Are we getting too old for diapers?

Ryan and Sofia will be 3 this month and I am getting major pressure to PT them. Neither of them is showing any interest and will sit on the potty a max of 30 seconds. Should I try to push them along? Honestly I have no motivation to PT them. I feel like it's going to be such a battle. I tell them about the potty all the time, they watch me go and I answer their questions. I just don't know what I should be doing at this point. HELP!

 

We tried PT my son right around the 3yr mark, and it was miserable. We knew we had to stop when the very sight of training pants caused him to break down into hysterics - and we weren't even forcing the issue! He just wasn't ready. However, not even 3months later, a trip to Target and some cool new "big boy" underwear, and he was almost 100% trained in less than 2weeks. He just had to make the decision for himself. Now, we still had defiance issues with pooping on the potty, but that is an ENTIRELY different issue. So, I say ignore the pressure, step up and tell those pressuring you that they just aren't ready, and let them pick their time. Believe me, the hassle (for you AND them) of forcing it too soon isn't worth it! And it will go SO MUCH EASIER when they are ready!

 

dont do it if they arent ready..

i told mom they will be trained before k! im not worried..
my dd told me last night she had to go.. and went to the potty in her long nighty and made it..
my ds who is a year older stood in front of me.. and said.. IM PEEING.
I WAS TICKED AND THEN REMEMBERD THAT I DONT CARE!

K IS THE GOAL IT WILL COST MORE BUT EH..
NO STRESS.
M

 

I want to PT my two but they are clearly not ready. I AM THOUGH!! I am going to wait a little longer and if they don't hsow signs in a few months I will just do it.

My dd did it on her own and I had to force my ds into it. I twas harder with ds but worth it when it was all over with.

 

OH AND TO BOOT... MY X AND INLAWS ARE TRYING TO FORCE POTTY TRAIN ALL 4 OF THEIR GRANDKIDS..

THAT GIVES ME A NOTHER REASON TO GO.. EH.. THEY WILL BE FINE.. 135 A MONTH IS NOTHING KNOWING THAT THEY ARE FORCING THEM AND I AM NOT

MUAH.. TAKE IT WITH SALT.. AND PEPPER FOR THAT MATTER.. ITS JUST A GRAIN OF ADVICE..

 

Forcing in my opinion is useless. I had no desire at all to clean up accidents because I decided I was ready for them to train...............I waited for them and I think total between the two of them I can count the number of accidents on one hand in the last 3+ years they have been trained. I had no desire to set timers to remind me to take them to the bathroom, I had no interest in having to do any tactics to make them do something that their bodies were just not ready for. As a result, they were ready before me and they forced me to help them train (but underpants, teach them to flush/wash etc).

Many children have issues with having their bowel movements while sitting on a toilet, I don't consider it defiance but a learning experience that will take some time to come along. All they know for their whole lives is that they void in their diapers then all of a sudden someone tells them to unlearn something they have been doing since birth...............not sure about your particular child and maybe it is defiance but generally it is quite common for urinating in the toilet to come before bowel movements same as generally day time training comes before night training.

 

Are we getting too old for diapers?

I don't think so. K&M are still in diapers.

Should I try to push them along?

No. I wouldn't recommend it.

I am also have no motivation to potty train them. Can someone else come and do it?

Katherine has peed a few times on the pot and it was usually at tubby time.

They received undies for their 3rd Birthday and for Christmas.

After nap one day in November, they were both bone dry. I asked if Katherine wanted to use the potty. She said yes and did. Michael didn't want to. I asked if they wanted to wear their big girl/big boy undies. They did.
I set a timer for 20 minutes and after 20 minutes, ask if anyone had to go potty. No one did.

About 5 minutes later, Katherine screams: Momma, why is my leg all wet? I get her all cleaned up. Then Michael yells: Momma, why is my leg all wet?

They weren't ready then and are still not ready. And neither am I.

 

Let them direct you.
Both of my girls have peed and pooped in the potty. About 2 weeks ago, Dani really wanted to wear underwear. She is doing great (you can read my frustated post from that day when we started). First day was awful, but she wanted the underwear. Next few days she had one or 2 accidents. Last 4 days have been accident free. I do ask her but she will also go. Tuesday she was playing with her rose cottage, i ran downstairs to put up a load of laundry. Came back upstairs to find her pooping on the potty.
I'm trying to decide how much i want to force the issue with Sydney.

 

I was super low key about it until past their third birthday. And then I said I hoped they'd be trained by Christmas. But I work out of the home and it's just hard, and I've read enough of Dianne's posts to know it's possible...but then I panicked a little and really wanted to do it in November. But they freaked. So I laid off. But then gradually they started indicating interest in the potty and panties and started sitting on it (never the potty chair, BTW) and well, magically in early December they were just trained. Pee, poo, everything. They are 100% trained.

I don't think it happened really because of anything I did. However, I did do everything in the end. Charts, stickers, M&Ms, cute underwear, praise, peer pressure... But ultimately it was just because they were ready. I had really wondered if they'd ever be ready and also chalked it up to their sensory issues. But once they were ready it was easy easy easy.

It's unfortunate the pressure that comes from the outside to get them trained. Try to ignore it if you can.

 

Trish, don't let the pressure get you down. I really agree with Dianne's advice on this one. And your kids are strong willed (from what I can tell at least, and I mean that in a totally good way) -- they will totally do it, but in their own time. So to answer your question, NO, you are not getting too old for diapers! (But holy cow, those size 6 pampers were getting a little small for Ben! I'd imagine Ryan isn't too far behind!!!)

 

I'd just like to say that you gals are all wonderful! I've been trying to get our twins interested and to no avail. I was getting worried that I should force the issue to work harder at SOMETHING but you all make me feel better. I've had a few friends pressuring me (why - they're not changing the diapers???) so I thought I should be doing some "force training" but I've always been against this. They both know what the potty is and know you "pee in potty, poop in potty" but neither have ever tried and freak if we try to make them sit on it without pants. I know Joe will be much harder than Jake due to his vision impairment but now I"m thinking that if I can train them by next fall they'll be 3.5 years old and starting preschool. Here's to hoping that their little brother, Baby Jon, will find interest in it when they do even though he'll only be 1.5 years old!!!

 

My only advice is not to force them to potty train. My oldest was ready when he turned 2 and he was trained in like 2 days. My second son refused to show any interest and I felt like banging my head on the wall. I finally gave up and right after his 3rd birthday he told me he wanted to wear underwear and then just did and didn't really have accidents. My mom said my brother wouldn't use the potty until he was 4 years old. I am just thinking about potty chairs for the twins but I am not even going to try to get them to go until they are at least 2.