Anyone else?

I cant believe how cranky my daughters are!! They are 3 weeks away from turning one, and every little thing causes them to have huge tantrums!! I mean HUGE!!! Dont get me wrong, sometimes they are content, but most of the time they are unhappy. They have been this way since birth. I thought it was getting better, but its not. If I so much as stand up to go to the kitchen to make bottles they just loooooose it!!! Im sure part of it is that I am a single parent and they feel like there just isnt enough of me to go around. Everyone I know who has kids, has these wonderful little people who will just sit and play, if you set them in their crib they will just play....????OMG mine are nothing like that!!! NOTHING!!! Always wimpering, always whining... I am a super patient and calm parent, I give them TONS of love during our days and I feel like no matter how hard I try its just not enough!! Does anyone else out there have this problem?
Thanks for listening to me vent.

 

I'm sorry I can't offer anything to share, but I just wanted to give you a :hug99:

Sorry you are having such a hard time - you are being a great Mom!! I hope it gets easier for you.

 

I don't know how my twins are going to be yet but my son is the same way. My husband always thinks there is something wrong with him cause he blows up over the littlest things. I feel like he whines 99% of the day & he has been like this since birth. I just switched him to soymilk & he seems soooo much happier, maybe he has been having problems with his stomach this whole time. I am so scared to have these twins for fear that they will be like their brother, how can I possible deal with 3 of them?

I cannot imagine having to do it as a single mother, you're pretty amazing to say the least. I swear by the time my DH comes home at night I'm almost ready to kill my DS (not literally). I think some people just get lucky that their kids are so calm & content, I'm just not one of them. I try to just focus on all of his good qualities during the day & not dwell on his bad one's, although sometimes it's really tough.

I'm sure it will get better for you, keep up all the hard work it'll pay off in the end (it has to right?) :umm:

 

My girls are like that too. :hug99: I find that when they are going through a developmental spurt, it seems to get worse. My girls are getting better at communicating and I have to say the whining is still there, but it's better. :hug99: I feel your frustration!!

 

My dd went through a phase around that age where she only wanted me and had seperation anxiety issues-it is rough! Even still my dd is not one of those kids content to just hang out and entertain herself-very needy! So I am with you and she is 3!
I admire you being a single mom with twins! You deserve a medal

 

My dd, Lily, is sort of like that. She is really happy most of the time but she goes from 0-60 in two seconds and gets upset very quickly at the littlest thing. She screams bloody murder when put down for naps, being changed, or in the car. She is also doing that thing where she cries or whines if I leave her side. My LIly and Jack are 10 months and I definitly notice the separation anxiety thing. The thing that saves me is that they LOVE to play together and that keeps them happy.

I know it is hard, you are an amazing woman to do this by yourself. I don't think I would be able to do it!

 

No advice, just sending you hugs. Sounds like you are doing all you can.

Dianna

 

:hug99: :hug99: :hug99: Mine are a little younger than yours, but we're going through a similar phase. Braxton wants so badly to be crawling (on hands and knees) and he's almost there but he gets SO frustrated and if it happens early in the day, then the remainder of it is just shot to he!!. He'll whine every few minutes throughout the rest of the day for seemingly no apparent reason. Sometimes the whining is worse than crying! I joke around and beg them to "please just let it out already!" :icon_eek: I hope this gets better for you. And you are INCREDIBLE For handling twins on your own. :bow2:

 

:hug99: I feel your pain. Especially leaving the room for a sec to get bottle. OMGosh.. the neighbors must think I'm torturing this girls because they stand at the gate and WAIL! I stay calm and say "mommy will be right back." and then continue to talk to them while I'm gone and out of their sight for a microsecond.

One thing I've found is if I stay out of sight they get over it and go play (some times). Then if I kind of hang back they are ok with being alone together (in a baby proofed room). I may peek in on them (our house is very open so its not like I can't hear or see them), but the moment i go back into the room they start whining and vying for my attention. These are the days I pack them up in the car for a drive or in the stroller for a walk. I think they get bored sometimes. GL and hang in there. I hope as Michelle suggested, things get back the more they can communicate.

 

First of all - kudos to you, single mom! I have SO much admiration for those of you who manage alone! And - i could have written leighann's post; esp at the age yours are (mine are a month older), they started NEEDING Mama ALL THE TIME. I try to keep out of sight and they usually manage to distract themselves but sometimes they just cling to the edges of the playyard and look pathetic while whining and trying to break out of prison.

If they won't relax I will go in there and play with them (I spend time with them of course but also think it's very important for them to play independently and with each other).....often if I am able to re-direct them they will get caught up in something.

But - sometimes it's just a huge whine-fest around here. I've gotten better at ignoring it if i have to do something like, say, empty a pot of boiling pasta so i can't hold them or have them underfoot in the kitchen. I know the pitch of their cries and which is protest, which is whine, which is really 'I need you, mama!"

Hang in there!