Anyone NOT find out the genders of their twins?

I'm 11 weeks preggo with twins. I'm not wanting to find out the genders, but am wondering if it's really worth the long wait to find out what they are at birth? I have 4 other children and always found out. I would like to have a surprise this time, but is it really worth it to wait until birth?

TIA!

 

QUOTE(Twins08 @ Jan 25 2008, 11:43 AM) [snapback]588974[/snapback]
I'm almost 11 weeks preggo with twins. I'm not wanting to find out the genders, but am wondering if it's really worth the long wait to find out what they are at birth? I have 4 other children and always found out. I would like to have a surprise this time, but is it really worth it to wait until birth?

TIA!



I didn't wait!! but really wished I had. I let my DH talk me into finding out. I think a surprise would be really nice


amanda

 

I didn't find out! I loved that element of surprise. I ended up having an emergency c-section and having to go under general anesthesia. They brought my babies out to my husband while I was still "sleeping". When I woke up, the nurses told me that the babies were doing great and that they were in with my husband. I still didn't know what they were. When I was wheeled into recovery, he was sitting there holding the babies. He looked up at me and said "Here they are" and handed them to me. "I was a bit out of it". He looked and said..."Do you know what we had?" I said "No...still don't know" "Well we have a boy and a girl" he said. I cried. It was so wonderful, that moment of looking at them and finding out that I had a son and a daughter.

I didn't find out with my second pregnancy either. I again had to go under general anesthesia. When I woke up, they told me that I had a BIG healthy baby boy.

I just found the moment so magical!! I highly recommend it!!

 

We haven't decided yet. But we are leaning toward finding out, kind of feel twins were surprise enough!!!! We also have 2 other children (girls) and didn't find out with them. It was so great not knowing, but I'm not sure this time around. I also think it may help our 3 1/2 year old deal with it better if we can prepare her and use names to talk about the new babies. Lastly it seems like we will have so many ultrasounds with this pregnancy that it will be difficult not to find out. Good luck on whatever you decide!!!!!

 

I haven't had my twins yet but I didn't find out their gender. It's been hard not knowing but I know it will be worth the surprise. I didn't find out with my son or daughter either. I made a guess list for my family and my husband's family. It's just a word document that has Baby A: sex, weight, length, birth time, birth date..and the same for Baby B. Everyone had a great time guessing. It might be something fun for you to do if you decide not to find out.

 

me and my husband can't wait and i want to know what i can buy lol

 

We're not finding out .... this is a gift to my husband from me! I told him when I got PG, that this time would be a surprise. He would much rather be surprised. It's killing me ... mainly because we are having so many u/s.
All my friends are flipping out that we're keeping it a surprise. We're also going to keep the names a secret as well.
I told my friends I would just stop by Gymboree on the way home for clothes!!

 

oh Gosh Lisa.. I just can't do it.. I think the surprise would be so much fun but I have no patients.. I am already dying to know what they are.

 

I really had not planned on finding out with ojur 2nd (who happened to be the twins) BUT after that BIG news, I felt I needed to know to get a head start on shopping.

 

I have such respect for those of you who choose to wait- I just don't have that kind of patience. I'm like a kid at Christmas- I've got this great gift, all wrapped up and why should I wait til Christmas morning to find out what it is if I don't have to? Plus, my twin pregnancy was full of surprises- from finding out I was having twins to when we found out they were boys- I still had that element of surprise, it was just on an ultrasound table and not an operating table. Good luck!

 

Just wanted to add, my whole family is like this.

My parents have 16 grandchildren and the 17th is due in April. Only once in all those kids (my twins are the only twins), did someone find out the gender of their child. It was my older brother, it was his fourth child, and his wife was having a lot of issues with her pregnancy (GD, seizures, etc), so they found out.

It drives some of my friends crazy!!

 

i seriously think i would go crazy if i didnt find out :lol: i feel more calm and prepared now but thats my personalitiy im not one for all green or yellow things as soon as DH makes the nursery then i can begin to decorate and im excited like anything to add some girly touches!

 

With my first two children I waited to find out what they were. It was a wonderful feeling when they told me their genders. With my last DD, I found out ahead of time because I had divorced my ex and was doing it on my own. I felt like I needed to be prepared since I would be paying for everything by myself. With the twins, I want to know ahead of time for basically the same reasons. We already have 4 children and I feel financially that we would be better off, buying a little here and there as we go than buying it once they get here. If it had been just one, I would have waited. My DH says that he doesn't count on anything until they are here and he sees them. I personally have a little more faith, especially since I am having an u/s every month. If you can hold out to find out what they are... I definately recommend it. It is such a great surprise... like Christmas, birthday, and everyother special occasion wrapped into one!

 

QUOTE(Twins08 @ Jan 25 2008, 02:43 PM) [snapback]588974[/snapback]
I'm 11 weeks preggo with twins. I'm not wanting to find out the genders, but am wondering if it's really worth the long wait to find out what they are at birth? I have 4 other children and always found out. I would like to have a surprise this time, but is it really worth it to wait until birth?

TIA!


We waited to find out. With 4 other kids, you must have enough clothes and gear for either sex so why not wait? I loved not knowing. There are so few real surprises left in life. That's just me though.

 

[SIZE=12pt]OoOOO goodness no we didn’t wait at all. Well technically speaking we didn’t. DS was spread eagle at our first peek at 18 weeks. But DD stubborn little princess she is had her legs closed until 24 weeks. And mind you from 17-28 weeks I had a scan every other week. It seemed forever to know! I loved to be able to shop in gender specific colors and coordinate girl/boy colors. We had tons of fun decorating too! [/SIZE]

 

I really respect those of you who could wait and make it a surprise. I wish I had your patience. I just couldn't do it. My husband and I can't even wait for Christmas to open our presents (every year we end up having them all opened before Christmas eve). I don't know what we will do when Jackson and Claire get here. I guess we will have to learn to be more patient.

 

We found at at 20 wk u/s that one was a boy. But for ALL of the u/s the other one refused to show itself. So we had a surprise. Which was cool. When she was born, dh looked and thought it was a boy, cause its was swollen down there, he took a second look and saw we had a beautiful girl. I loved being surprised.

 

I just the names of your little ones which made me giggle, we are naming ours Jack and Lila


QUOTE(LISA257 @ Jan 25 2008, 12:19 PM) [snapback]589399[/snapback]
We waited to find out. With 4 other kids, you must have enough clothes and gear for either sex so why not wait? I loved not knowing. There are so few real surprises left in life. That's just me though.

 

We didn't find out! We wanted to be surprised!

I would have bet money that I was having 2 girls. Obviously I was wrong!

It was such a great moment finding out what the babies were. Katherine arrived first and was screaming at the top of her lungs. Michael came along 2 minutes later (c-section). I actually couldn't hear my OB announce that Michael was a boy because Katherine was screaming SO LOUD. So I looked over at DH and I could tell he was a boy by the look in my DH's eyes. I'll never forget the look in his eyes! I'm getting all weepy just thinking about it.

 

We didn't find out and everytime I brought double yellow I kicked myself. I could have saved a fortune finding out and the surprise is there when you are surprised at the ultasound or delivery! I had it both ways and there's no difference!

 

We are waiting. There are so few surprises left in life anymore. These are my husbands first and probably last children so it will be great to have them come out and hear the announcement of what they are. I found out with my other two and am really excited to wait. It is hard at times, but there are so many clothes that are gender neutral that it doesn't matter. We have bought a few things for them to wear and figure that they can have gender specific clothes either after they get home or DH can go out and get something for them to come home in. The babies will be sleeping in our room in the beginning so decorating the nursery is not a priority. Even if it were, everything could be done except the bedding or accent color. Good luck with your decision.

 

We knew from the first we would wait. The conception and pregnancy was so high-tech, we just wanted one thing the old-fashioned way. I'll never forget hearing my husband say "It's a girl! And it's another girl!" :wub:

 

I want to say we did wait and all of our friends and family were going crazy, but when they said: 'it's a boy!' and one minute later 'its a girl!' It was just the best feeling in the world! There is no other surprise you will have in your life that is quite as special as this. We are not going to find out with our new little one on the way either...there is nothing better! I highly, highly recommend waiting because the surprise is well worth the wait!