Another "Why are People so Weird" Rant

Yesterday I was at the Pediatrician, waiting to be called in. I only had one of my girls (8 days old and about 6.5 pounds) with me, since my mother in law was parking the car and would be coming in with the other girly. A lady looked over at me and said "Wow! She's so little!!! I can't imagine! I mean, MY daughter was 9 lb. 4 oz.!!!" And her tone was so...competitive. Like, she wanted to brag about how giant her kids were and made her somehow more of a mom/woman.

To which I kindly replied..."yeah, well, she's a twin...so I carried THIRTEEN pounds of baby..." Shut her up pretty quickly.

Just funny. Never realized it was a competition...

 

that is funny! people say the strangest things...

 

lmao WTG mom!

My dd was 9 lbs 13 oz and I always got weird looks when I told people that. So yeah having had 13.5 lbs of baby this time we always get the whole :woah: :lol:

 

People always give me their enormous singleton stories, but I haven't found anyone yet who can top 14 lbs 3 oz!

 

Anything can be a competition to some people!

 

:faint: I have no idea why people say the things they do. :hug:

 

People are so weird, you're right.

 

I never knew parenting was a competitive sport until the kids were born myself. I remember taking the twins to the pediatrician when they were two months old and a Mom of an older baby (probably close to a year) asking me if they were sleeping through the night, figuring that I probably had it worse then her because of having twins and I replied, they do pretty decent (at that point they were getting up once a night) and her face fell and she said, "oh, I'm still up with my girl several times." I know that had to be tough on her but still...there is no need to compare! I have also had people say to me how they were surprised that singleton baby x does not do half the stuff my twins do, almost as if my twins should be behind. Another person told me that I should discourage DS from walking because why would I want two toddlers walking at the same time... People do say the strangest things.

 

even my own MIL makes size comments, because DH was a 9 pounder at birth. it comes up weirdly often, how she had a 9 pounder and our guys are only at the 2% mark on the growth chart. but that's the non-adjusted growth chart! we're catching up! it's almost like i get the feeling she's insecure about their size when her coworkers see photos. it's definitely weird. it's my only complaint about her, and it's a small one.

i definitely have learned how competitive people are with their babies. i tend to be very honest about where they are on milestones, which ones we're adjusting for, which ones they're ahead on, which ones we're still waiting on. i learned that maybe not everyone is as honest as me when i ran into a former coworker with a very competitive nature and she tried to convince me that her 3 month old had been STTN since she was 4 days old, was eating solids with utensils, could put her own bib on, would probably crawl any day now, and was about halfway through reading "war and peace."

 

it is somewhat of a competition...lol...I pointed out to my ex(my oldest sons father) that our son weighed more than my girls total weight. People just have it in their head that big chunky babies are somewhat healthier than "skinny" babies. My friend makes the statement all the time that she carried 15lbs worth of baby and that my girls are too small. I just ignore it bacause I know that my girls are healthy.

 

If it's a competition, I think you won!

 

I think people make comments like that just to pat themselves on the back about what a big, healthy baby they grew. Of course, that's no more a choice than having a small and/or early baby!

 

The only thing that irratates me is when people (like a PP poster said) expect twins to be small and developmentally behind even when they aren't preemies. Even my own family is shocked at how big they are, or that they are doing this at that age "because they are twins". My DD1 was a preemie, and although I was thrilled when she met mile stones at an average age, no one else was surrpised at how well she did. Now with these guys who were healthy full termers, everyone is shocked that they are an average size and doing things at the same time as other babies. Sorry for the rant, but it does get to me that people expect them to be small and slow just because they are twins.

 

I hate those comments and we got them a lot in the beginning, especially from friends who had their baby two weeks before we had ours. There baby was 8.6 and ours were 5.4 and 7.2 and born at 38 weeks, hers came at 40. Needless to say it was super annoying but I'll say this, DS is crawling and he was the "smallest." It just goes to show that if they are healthy, weight has zero bearing on hitting milestones or how big they'll actually be. The competition thing stinks!