Any other moms do ALL the packing

I'm just a bit irritated to say the least. DH is leaving first thing in the morning for the Milwaukee Brewers home opener (2 hours away). I am traveling an hour south of my home with the twins, 2 dogs and a car full of crap AFTER WORKING ALL DAY to get to their house in time to get the kids fed before I take off for a friends wedding. I get so irritated that I always have to do ALL the packing...I just don't think he realizes all the thought that goes into preparing for a weekend away from home. He just packs his OWN things and is on his merry little way. Sorry for the rant...anyone else feel like their are the pack mule of their house?

 

Yes originally I did it. But over time I had to talk to my DH about it because I needed to leave for work earlier and I needed the time to finish my hair etc. We made a deal last Sept that he would do the morning routine (mostly) and I would do the night (mostly). So that's how it stands now. :hug99: I think you should talk to him more about it. :hug99:

 

Yes! The best is when DH is super anxious to leave at a certain time and he's standing there packed and ready and I'm running around like a mad-woman trying to get three kids packed. But then I realized after putting up a stink and making DH do it that the man is apparently incapable of packing anything for our kids that actually matches. I swear, the combos he comes up with make our kids look like hobos. So DH is now in charge of loading whatever I hand him without making any references to the time!

btw---have a good weekend!

Reyna

 

That is too funny...you're right. They don't really have any clue about matching clothes do they? What would they do without us

 

Yah, I know the feeling. In fact I always pack for everyone. But then I know where everything is and what I have, I prefer letting him pack the car and sending him to get things. This works out better. I always pack a day a head of time, this helps with the stress and I know I have everything.

 

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Yah, I know the feeling. In fact I always pack for everyone. But then I know where everything is and what I have, I prefer letting him pack the car and sending him to get things. This works out better. I always pack a day a head of time, this helps with the stress and I know I have everything.


Yes, I agree! If I let my husband pack, he'll probably end up with a sweatshirt, a vest and one sock. I pack for all four of us as well. I love the "look at me I got ready in 4 minutes" look after you've been up for hours getting the house in order and the entire family's things packed.

 

We don't really ever go away -- but the few times that we have, yes, I do all the packing. DH takes care of himself and is good about thinking of the "gear" that we need, but I pick out all the clothes and am responsible for getting it all to fit in the suitcase. However, he does pack the car.

 

Yep I am the packer too. My DH does his own stuff and will round up random stuff like vitamins but anything beyond that aint happening. He is a wiz at packing the truck though so I stick to my strength and he sticks to his. I have to say I do get annoyed when he is breathing down my neck telling me I am taking to long.

 

Yes same here. I normally rush around like some idiot looking all flustered to get all the stuff ready. Then all dh does is take out what he want to wear and I have to pack it too. The past weekend we had to travel to his sisters wedding 4 hours away. I am sure you all know that traveling with 2 babies is no fun. That said i ad to get all the stuf ready, bath, feed the twins and get all the stuff ready. In short I had to do it all. Then i got moaned at because I forgot the wedding card at home!!!! :girl_devil:

 

You are not alone. We actually had a big blowout this week (long overdue, teh pressure relief valve finally went BAM!!!); and i told him that he had NO CLUE about all the things that i do - including dealing with the darn diaper bag everyday (ok, honey, NOT just putting diapers and wipes in, but: makng sure there are TWO extra outfits for spit-up, leak accidents); snacks (they just turned 1 now so it's no longer just bottles); MEALS if we're going to be out for a while, sippy cups, toys, orajel/tylenol/teething tablets.......oh, and HOW EXACTLY DO YOU THINK THEY GET DRESSED AND HAVE TOWELS/SLEEPERS/DIAPERS/DOUBLERS EVERY NIGHT LAID OUT BEFORE BATHTIME - along with massage lotion, toothbrushes, and toys to distract them while we're putting on pj's....

It was funny, he actually said "I do recognize how much you do"....ok, so now YOU do some of it!

But, sadly, I always packed in the past - that is, he took care of his stuff (clothes, gear: bicycle, running, swimming), but- i always did the 'other stuff'....FOOD, snacks, towels, etc.

I think it's a gender thing. They don't usually focus on taking care of other people in the way we do, so they don't know how. Their mothers did it for them (moms of sons, beware of your awesome responsibility to the women in their futures!!), so it's all invisible to them. Sometimes it's maddening; i htink if you can get clear and explicit about jobs then it helps. And for me I just want to be ACKNOWLEDGED once in a while!!

ok, i can stop ranting and breathe now..

 

I did all the packing before they came along, let alone now. LOL! I am a control freak so why it does make me angry when he is standing there asking how long till we can leave. I know me well enough i would not allow him to pack as he would never do it right. LOL... I know my way is not the only way but when it comes to packing i doubt i ever give... e leave for FL on May 2nd for a week and i swear i will do EVERY bit of the packing, even his stuff... Who am i to complain? I am the one that spoiled his butt in the first place. ROFL!

 

I'm the packer in our house too. I prefer to do it though because I like to know that I have everything I need for the babies.

 

Talk with your DH. Mine has always been very good about packing up the car. I pack up the bags and either put them by the door or ask him to put them there, then he takes it out and packs the car.

 

I'm single so yes, I do ALL of the packing for us. And even if I wasn't, I would still do all of the packing for us because I am anal like that

 

I pack but its my choice. I let DH pack his stuff but everyone else is up to me. I go insane with his lack of spacial planning so the car is mine too. I am an Army brat so my whole family is crazed about packing. What I had to laugh about is the he is going to do x...yet you get to do the kids and the dogs. I always get stuck with the kids and dog. For example when I travel t my family, if he isn't going for some reason, he always expects me to take the dog too. He says the dog likes me more....probably true...but I think he just likes being responsibility free, lol.

 

In fact, I am just in the middle of packing now, as we are driving down to my moms house for the weekend. DH is still asleep, and the car will be fully packed before he gets up, kids fed, dressed & ready etc . It does really irritate me, but he is incapable of packing and will forget the inportant stuff. I have more or less accepted it now.

 

I swear this is one of the main things DH and I used to argue about. Even if we weren't going out of town just getting out of the house was an ordeal. I am very thankful to say that he has gotten a lot better, or maybe it's that the babie are getting easier. I just remember him doing things around the house while I was feeding the babies, getting them changed and dressed, getting their diaper bag packed, pumping, all while trying to get myself ready to go also. He would wait until the last minute to get himself ready so that all he had time to do was get himself dressed while I am trying to do all the last minute getting the babies ready. Still I would be sitting there ready to go with everything packed and both babies in their carseats getting cranky while he was doing his hair . By the time we got where we were going I was so tired and irritated I couldn't even enjoy myself. So I can completely understand.

 

I know I wouldn't be happy with what he packed, so I do it all. Even though he is standing there offering to help - he just wouldn't really be much help because I would want to re-do it anyway.

 

OMG yes. My husband doesn't even do his own packing completely. I always look in his bag to see what he packed and remind him of a bunch of things he forgot. He has no idea how much thought and work goes into it, and I do remind him of that.