bed with us at night and have worked hard to break the cycle of them needing me 6-8 times a night with the CIO/FIO method.

 

We did it too and I also was questioning our decision. Here's my story: we put them in their cribs at 7 weeks (they were in our room before that). At about 2.5 months, Lauren would go back in her crib pretty easily after feedings and most of the time stay there but Emma would only stay in her crib in between one feeding. So, I would bring her to bed with me, and dh would take one of them on the nights Lauren didn't stay in her crib either. I decided at four months she was old enough to try cry it out. I do have to say that it was hard hearing her cry, and it did take about 10 days in total (days 4, 5, 6 being the WORST)...BUT since 4.5 months they have been in their cribs for 10.5-12 hours per night.

I have no regrets about what we did and think it was one way for all of us to have some sanity at the time. I used to tell myself "they won't be like this forever - we can fix it later". Hopefully this is encouragement for you to keep doing what you are doing.

 

My singleton daughter co-slept with us for the first two years til she started turning sideway in her sleep and kicking us - then she got booted to her own bed and even then she was always welcome to come and join us in the morning as long as she didn't wake us up. I find it just too hard to co'sleep with mom, dad and two babes but we do take the early riser into bed with us to stretch the sleep! I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Whatever allows the whole family to get the longest and best quality of sleep.

 

i think everyone does it/has done it at some stage, the twins slept with dh and i from about 4 months old for 3 hours a night. they now sleep in their own bed (together) all night at age 15 months.

i think if they are falling asleep in their own cots they are fine and will grow out of waking up at 5am.

 

We do this sometimes too! I don't think it is possible to spoil them at this age, they need to have cuddle time and lots of love from mommy and daddy. I love mornings where we have time to do this before DH goes to work, especially since I'm home with them all day, sometimes I feel like I can't give each enough individual attention all the time.

 

All of our kids have done this - and they are all just fine. They didn't have any issues (other than the norm) learning to sleep all night in the own beds. Enjoy it while you can, when they get bigger you'll be begging for some cuddle time

 

One of my girls fell asleep in her own crib this afternoon for a nap, and the other one refused. So she and I took a nap together in the "big" bed . If I could go back to co-sleeping with them full-time I'd do it in an instant!

 

We did the same thing with all of them, more so the older one, but even with the babies. It lasted until they changed their sleeping patterns. Now they eat at 6:00 and get up for the morning. They have breakfast with Dad while Mom get a few more minutes of sleep. You certainly aren't spoiling them yet - they are too little! Enjoy the snuggly cuddle time - it doesn't last long.

 

No, you aren't spoiling them, it sounds like the perfect arrangement actually. They get some cuddles, you get some sleep! I co-slept with David (a little bit), Emma and the twins and none of them are spoiled, they all sleep in their beds.

 

We do it here too! Larkin always wakes up an hour or so before Logan and we'll bring into our bed to stretch out sleep time for everyone. She cuddles up and goes right back to sleep. It hasn't caused any problems with her regular sleeping habits. She still goes to bed just fine every night. I say enjoy the cuddling.

 

We do the same thing but rather at the 3am feeding! I know they have reflux and when they dont burp I put both of them in bed with us. I easily fall asleep with the baby on my chest...my husband not so much. I dont see anything wrong with co sleeping. They are too little to be spoiled...

 

ok seem like everyone is doing the co-sleeping thing ok I did it with my oldest son and he was over 5 years old before I was able to get him in his own bed. But Mariah did fall asleep with us one time and it was so nice.