Anyone ever get depressed??

I felt like I was a good mother to 1 child but feel like I fail terribely (sp) at being a mom to 3. I am so overwhelmed with the Twins I just don't feel like I pay enough attention to my 6yr old and the attention I do give him is "Not Now I'm feeding the babies" Tonight I told my 6yr old after we cleaned his room I would fix him something to eat (he was in a mood to clean it and so was I, I thought we better do it then) My sister came out right after that and I went to take a bath (my hubby is out of town I needed to take a bath before she left or I wouldn't get one today ) My son told my sister that he had asked me to fix him something But I never did ....She warmed him some pizza.

Hubby and I have not been getting along at all...I feel like everything in this house is my responsiblity and I can't keep up. I don't ask hubby to do much cause he works, But then when something goes undone or wrong he blames me He won't go anywhere with us I don't take the kids out much by myself and when I do he helps me load them up at the house and then I'm usually going to a function where there will be some of my family there to help me with them. We have went 2 places as a family since the babies have come along. He has yet to take all 3 anywhere by him self or even to one of his relatives alone.

Now the holidays are coming up and I think that is depressing me even more. Sorry to dump this on yall.....I was just wondering if anyone else gets the Blues.

 

I felt like I was a good mother to 1 child but feel like I fail terribely (sp) at being a mom to 3. I am so overwhelmed with the Twins I just don't feel like I pay enough attention to my 6yr old and the attention I do give him is "Not Now I'm feeding the babies" Tonight I told my 6yr old after we cleaned his room I would fix him something to eat (he was in a mood to clean it and so was I, I thought we better do it then) My sister came out right after that and I went to take a bath (my hubby is out of town I needed to take a bath before she left or I wouldn't get one today ) My son told my sister that he had asked me to fix him something But I never did ....She warmed him some pizza.

Hubby and I have not been getting along at all...I feel like everything in this house is my responsiblity and I can't keep up. I don't ask hubby to do much cause he works, But then when something goes undone or wrong he blames me He won't go anywhere with us I don't take the kids out much by myself and when I do he helps me load them up at the house and then I'm usually going to a function where there will be some of my family there to help me with them. We have went 2 places as a family since the babies have come along. He has yet to take all 3 anywhere by him self or even to one of his relatives alone.

Now the holidays are coming up and I think that is depressing me even more. Sorry to dump this on yall.....I was just wondering if anyone else gets the Blues.

 

You’re not alone! I get depressed when I feel like I can’t get it all done in the time I’m given. There aren’t enough hours in the day, and I only have the twins. I always feel guilty that I’m spending too little time with one or the other twin. I told my DH this weekend that I wanted to hire a housecleaner to come twice a month because we both work all week and I feel like all I do on the weekend is clean! I want to sit and hold my babies and love on them. Hang in there. You’re doing a great job. Maybe slip your six year old a note that reminds him how much you love him so he feels special. Just a thought.

 

Oh yes, and it depends 100% on how me and my DH are getting along. I can deal with so much more when he is being supportive - helpful is great too! Sorry you feeling so bad. I'm sure you are doing a great job. I only have the twins, and have no idea how you all with other kids manage! Just the pregnancy with the twins would have been impossible if I had others to be responsible for - let alone trying to raise them! I hope things start to look up for you. I feel like things get a little easier the older they get??? (and they are just gonna keep getting older Hang in there. Stephanie

 

I feel the same way. I feel like my two older kids are ignored. I feel like the babies don't get enough time each (one is held all the time since she will latch on and nurse, while the other isn't held anywhere near as much.)

Holidays don't help either!

Angel

 

CG

I'm really sorry you are having a hard time!! It's tough!! I think the 3 thing is much harder in terms of getting out of the house!!

As for your husband working....what do you think YOU are doing all day AND ALL NIGHT LONG? You work too. It's time to talk to him and ask for help! There have to be ways for him to pitch in.

My hubby got a lot more involved when they became little people vs. little feeding and pooping machines. I hope he steps up more!!

 

You're definitely not alone. I agree 100% with PP.....You're working, too!! Time for hubby to get his you-know-whats to the wall and HELP. I just recently had a really hard time with getting depressed/anxiety and the ladies here really helped me get the courage to talk to my dr about it.

You have a LOT on your plate right now! I only have my 2 twins and I feel like I'm running all the time! Don't feel too bad about the dinner thing for your son....if you can, just talk to him & let him know that Mommy's having a hard time right now because she's just really, really tired but she still loves you!

 

Thanks Yall .....

I agree it helps so much when he is being supportive, helpful AND Nice I think I am going to ask him to take over mopping and vacumming I think I can keep the rest pretty well done up I just can't seem to get these floors clean (and the babies are starting to crawl) I feel like they get SO dirty in the floor.

Our 6 yr old is such a good kid...He really LOVES his little brother and sister. I told him tonight (he was taxing my patience ) that I had alot on me and I really do Love him and I don't mean to be ILL with him so much. Maybe It helped his feelings I sure hope so.

Thanks again and I hate it that there are others that get depressed too but I'm glad I'm not the only one...It makes me feel guilty cause I have so much to be thankful for 3 healthy, beautiful, great and sweet kids. I should be have an abundance of JOY...

As Joel Olsteen would say I'm letting things get in the way and "Steal my Joy"