Anyone else with "mommy guilt"

Okay - mommy guilt has reached a new level with me!!

I actually purchased the party supplies for ds 2nd birthday (I mean DS1 )

Doesn't sound bad to you?


His birthday isn't until the end of October!

The twins are due Oct. 11, but will be here by Sept 28 (doc won't let me go past 38 weeks). I wanted to make sure we didn't get so caught up with the babies that we ended up neglecting to give ds a birthday party that he in fact, won't even remember! But, to ease my "mommy guilt" I got the supplies and such. Even assigned dh his "task" - since he will have to play host.


Good grief Charlie Brown!

Please keep me away from pony farms - I may end up feeling guilty and buy ds an entire herd!!!!

 

I think you are a very prepared and organized mommy! Who has nothing to feel guilty about! I was worried about having enough love to go around, but each time you have a baby or babies your love multiplies!! Way to go on thinking ahead mom!

 

Personally I think that's a great idea... you will be well prepared and glad later on that you did. I remember crying my eyes out during my last two months pg wtih the twins b/c I felt sooo guilty. I wasn't sad over having the twins...just sad over what I felt my dd was losing. But she didn't notice much and didn't mind...and she loves her little brother and sister to pieces now.

 

Im doign the same thign for christmas. Im already out buying and trying to wrap. The second set is due christmas eve more then likely scheduled c section second week of december. But im not going to feel up to a huge christmas with the surgeries and newborns and all so im trying to buy as much as i can spare for them on christmas. Its horrible really, i need to start buying for the birthday too since i wont be bk to work and its right after christmas.


Wow yep see what ya mean!

 

I have it in general and broke down on Thursday morning to DH crying. DD has just gotten back home after being at the lake for 5 days and I had only gotten 1.5 hrs of sleep that night. I felt horrible that I was too tired to do anything. It is just hard cause we usually take her to the zoo, Cedar Point, etc.... I can't do any of it. We do play with her in the pool, and play games with her, watch movies together (you know you need a life when you watch Little Mermaid and are laughing at Sebastian). I want to take her to the park but it is super hot right now so it may have to wait til next week when it is cooler and I can tolerate the weather. I also want to take her to see the Disney movie (not going to attempt to spell it).

For DD's bday in June, I asked my aunt if she would hold her party b/c I didn't know if something was going to come up with me. Luckily all was well and we had a nice party there...she was more than happy to do it, and I got her a GC for having it.

I worry that I will make it to my "I think" scheduled c-section. It is the first day of school for DD....feeling guilty about it.

April

 

My Mommy guilt is growing also. DD's Bday is beg of oct and twins are going to be born no later then 9/3 (39 weeks) My parents are going to watch my 4-6 week old twins while we take DD to Disney Land.. We already planned it.. I hope there are no problems with the babies!!!

 

Yep, I have it here too and my oldest is 6.5 years old. I think it's something that is just unavoidable with being a Mom. Unfortunately us Moms try to take on too much and always feel guilty if we can't do it all or make everyone happy.

I feel guilty because it's not easy to get out and do things with having two 17 month olds that run in opposite directions. I just keep telling myself that next summer will be easier to do thing together.

But it is a great idea to get all of that organized now, great thinking!!

 

Yes yes yes yes. I know exactly how you feel - my son will be 2 on Oct 2nd and in theory these babes will be here no later than 9/11 which is 38 weeks. He is such a mama's boy that I am equal parts scared that A) he will have a fit when these babies are born and he can't be with me all the time or B) he won't even care, will just cease to be my baby and will only want his dad. Not sure which one would be worse - probably A for him and B for me

Anyway, I think you are ingenious for being prepared for his birthday party in advance. I wouldn't call that Mommy's guilt - I think it shows how aware you are going to be of your sons feelings when these babies come which should make it a lot easier for him to adjust since you can react to his needs.

Good luck staying away from the horse farm :rotflmbo:

 

Yes guilt. But we just had my son's 3rd birthday party this weekend and his birthday isn't for another month. It wasn't a big party or anything wild, but I just wanted him to have his special day. The babies are due Sept 13th (40 weeks), but with the way this pregnancy has been going they could come anytime in the 6 weeks.
It was great, we had family and cake and bbq and he knew it was all about him.