Anyone with twins & two or three yr old?

Hi
I have my 10 mt twin boys and my soon to be 3 yr old daughter. She is becoming very mean to her brothers ever since they became mobile. Not sure why, in the first 6 mts she was great with them.Now She will go up to one and hit them and run away.. Any toy in there hand shell take away and they hate that.. I dont knwo what to do to stop this.. I thought once the boys were mobile she would have more fun with them.. Well she kinda does, its like she enjoys watching them get mad and cry but I of course dont like it.. Is this normal and any ideas on what I should do..
How do you divide your time between your twins and the older child? When the boys sleep naps, I give morgan extra attention or we do something..

any comments appreciated!

Misty

 

Sounds just like my 3yo ds. He has his moments when he is nice to the girls but now that they are getting around he gets angry with them. i think part of it is because they can now get into his toys. Before he could leave his blanket and elmo on the ground but now if he does the girls go for it. They like to crawl over to him which he doesnt like either. And I do spend quite a bit of time running after them now. Anyways, I think its normal, just jealousy and kids at this age tend to be jealous over everything

 

I'm not dealing with this yet, but when I was reading it I thought maybe it's because she's sees them as more competition now. My ds sees the twins as "babies" and he's a "big boy" so he's nice to them, but when they're bigger- maybe he won't feel special anymore. Maybe if you still play up the fact that she's the oldest and she can be your special helper- like help you make sure the babies have toys. Bradley likes when I tell him how helpful he's being.

 

My 2yo does a similiar thing to his brothers. They play really well, but he can just get SO rough. I don't know that he understands really so I just try to keep a close eye on them and tell him (sometimes over and over and over) to be gentle with his brothers. They also fight over toys...but that I figure is only going to get worse as they get older! LOL

Sorry I don't have better advice, just know that your kids are acting normal like the rest of our crazies

 

I have a 3 1/2 year old and the twins are just about 6 months old. Our older DS has his days where he just would rather the twins disappear so he could have mommy back 100% ( we were together while DH was deployed 18 months so from 6 months old till 2 years old so hes a mommys boy 10000% )...and he has some days he loves his baby brothers but his attitude took a nose dive and he tries to be center of attention when hes bored and it gets him in trouble at home and a preschool...
Now that the twins are playing with toys more I have brought out some old toys of his that obviously he wouldn't play with anymore but he throws a fit that they are his and he doesnt want them touching them...
AH its fun!

 

My DD (2), and my DS (4) do this too. DD more so than DS. She gets so excited around them sometimes that she cant contain herself, kinda odd. My DD has two older brothers so she is just asserting herself as big sister to the twins. In our house it is almost like a rite of passage " you must walk over hot coals, eat an assortment of live insects and endure the wrath of the Queen bee (DD)". Okay, leave out the coals and insects, but it kind of prepares them to stick up for themselves per se.
We always make sure they aren't damaging the babies and getting too rough. A little pinch may just warrant a timeout, but the more serious offenses like a head butt might make for a sore fanny. You have to draw the line between them being a little ornery and downright mean.

 

Josh isn't mean to the babies, but I do notice that he has become rougher with them in the past few weeks.

 

Each one of my children (ages 2-3) did this as the youngest was becoming mobile. What I did was teach them to trade toys for a baby toy or to distract the baby with something else. This gives the older sibling control of the situation, and that's what kids this age are all about-control (mine, me do it, no me). I also consequence when they were mean or too negative.

Part of it is the attention thing. Yes, negative attention is better than no attention. Kids in general are very "self" centered (not a negative, just how they are) and they need to learn the world doesn't revolve around them solely. Now is a great time to get creative and teach her this by teaching her ways to be a part of others' worlds. Good luck and enjoy all the fun moments.