Anyone else feeling this way?

Hi All,

I am in the last week of my second trimester and I swear I'm feeling more emotional than ever. I'm just so sensitive to people's remarks on pregnancy, twin pregnancy, life after giving birth etc. I know many people mean to be friendly and are trying to relate to what I'm going through being pg, but it's driving me nuts!!! There's too many opinions and I feel bombarded with them EVERYDAY. Has anyone considered it's not helpful to say having twins and caring for them is "crazy." I hear that a little too often. I am grateful to be having them and will manage just fine. But, Boy it's getting hard to be gracious in my responses. I think I need to take a little mental health break from visiting with people. I also find it difficult to be around other emotional people. Stong emotions are a bit much for me right now. Anyway, anyone else feeling this way?

 

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Hi All,

I am in the last week of my second trimester and I swear I'm feeling more emotional than ever. I'm just so sensitive to people's remarks on pregnancy, twin pregnancy, life after giving birth etc. I know many people mean to be friendly and are trying to relate to what I'm going through being pg, but it's driving me nuts!!! There's too many opinions and I feel bombarded with them EVERYDAY. Has anyone considered it's not helpful to say having twins and caring for them is "crazy." I hear that a little too often. I am grateful to be having them and will manage just fine. But, Boy it's getting hard to be gracious in my responses. I think I need to take a little mental health break from visiting with people. I also find it difficult to be around other emotional people. Stong emotions are a bit much for me right now. Anyway, anyone else feeling this way?


I'm feeling the exact same way (I'm only a week behind you) and it does overwhelm me at times. Sometimes I plain just overwhelm myself when I think of raising 2 little boys mostly on my own. This is my first pregnancy and I'm totally freaked out about how my relationship with my husband will change. I truly do enjoy it just being the 2 of us. I'm really scared of how this will affect us.

And you're right. I know people mean well but their comments really don't help. I had a complete meltdown the other night but you know what helps me? I come on here and read the posts when someone's babies have arrived and look at the photos they posted. It makes me so excited when I see their little babies and I just can't wait to meet mine. It really is the best thing for me when I'm feeling that way.

 

I have found that since my pregnancy I am more sensitive about anything. It's totally normal.

People just don't always say the nicest things. Sometimes they don't realize what they are saying isn't very nice or helpful, but they say it anyway. People should really think before they speak. You will find this a lot and even more so after your twins are here.

 

Sorry you are feeling this way! I have been bursting into tears at the most inopportune moments (at dinner in a nice restaurant last night) just because I get disappointed or sad or a little upset about something. At home too, my DH and DD will see me crying and ask if I'm okay, if I say yes they just skirt around me with this confused look on their faces. Once I cried for 2 hours straight and I don't remember why!!! I'm talking big sobbing cries! It's unbelievable! I hope it gets better when the babies get here! I think we'll probably be normal again in about 20 years!!!

 

I am certainly more emotional, I think the lack of good sleep adds to it. People don't realize what they say hurts. I have a hard time because everyone perceives me as very put together. I add to this be having very high self expectations. Trouble is I feel alone in trying to live up to it all. DH has had a few nights of tears which he tries to comfort me through. I think (hope) the feeling alone is normal and having doubts. Somedays I can smile at a stupid comments, other days I just walk away and cry in my office. I find here to be my greatest comfort because I see I am not alone. Hang in there and post it out.

 

I am emotional all the time! Whenever I think of what it's going to be like when the babies are finally here, I tear up. I tear up watching TV, I tear up when certain songs come on the radio, there's just no telling what will trigger it! I have been lucky that for the most part people have been nice when hearing I have twins - lately.

It's like people just don't understand that if something is rude to say to a woman that is having 1 baby, it is rude to say to a woman having twins. Would you ask someone pregnant with 1 baby if she was happy when she found out? Would you tell her "I'm glad it's you and not me" ? Of course not!

 

I've noticed that I've been a lot much more emotional lately. I'm hoping I'll feel better in three weeks when I'm not working anymore because I won't be as tired. I especially get irritated at people at work for stupid little things that I wouldn't normally even notice.

I actually got angry this morning because the elevator took so long and I was really uncomfortable standing and waiting for it...I started to think about all the lazy people who refused to take the stairs and it made me angry! How crazy!

 

"It's like people just don't understand that if something is rude to say to a woman that is having 1 baby, it is rude to say to a woman having twins. Would you ask someone pregnant with 1 baby if she was happy when she found out? Would you tell her "I'm glad it's you and not me" ? Of course not!"
[AimeeThomp quote]

Exactly, amen Aimee!!