Another so soon?

Hello ladies. My DH wants to start trying for another child now (The boys are almost 7 mos). I think he's insane but he's convinced it would be better to have all of our children in a shorter anount of time, so that they will get along better and have more fun together. I tried explain to him that I would not remain sane with a third child so soon, but he gets all offended. I will only be 21 in a month and he is 21, I don't really understand what the rush is. He says that it's because his parents stopped after he and his brother were born and he always wished he had more siblings. Am I in the right here? This is mostly just a venting post, but I would like your opinions.

 

Hello ladies. My DH wants to start trying for another child now (The boys are almost 7 mos). I think he's insane but he's convinced it would be better to have all of our children in a shorter anount of time, so that they will get along better and have more fun together. I tried explain to him that I would not remain sane with a third child so soon, but he gets all offended. I will only be 21 in a month and he is 21, I don't really understand what the rush is. He says that it's because his parents stopped after he and his brother were born and he always wished he had more siblings. Am I in the right here? This is mostly just a venting post, but I would like your opinions.

 

WOW!!! Personally, I would not but that's ME and not YOU!

I think you would be really busy and not get any sleep. It's your body and you have to raise them. I think you get the veto vote if necessary......

 

It's up to you, but I wouldn't do it. A multiple pregnancy is really hard on your body, it needs some time to recuperate before becoming pregnant again. I think most doctors recommend at least a year. Also being 21 leaves you plenty of time to have other kids, I had Dave at 21. His little sister is 5 years younger than him and they get along great. My point is that they don't have to be close in age to get along really well.

 

I think that it's completely up to you if you are going to be the one raising them. Personally, I'm ready to have another baby, but, then again, my boys are only 3 1/2 months old, so, I haven't been through teething, crawling, and all of that other fun stuff that is going to be coming soon. I might be changing my mind after all of that. Anyways, it's your decision because you are the one that is going to have to be pregnant again.

 

Only have another one so soon IF YOU want to too! You have a say and if you are doing a lot of the work with the twins, you are tired, then you have as much say in this. For me it would have been too early.

 

You are very sane to want to wait some more time. My twins are 8 months and I still haven't gotten 1 good night sleep. I can't imagine adding another infant in 9 months.

My DD is 3.5 years older than her younger sisters. If it's meant that they'll be good playmates as they grow up and friends as adults - they'll work it out.

You do have LOTS of time. I hope DH will rethink his point of view. Enjoy your babies!

 

Gosh, I can't imagine that but then again I'm 37 not 21. I have a 3 1/2 year old and keeping up with him and the twins is hard enough. I can't imagine 3 in diapers. But like the PP have said - it's up to you and your hubby. Personally, I like the age difference between my son and the twins. My sister is having a baby due in June that will be 11 months younger than the twins and I think that is cool! Do you have a sister that could do that for you?? Ha!

 

I am still deciding IF I want more kids. Mine are almost 9 months and I feel that having another NOW...well, that would feel a whole lot like triplets to me! BTW, hats off to the triplet and quad+ moms!! LOL!

 

The twins were born when my middle girl was 2 1/2 years. That was hard. I couldn't imagine closer in age than that.

Oh, Barbie, you didn't say that it'd be like having triplets! Don't us twin moms hate it when people say that their 2 close in age is just like having twins?

Personally, I'd wait. You're both young and have plenty of time. Are you sure that it's not insecurity on his part? I've heard of some men trying to keep his wife pregnant or with small children because he's afraid that she'll leave him otherwise.

 

We haven't decided if we will have another child or not, but my OB told me we should wait one year min. if we had a vaginal delivery of the twins and 18 months min. if we had a c-section to start trying. I had a vag/c-section delivery of the twins, so DH's big joke is that we have to wait the year plus the 18 months! That said, as a pp said your body is still recovering from the pregnancy and I would def. wait until my body had time to heal before becoming pregnant again. It may be a good idea to go see your OB/doc for a physical to make sure your body is ready if you do decide to start right away and discuss this with him/her.

Angela

 

I kinda understand your DH's thinking. Part of me is baby hungry, but in no way am I ready for another newborn!

 

Talk to your ob.. each requires a minimum wait after a twin pregnancy. Dh is ready. He's the youngest of 10 and all of them are Irish twins... they are all 10 - 11 months apart! I said I would wait until the babies are potty trained. The only reason to have them so soon is if you want a very large family.