anybody get pregnant soon after having your twins?

dh brought up trying for another baby NOW. lol he said to go off the BC if i want and we can try. i was excited to hear him say it cuz he's been saying he didnt want anymore but i think hes finally seeing how fun they can be. at the same time the thought of dealing with two 1 1/2 y/os and an infant alone (dh deploys around sept 2009) is scary, but then again exciting lol. would you do it?

 

I have to say, I wouldn't have a baby that close in age to my twins -we waited until our DS was almost 3 before getting pregnant, but that is just us - more power to those mommas and daddies that decide to do so! Many people really, really love having their kids close in age - so if you and your DH are on board - go for it! And I've heard that a singleton after twins seems like a breeze!

 

Me personally, I would not try to get pregnant with 7 month olds, but that is just me. There are plenty on here who will and do. But for me, once they got mobile, having twins was and is still a whole different ballgame. GL with your decision.

 

good points! we originally wanted to try again once they were heading into kindergarton..thats about 4 years away! thanks for the help

 

Hey, it's crazy, but you only live once!

We have five, but three of them are 2 or under. For us, it's definitely been way crazy. . . but do-able.

I'll give you a realistic peek into the most frustrating things for us. First off, we don't get out of the house much anymore. I can't even do the grocery shopping during the daytime; and I have to wait until the kids are asleep at night to go to the stays-open-late grocery store. I have a Valco Trimode Twin stroller, but you can't do major shopping with that. . . and besides, whenever I do go out, somebody is crying or upset. It takes me 10 minutes to get in the car with all the kids (the two older ones can buckle themselves in). Getting three children and myself ready to go somewhere takes a long time, and it can be exhausting - and I'm in fairly good physical condition. At the end of the day, I think, "What have I done today?" and usually answer myself with, "Dressed all the kids, put a load of laundry in the washer/dryer, fed the kids, nursed the babies, played with the babies and toddler, got the kids to and from school, fed the kids, fed the kids, nursed the babies, fed the kids, nursed the babies, put people down for naps all day, read a couple of picture books, fed the kids. . . did I get a shower, can't remember?" (hahaha)

Seriously, I think having a singleton after having twins has got to be a little easier. But who's to say you wouldn't have another set of twins? : )

I love my kids more than anything in the world, but it's definitely not for the faint of heart. I have no help coming in. . . no nannies, sitters or grandparents whisking in to give me a break. When I "take a break", it means running an errand by myself in less than two hours. I don't work outside the home, so I don't get "mental breaks". If you have breaks and helpers, it could be less stressful and feel more normal. (I haven't felt normal is so very long.)

Then, there's the $$$ factor. I don't let $$$ stop me from having kids, but I am also willing to give up new clothing, gadgets, entertainment, nice vehicles, hobbies and so forth. But it is a consideration.

Those are just some realistic thoughts about my own life which I don't regret - but I do realize is not normal anymore. Your experience may be different, and you get to make decisions for your own life!

 

We didn't "TRY" to get pregnant but we did I got pregnant when my twins were almost 4 months old. I'm now 7 months pregnant with 10 month old twins, it's A LOT work!! I would never have wished for this but it is truly a miracle baby to us and such a blessing. Here are the positive things that we have come to realize about having babies so close in age.
We haven't gotten rid of anything, so we have EVERYTHING we could possible need!! We're also in not sleeping mode and changing diapers mode, so what's one more baby!
We had to go through infertility treatment to have the twins (IUI), so we're very happy that we didn't have to go through it again with the chance of twins! And we're so happy that it's just one. We keep thinking that in a couple years we'll be completely out of diapers and off of the breast pump :lol:
However we are sure this is our last baby (I've already signed the papers to have my tubes clamped), and we're very comfortable and happy with that. It's something that you and your husband have to decide but for us it's working out.
Good luck!

 

We fell pregnant when the twins were 2 months old and had our DS 1 week before the twins first birthday we are now having baby number 5 which means 4 under 3 when she comes. Its been alot of work but also so much fun I love having so many little ones around and now the twins dont remeber not having a little brother and he is one of them. They all share a room and they do everything together. I was so blessed to have them close I think, we had a 6 year gap between our first and the twins and he is a great help but he is so busy doing 9 year old things so the little ones do their little things

I dont think having them all so close is everyones cup of tea and people do make comments everywhere we go, I am still very independent and although I dont drive we still walk to school every morning and get out as much as we can. When we shop we all go together with a trolley and a double stroller DH me and our oldest DS.

Doing it all with your DH away alot would be alot to cope with but also very rewarding. Good luck what ever you decide to do.

 

My girls will be 16 months when this next one arrives. I'm 20 weeks along now. Like you I was like "my babies are great, they have a great schedule, they are so cute, why not collect more ??!!!" now I'm like.... "what was I thinking ??" I'm military as well and don't have any family close by so that is a huge factor for me, but my dh will likely be within the country the next year or so I will have his help. Here are some things to think of both Positive and the negative ... all which I only thought of AFTER I got pregnant....

Positive: close together -- less of a "twin" thing since the next baby will only be a year difference.
into the same toys. When we are finished with the baby toys they can all be finished with them. No little parts to worry about with a small baby crawling around. I can get rid of all the clothes, swings, etc.
out of the 2-3 yrs old struggle all at once in one big shot. Instead of forever having to deal with a 2-3 yr old
The wonderful aspects of a larger family. Seeing three little ones running around.

Negative: A big big big one is the stroller. I got mine from New Zealand so I can't help you much but it cost a fortune. Something to really look into.
I'm so tired now. I was sick (not as bad as with the twins) in my first trimester & tired.... now in my second trimester I'm so tired. It is so hard to play with them and get out. I feel bad I don't have more energy for them. I forgot how hard being pregnant is, and with having other kids to look after it is really really hard.

Many times I think "I was happy with my two why did I think I needed another ?" it is a different realm when you move into 3 children. The world is made around a family of 4. I think large families are wonderful but it really is something you really want and love.
I've been going to mother's groups and the library.... I have no idea what I will be able to do with my girls when this next one arrives. Not having any family close by is a big deal.
A car. What size is your present car and how will 3 baby seats fit into it. Can you afford a larger car if you need one ??


When they are 4 months old they just roll around but now at 12 months they are really getting into things and I'm seeing more what it will be like when they are walking and climbing. They are crawling in different directions now, and soon it will be walking, then crawling in different directions. Part of my brain wonders how I will watch 3 going in different directions ....... Despite being negative sounding I'm ok with number 3 on the way, I guess I just have so many unanswered questions about how it will work out, and what it will be like for me. I hope some of my babble will help you in your decision making....

heather

 

NOT EVEN IF YOU GAVE ME A FREE NANNY.

Not if you paid me.

Not if you helped me carry them all to the car.

Not even if you did my grocery shopping for me.

Oh Dear God NO! NEVER!

If "it" happened, I really hope "it" would wait until they were in school.

They are GREAT babies but man are they BUSY!

Plus, I want to devote ALL of my time to THEM. I waited 4 years for them, afterall!

I love them to death but I know when I've reached my limit..

 

When I thought I would want another baby (we've since scratched that idea) we were going to wait until the twins were two to try. Whatever you decide, GL!

 

DH tells everyone that we had a boy & girl in one shot. If another option becomes available he'll consider it, meaning different than a boy or girl.

Seriously though I will be 38 in a week and DH will be 37 in two months. Max & Lily are making us feel our age. All the bending & lifting makes us ache in places we never knew we had muscles. I can't imagine having another baby as I get closer to 40. Unless it was an Oops I don't think we would do it on purpose.

Good luck on your decision. I think God gives you what you can handle and I know we can handle two kids. Anymore and we might loose our minds .

 

My uterus has closed up shop for good.

I love my boys with all my heart, and sometimes the thought of having another baby is really appealing, however, all I have to do is spend a few hours around a baby younger than my twins and I realize, I hit a home run the first time!

I was blessed with the two most easy-going laid back little babies who are quickly turning into hilariously charming and goofy toddlers before my eyes. We laugh all day long. I am selfish, I don't want to share that with someone else, even if that someone else is another baby.

It's possible I could change my mind. I doubt it. I had really bad post-partum depression, and I'm just now, several medicated months later, realizing what a difficult and scary time the first few months were, and much of that was my mental state. I just don't believe it would be fair to my family for us all to go through that again.

However, every family is different, and only you will know when your family is complete. What is perfect for us might not be for you. Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

I definitely would not have, I waited until they were 18 months old to go off birth control. Not that it would happen easily for us (mine are IVF twins).

I know that my peri said to wait 18 months to try again, to give my body time to heal. I'd check with your doctor to be safe. I think I remember you had kind of a rough pregnancy?

 

No, I wouldn't do it. But the reason I wouldn't do it is b/c I know we can only afford to have 1 more (and that's pushing it). I am still young and I don't feel like I'm ready to be done with the "baby" part of my life yet, so I want to save it until I'm closer to 30. I just turned 28 this week. If we were in a financial situation where I knew we could afford 2 more children then I would be more likely to want another one right now.

Ideally I'd like my girls to be potty trained before I have another one so I don't have 3 in diapers.

 

QUOTE(ivfbound078 @ Dec 2 2008, 08:12 AM) [snapback]1093325[/snapback]
NOT EVEN IF YOU GAVE ME A FREE NANNY.

Not if you paid me.

Not if you helped me carry them all to the car.

Not even if you did my grocery shopping for me.

Oh Dear God NO! NEVER!



Okay, this was hilarious!!! :rotflmbo:

 

It sounds as if you are not so keen on them right now. I certainly at that stage was not ready. Don't let your dh's willingness right now push you to do something that you are not quite sure of.

 

I would have more in a heartbeat!!!! I love it!! I am worried about the stroller situation though. I'll just deal with it as it comes! We are going to wait a year as my ob suggested though..for healing.

 

good points by all!! we have no help (nor can we afford it!), and we dont live near family. it would be ALLLL me.. kinda scary!! i had a somewhat rough pregnancy. easy til about 20 weeks and my cervix started to shorten and i was put on bedrest. then delivered at 30weeks cuz of pre-e. are there chances of those things happening again, even if we dont get twins again (i hope we dont have twins again!! lol). im the oldest of 8, im only 24. i love big families, but i dont think i want 8! i still have a few years before i will be feeling the whole age factor, i want to be able to keep up with the babies and run around with them! thanks everyone for all the help! i guess im just gonna go with it and not TRY to get pregnant. we'll see how it goes!!

 

I got my Mirena IUD two weeks ago and my husband still wants to get a vasectomy. I won't let him because I still want the option to have more. But personally, I think we are both done. I have my two sweet girls and a wonderful stepson who is 10 years old. But all of my friends who have one said they would never have considered having another during the newborn stage. Once they get older and more fun they say you forget the newborn stage and start thinking about having more. Must be nature's way of keeping the human race going!! haha

 

My DS was only 9mths when I found out I was prego with my twins (surprise). He was 18mths when they were born, it is hard still. He is still so young, he wants my attention and still like to be picked up most of the time. B/C I have to give him so much attention I don't get to spend much time w the babies, they are very easy going and will play w each other. If I had more control over the situation I would have waited until he was 2.5 to even get pregnant, he would have been much more independant then and I think it would have made it easier for all of us. Now that the girls are almost 7mths it is getting easier but I am on the go all day long and it is very exhausting, not to mention all the diaper we go through!!!

I also had a Mirena put in this time to make sure there were no more surprises for a while!

 

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My uterus has closed up shop for good.

I love my boys with all my heart, and sometimes the thought of having another baby is really appealing, however, all I have to do is spend a few hours around a baby younger than my twins and I realize, I hit a home run the first time!

I was blessed with the two most easy-going laid back little babies who are quickly turning into hilariously charming and goofy toddlers before my eyes. We laugh all day long. I am selfish, I don't want to share that with someone else, even if that someone else is another baby.

It's possible I could change my mind. I doubt it. I had really bad post-partum depression, and I'm just now, several medicated months later, realizing what a difficult and scary time the first few months were, and much of that was my mental state. I just don't believe it would be fair to my family for us all to go through that again.

However, every family is different, and only you will know when your family is complete. What is perfect for us might not be for you. Good luck with whatever you decide!



I really appreciate how you said this. This is EXACTLY the way that I feel... EXACTLY.

I am notorious for NOT leaving well enough alone. I love my puppy.. why not get another puppy?? So, I do it and then I hate myself and the TWO puppies cuz it's TOO MUCH! I should've just been happy with the first puppy!

Stupid example, but I'm trying to say that I am happy with what I have and I do not wish to push my luck (this time ) Ha!

Well said, LadyBenz! I agree about how 'scary' it was. I was very scared too.

 

I wouldn't want kids that close together. I was like other posters and wanted to give all of my attention to DD1 before trying for another one. We waited until she was 3 to start trying and of course ended up doing IVF because we had secondary infertility issues. We ended up with an almost 5 year gap between DD1 and the twins. I can't imagine having twins when DD1 was any younger. She was enough of a handful at 5 that at 1,2, or 3 I would have gone insane! Spacing out the cost of childcare and college was also something we factered in when TTC. We don't want our kids to ever want for anything we can't give them.

 

I felt exactly like you did at 4 months!! My girls were getting easier, I was getting the hang of the parenting thing....now they're 11 months old & my husband and I are talking about when to try again...he wants to wait 3 YEARS!! I would be OK with waiting about 6 more months, but I'm not sure I could wait any longer than that. I LOVED being pregnant & I have to keep reminding myself that having a singleton would be SO MUCH easier than the girls have been. SO I would definitely do it if my husband was supportive, but mine isn't...YET haha. I hope that the previous comments help you make your decision & that you are blessed with a child in God's perfect timing

 

QUOTE(ivfbound078 @ Dec 2 2008, 02:12 PM) [snapback]1093325[/snapback]
NOT EVEN IF YOU GAVE ME A FREE NANNY.

Not if you paid me.

Not if you helped me carry them all to the car.

Not even if you did my grocery shopping for me.

Oh Dear God NO! NEVER!

If "it" happened, I really hope "it" would wait until they were in school.

They are GREAT babies but man are they BUSY!

Plus, I want to devote ALL of my time to THEM. I waited 4 years for them, afterall!

I love them to death but I know when I've reached my limit..


:rotflmbo: That made me laugh too!

I couldn´t imagine being pg with these 2. Mine are IVF twins and I don´t want to do IVF again plus I have no snow babies. DH would probably like a 3rd but we agreed that a) it would be in a few years and b) if it happened naturally then so be it. Honestly? I dont think #3 will ever come. We feel blessed that we got these 2 miracles, we dont want to push our luck! GL with your decision!

 

I had the baby itch when the girls were 4 months old and again at 10 months. I am definitely glad I didn't act on it though. It just wasn't the right time for us and I'm sure everything ran much more smoothly since we waited until the girls were older. Still, there are a few moms on here with 3 kids under 2 and they're surviving and loving it. It really depends on what is best for you and your family.

 

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good points! we originally wanted to try again once they were heading into kindergarton..thats about 4 years away! thanks for the help

I personally think this is a good idea-it is a long time to wait but you would be able to really enjoy your little baby-I have a 4yo and she is really independant and even helpful with the babies-it is a good age difference-that is just my opinion...good luck whatever you decide!

 

Oh gosh, I did consider it at that age. But HOLY GOD life would have been hell with 3 under 2 - at least for me. I actually found the second year harder than the first in some ways - don't flame me! LOL!

I have bad, bad baby fever now, but b/c of certain time factors (I need to go back to teaching), we are waiting a while longer.

 

We want to have another baby and would probably be trying soon except for 2 things...I'm nursing so AF hasn't returned and we want to make sure that the twins don't have any major, long-term health issues.