Anyone else here with daddy's girls?

I'm kind of having a bad day so maybe this is bothering more than usual. But I have "daddy's girls". They always prefer him over me. I give them plenty of affection, I am the one who gives them baths, does bedtime, takes them places, plays with them on the floor, runs into their room to comfort them in the night when they wake up crying, etc. But I am also the one who makes and enforces the rules. I don't let them have everything and do anything they want. That's the difference I guess, DH lets them get away with everything, always gives them what they want, etc.

It's not fair. I'm bummed, but what can I do?

 

Yep. All but one of my four prefer their dad. It's okay. I know they love me, but I'm here all the time and daddy isn't. Somedays, I hate it. There are days when they make me crazy and I like to tell dh when he gets home, "I'm done. They want you." He's the type that eats it up. Natalie tends to favor me over him on occasion, but she's the only one that has been that way. My oldest occasionally wants me but she's a pre-teen and that's more of a not wanting to be embarassed thing for her.

 

Hugs - I had a really hard time with this when my older DD was born. Daddy's girl through and through. When I brought it up to my Ped, he said that she felt so bonded to me that she could be free to be separate from me and bond with her dad. He said it's a very healthy thing. When the twins came along, the same thing happened. Older DD and I have an amazing bond - she's still a daddy's girl but I'm totally OK with it now.

 

Yep, that's how it is here too! I do everything with them during the day and that does include the "law enforcement". <_< Then when Daddy comes home, they forget I exist! :huh: I used to take it alot more personal, and there are days I handle it worse then others. :blush: I think alot has to do with me being the meanie and daddy isn't around enough to do it. ardon: Maybe they get bored of me?? Who knows, but I do try and remember that I KNOW they love me and that they know they have limited time with Dad so they want to smother him?

No suggestions, just wanted you to know you aren't alone. :hug:

 

I have the opposite - Abby is my mommy's girl and Ian is my daddy's boy!

 

Im the other way round they always come to me or their granny and not dad. I can see in his eyes how much it hurts him but he doesnt let on as you know he is a man and men dont let on about these things lol!! ICould it just be a phase they are going through? Hope it gets better for you x

 

Lily is a mommas girl but Jack is a daddy's boy. I am with them all day and sometimes I just must disappear to Jack when Daddy comes home. It does bother me sometimes but I do feel lucky that Lily tends to cling to me. I often think that we are lucky we have two because we would probably fight over one.

Anyway, I do feel the same way when Jack runs to daddy every night. I think it is just that they see us all day and they are probably a little sick of us come nighttime!

 

One of mine is DS2's girl. It's really kind of cute how she adores him. She's softened even his cynical teenaged heart. :wub:

 

I've had daddy's girls from the time they were in the NICU. It seemed like they always did better when he fed them. It was so hard. Now it is a little better. Being the one that is home, I'm the one that gets to see most of the 'firsts' that DH sometimes has to miss. Yes, they bolt right to him when he walks in the door, but I try not to take it personally.

 

I had 2 momma's boys for the longest time. It is only recently that they are choosing DH over me. And although I miss fixing all the boo-boos with a hug and a kiss, I am also ENJOYING the break. I also LOVE seeing the elation on DH's face when they choose him over me. So I am OK with this, but it is only a recent development in our house. I may be singing a different tune in a couple of months...

 

Mine are both mama's boys BIG TIME and right now it's REALLY bad...they are SO clingy to me. They do get excited when DH comes home and they will give him attention for a bit but then they are always back to mama. I'm sure things will change at some point but to be honest, right now it's tough, I almost wish they weren't so clingy to me.

 

I seem to have one of each.