Anyone else worry about this with twins?

I am so worried that next time I go to the doctor for a scan, one of my twins will be gone. It is an irrational fear. They are both healthy, measuring right where they should be, and had good heartbeats (163 and 175 at 9 weeks). So, am I the only one who worries about this? I just want them to be healthy and safe. I worry about one of them just....disappearing. Anyone else? And any words of comfort so I'll stop worrying so much about this? Thanks!

 

Hi! And welcome to TS!!

I think that it is perfectly normal to worry, just try to focus on the things that you can control, and not so much on the things that you can't. Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, eating enough, and getting enough rest. :hug99: It sounds like you have two healthy babies growing in there!

I encourage you to join our Big Sister program here at TS. We will match you up with a mom of twins. It is a great way to get some extra support and meet a new friend that has/is going through the same things that you are! Click on the link at the bottom of my signature for more info!

 

i did that for a very the first trimester. still worry about that them, actually.

 

I was the exact same way until I had another u/s at 12 weeks. Then the worrying (about that at least) went away completely.

I have been pretty much worry-free for 2 weeks now...although I'm sure I'll figure out something else to worry about in no time.

I think that stats for vanishing twins after 9 weeks are extremely low and really nothing to worry about but I know how you feel and it's really hard not to worry. Any idea when you'll have your next u/s?

 

QUOTE(caryanne07 @ Jun 1 2007, 11:24 AM) [snapback]275655[/snapback]
I was the exact same way until I had another u/s at 12 weeks. Then the worrying (about that at least) went away completely.

I have been pretty much worry-free for 2 weeks now...although I'm sure I'll figure out something else to worry about in no time.

I think that stats for vanishing twins after 9 weeks are extremely low and really nothing to worry about but I know how you feel and it's really hard not to worry. Any idea when you'll have your next u/s?

 

My next ultrasound is not until June 21st. I am relieved to hear that the frequency drops after 9 weeks. I will be 12 weeks next Saturday, so hopefully all is well with my sweet babies.

 

I worry all the time too. ALthough lately a little less since I can feel them moving. I know there has to be two in there with what I am feeling. I have an u/s on Monday and am looking forward to that for the reason you are talking about. I just want to see them both!

 

I worried every single time, I had such anxiety before my appointments sometimes I felt like I was going to pass out. I was having u/s every 2 weeks starting 14 weeks and every week after 20 weeks. I had a lot of complications though. If your pregnancy is going smoothly, try not to worry and good luck!

 

I worry about that all the time. I feel tremendous relief when I see both their hearts beating away on an u/s. I don't know when that fear will go away, soon, I hope, because I hate being so worried all the time! Good luck and contratulations on your twins!!

 

I know your fear too! I discovered twins at 11 weeks and my next sonogram wasn't until week 18. The night before the u/s I couldn't sleep because I was terrified that one of them would be gone. Even though finding out we were having two was a shock, I couldn't bear the thought of losing one. Fortunately both were still there and they were so stinking cute!

 

QUOTE(jesstheca @ Jun 1 2007, 12:40 PM) [snapback]275787[/snapback]
I know your fear too! I discovered twins at 11 weeks and my next sonogram wasn't until week 18. The night before the u/s I couldn't sleep because I was terrified that one of them would be gone. Even though finding out we were having two was a shock, I couldn't bear the thought of losing one. Fortunately both were still there and they were so stinking cute!

 

That's exactly how I feel! We were shocked, too, but very happy when we found out there were two in there. Now that I know, I would be devastated if something happened to one of them. Is there a certain time when the worry is less? I'll be 12 weeks next Saturday. I know 12 weeks is the rule of thumb for decreasing chances of miscarriage in a single pregnancy, but what about twins? Is it the same?

 

I think it's just normal....i was the same way at first....until i found something else to worry about....once they started moving it really helped calm those fears, though....

i'm actually still worrying (though actually a lot less, to be honest)--i get these strange, irrational thoughts when i'm up at night, and then can't get rid of them.... but i won't tell you what they're about because then you'll start worrying about that too!!

hang in there, it gets better....focus on what you can do and try to let go of the rest.....but i know it's SO HARD!

sandra

 

Hi, I was this way too, after my last scan at 16 weeks I felt a lot better. It's very normal so try not to stress about it. Your mind is just playing tricks on you!! Good luck.

 

I was the same way. I was a wreck until each appointment & I heard each heartbeat. I started to feel more secure after the first trimester. Hang in there, you're not alone. :hug99:

 

Of course. :hug99: I even worried about that with my singleton. You just want them to be healthy and safe and it's hard to know that they are when you have to wait for u/s to find out.

 

I was the same way...I still worry...and i think I will until I am holding both bundles of joy!!!

 

I think this is perfectly normal. I am 15 weeks and I worry every time I go to the doctor's office! I don't worry about one not being there as much anymore, I have heard that this risk drops after 12 weeks. Once I get to the doctor and they say things look good then I feel a lot better... Good luck in your pregnancy!

 

I just wanted to chime in that this was one of my fears early on. I lost my dd's twin at 6 weeks due to VTS, so when I found out I was pg again with twins, I really worried I would go in and one would be gone, infact this last u/s I had at 16 weeks I didnt look at the screen at first cause i just didnt want to see only 1 baby. Both of mine are healthy and happy so its a huge relief to see that. I think your past one of the biggest hurdles. I think most Vanishing twins are lost before 8 weeks. And both of oyurs have nice strong hb...try to relax and enjoy your babies...CONGRATS btw..

 

QUOTE(JVC0625 @ Jun 1 2007, 02:12 PM) [snapback]275474[/snapback]
I am so worried that next time I go to the doctor for a scan, one of my twins will be gone. It is an irrational fear. They are both healthy, measuring right where they should be, and had good heartbeats (163 and 175 at 9 weeks). So, am I the only one who worries about this? I just want them to be healthy and safe. I worry about one of them just....disappearing. Anyone else? And any words of comfort so I'll stop worrying so much about this? Thanks!


I worried too, but the further along I was the more confident I became - especially once I was in the second trimester. Have faith

 

I think it's natural to worry,but try to worry less & enjoy being pregnant more.I loved being pregnant with my first set of twins.We were shocked at first of course,but we talked to the boys all the time,played music for them.Changed the music in the car to whatever they seemed to like.We shared their growth with our work family,and our own family.We just really enjoyed that time.Life changes so much after their born,and time is more sparse & precious.
With this twin pregnancy,we are more stressed financially,and we are dealing with a coming Teen age boy,and our boys have lead poisoning,so we're always watching them and checking them,and so far this pregnancy I've had to work at being happy & excited.I feel bad about that & we worried about health alot more with this one,these twins had a rather big discordance for some time,but luckily htey have evened out.I was able to enjoy being preggars more at work as my work family is in awe of us,and very excited we're getting a girl this time. Worries do tend to fade as you get further along,and once you feel their movements,you are just in love! Congrats,and I hope your worries fade soon so you can enjoy the months ahead.xxx
Donna E :hug99:

 

I still worry about this and it seems to get worse the closer my appt gets. then I think, well surely there would be signs and symptoms of a lost twins being that i am in my second tri....Please someone tell me that this is right.

 

QUOTE(JVC0625 @ Jun 1 2007, 02:08 PM) [snapback]275830[/snapback]
That's exactly how I feel! We were shocked, too, but very happy when we found out there were two in there. Now that I know, I would be devastated if something happened to one of them. Is there a certain time when the worry is less? I'll be 12 weeks next Saturday. I know 12 weeks is the rule of thumb for decreasing chances of miscarriage in a single pregnancy, but what about twins? Is it the same?


My doctor told me that the risk of miscarriage goes down steadily after the 8th week. I believe she said the risk went down to 5% at 10 weeks?? She has delivered tons of twins so that reassured me. Although I still worry. I have an ultrasound this Tuesday & I can't wait!!

 

I don't think I'll stop worrying until they are born at a viable age! I think it's perfectly normal to worry. Good luck!
Jennie

 

Oh gosh, I was such a worrier, too. While I didn't particularly worry about one of them disapearing, I was obsessed with making sure they were measuring ok, looked healthy, fluid levels were right etc. You know, worried about just about everything you can't control!

I think it's probably very normal to feel fearful...I know I did, but it subsided with me and I actually began to enjoy them more than being scared.

Good luck and congratulations!!!