Anyone Else Feel the Guilt?

I still feel guilty that I am not spending enough time with them. Are they getting enough attention, one-on-one time, etc.? I suppose all twin moms go through this... Right? Seems like they are always in their Superyard or Jumperoos. Like little caged animals Ugggghhh! I hate this.

 

I still feel guilty that I am not spending enough time with them. Are they getting enough attention, one-on-one time, etc.? I suppose all twin moms go through this... Right? Seems like they are always in their Superyard or Jumperoos. Like little caged animals Ugggghhh! I hate this.

 

I remember feeling that way...especially since I had two singletons that got primo attention. I cured my guilt by thinking I am doing the best I can with the best intentions. It is not possible for them to not share time unless one is asleep or not here. They are gaining great things such as patience and sibling bonding and will hopefully be well rounded because it wasn't "just me" all the time.

I look at the positives and throw away the neg. It takes enough energy to take care of the two without sabotaging myself with things I cannot change. Oh and when is asleep or I take just one to the store...it's awesome. They love it and feel so special.


Lana
Mom to Joshua and Rachel
15 mo

 

I totally feel the same way! There's so much to do for them (and the rest of the family) that there's so little quality time to spend with them. I hope it does get better.

 

Yes! I feel the same way! One of my boys has to be held pretty much all the time. He is SO fussy. I feel guilty because my other boy doesn't get as much attention and neither does my 4 year old DD

 

Yes, I feel guilty about it and I also feel guilty that my 6 year old doesn't get a lot of attention now either. I am always telling her to hold on I have to do this for the babies. But like PP said, I feel I am doing the best that I can and there is really nothing else I can do. I feel like they will in some ways be better off because they won't expect everything right away since they have to share me.

 

I know exactly what you are saying! I feel like if they are awake I should be playing with them! thing is - they are awake at different times thus there is always a baby awake! Plus, we have the four year old and the six year old!

Angel