Another set back...

So after 4 1/2 hours in the peri office today and a sono, FFN Uterine monitoring I was told that I am showing signs of contractions. Not the ones that will necessarily open my cervix as that looks ok but they are enough to restrict bloodflow which is already an issue for my boy.

I have to get progesterone shots every week and take terbutaline (sp?) 4 times a day. I have read a little about it and am not sold on the drug though.

Parker has shown some growth but not great - Charlotte didn't grow that much either though which the Peri was not overly concerned with. So I go back in a week, get another shot, FFN monitoring, sono and meet with the Peri on the 3rd to cover it all...

Honestly, I am really shot now - I feel like I can't take anymore of this and don't know how to feel anymore....
HELP.... :huh:

 

:hug: Joanna! I am so sorry that you are having to deal with all of this.

 

its scary when all this starts happening so early, but hang in there. i was on turbutaline for 3 weeks and I know it helped me.

 

I'm so sorry for all that you are going through! :hug:

 

Joanna, I know it's a shock, but try to stay positive. Did they put you on bed rest? If not, I think I'd put myself on bed rest if I were you. You need to give those little pumpkins every opportunity to grow and resting is the most impactful thing you can do.

Keep us posted. Hugs and prayers to you :hug:

 

A big :hug: for you. Joanna you have been through so much you are a very strong woman. You can do it!

 

No then Dr did not put me on bedrest - he said he wasn't worried about this affecting my cervix as much as he was about the bloodflow. I can't put myself on bedrest bc my job would not allow it and I can't get disability unless the Dr requests it..

I'm in a tough spot.....

 

Can you talk to your dr. and ask him to put you on bedrest? I know you're the breadwinner, but won't your boss understand? It can't be good having an employee worried all the time. Maybe there is a way you can work at home part time. I'm sorry you got another setback, but hang in there!

 

So sorry to hear about all of this Joanna! Keep doing a great job taking care of yourself and those babies! Keep us posted!

 

QUOTE(mommymeg @ Nov 21 2008, 04:40 PM) [snapback]1081277[/snapback]
Can you talk to your dr. and ask him to put you on bedrest? I know you're the breadwinner, but won't your boss understand? It can't be good having an employee worried all the time. Maybe there is a way you can work at home part time. I'm sorry you got another setback, but hang in there!


I did ask specifically about the rest and he said it wasn't going to change anything that the terbutaline would help. My boss unfortunatly would not at all understand and really only cares about the bottom line - if I did go out, I would be done and then our family would be in a really bad position...

 

I would definetly put myself on bedrest, drink lots of water and protein shakes. The shots are a piece of cake. I took them this last pregnancy after losing my twins. I was petrified, but it all worked out ok and my baby boy is with me and beautiful. Take lots of deep breaths and hold on to those babies. You can do it. I just read your last update and you really need to find a way to take at least a few weeks off - until at least 25 weeks.

 

:hug: I am sorry you are having to deal with this Joanna ~
Could you discuss with your Dr. about him putting you on bedrest? I know a lot of Dr's will be accomodating that way.
Hang in there & try to stay positive for those little ones :hug:

 

Joanna - I am so sorry that you are in such a tough spot. Good luck!

 

:hug: I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm glad they're watching you closely. I wish I had something better to say but know that you and your little ones are in my thoughts and prayers :hug:

 

QUOTE(momoftheforest @ Nov 21 2008, 05:49 PM) [snapback]1081295[/snapback]
I would definetly put myself on bedrest, drink lots of water and protein shakes. The shots are a piece of cake. I took them this last pregnancy after losing my twins. I was petrified, but it all worked out ok and my baby boy is with me and beautiful. Take lots of deep breaths and hold on to those babies. You can do it. I just read your last update and you really need to find a way to take at least a few weeks off - until at least 25 weeks.



I agree, water, rest, and the protein, protein, protein! I would also tell you to relax...but my pregnancy is still all too very real for me to tell you that.

I am sorry you are going through this and am hoping for the best for you and your little ones!

Missy

 

HUGS to you from all of us!! You are doing so well. I've read ALL your updates/posts and you have been through a lot, but you are doing the BEST job keeping those babies healthy. I would write down all of the things you have had to go through including side effects of the meds and then hold that over your little beans when they get big enough to talk back and get sassy. Take a warm bubble bath and try to relax, do something for just you everyday and soon this will all be a distant memory.
We're rooting for you in so many ways! Go Joanna and Babies!! :clapping: :clapping: :clapping: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :friends:

 

O hun, :hug: and them more :hug: .

You said you were maybe looking into anther dr (even if you can't find her)? Do you think it might be time to look around for a second opinion?

You are doing an amazing job! DO NOT let this discredit the hard work you have put into these babies! You have already proven yourself to be a mother of overwhelming love and strength. No one will understand what it is like to fight for their child tell they actually are fighting and you are doing an amazing job.

Although the positive might seem smaller then the negative, you gotta hold on to the good news. BOTH babies are groing, they BOTH still have good heart beats. If they are anything like you, then Im sure they are strong fighters!
Keep up the good work.

 

Hang in there! You are almost to the point of viability, you've already made it this far. Just keep positive and take care of yourself and you will get through this with 2 beautiful babies. I agree that bedrest to reduce your stress and protein shakes (like Boost) to get extra nutrition to those babies might be a good idea. Don't worry about the growth too much, there can be a very large margin of error between measurements, especially if different people have done them. Every week for 20 weeks and then everyday for 4 weeks I was told things were bad and something else had gone wrong so I believe you and your babies will be ok too.

 

Even though the contractions wont start you into labor, bedrest (especially laying on your left side) would be great for these babies, IMO. Increasing your fluids, increasing your protein, etc would all help. Your blood flow to them would really improve, IMO. I know sometimes no matter what a mom does bad things just happen but I would really try bedrest. Good luck to you. I pray for all of you daily. You are doing an awesome job!

 

:hug: Joanna. Hang in there and try and stay positive!!

 

Hang in there, you've come this far, you can go a little further. :hug:

 

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

 

Lotsa :hug: for you and you're all in our prayers! Hold on momma!!

 

QUOTE(Buttercup1 @ Nov 21 2008, 08:54 PM) [snapback]1081563[/snapback]
Hang in there! You are almost to the point of viability, you've already made it this far. Just keep positive and take care of yourself and you will get through this with 2 beautiful babies. I agree that bedrest to reduce your stress and protein shakes (like Boost) to get extra nutrition to those babies might be a good idea. Don't worry about the growth too much, there can be a very large margin of error between measurements, especially if different people have done them. Every week for 20 weeks and then everyday for 4 weeks I was told things were bad and something else had gone wrong so I believe you and your babies will be ok too.



How close am I to viability? Still about a month right?

 

Most DRs agree that 24 weeks is viability. You're almost there. Just keep setting little goals and celebrate as you pass them. :hug:

 

OK, I'm a bit miffed at your Doc for you. As soon as IUGR was diagnosed with my girls, they put me not just on bedrest, but hospital bed rest so they can watch them DAILY. I don't believe they would have gone to hospital bed rest before 24 weeks (what they consider the age of viability) but they had me on bed rest at home at 18 weeks anyhow due to my high bp. The rest is (according to my peri) the ONLY thing that's proven to help increase blood flow and help my little ones continue to grow inside.

I know it's difficult at this point, but I would insist on a second opinion and find a doctor who will watch you more closely and put you on bed rest. If not, at least ask your doc if he would choose a different plan of action if you were beyond 24 weeks. If not, I think he needs to go back to med school.

Sorry, I'm being hormonal and venting on your behalf. Hang in there momma. You CAN do this and your little boy CAN make it. You need a more supportive medical team, IMO. Until you find it, we're here for you! :clapping: :bow2:

 

Thinking of you (((hug)))

 

:hug: I'm sorry you're going through all this. That is tough, especially when you have the job stress added on and no real possibility of bedrest unless the dr. orders it. Ditto the pp's suggestions of lots of water and protein, and rest as much as you can do even while working. Lie down/nap when you can, on your lunch break, as soon as you get home from work, etc. You're doing great; hang in there!

 

So sorry you have to deal with all this. I hope things take a turn for better for you. Hang in there- we are here for you!

 

Joanna :hug: I am hoping for the best for you. I know that it must be difficult to rest when you have all the stress of your job, but do whatever you can do to take it easy. I am thinking of you.

 

QUOTE(momoftheforest @ Nov 21 2008, 04:49 PM) [snapback]1081295[/snapback]
I would definetly put myself on bedrest, drink lots of water and protein shakes.


I agree with all of this. :hug:

 

I hear what you all are saying and I will speak to my OB about all of this today - I planned on calling him anyway. And trust me, if I could go on bedrest and survive I would but I live on Long Island, pay an incredible amount each month for my house and bills and unless I can get disability support, I have no choice but to work. I wish it were different but it's not and I have to think of my daughter and keeping her whole as well.

I'm trying to do all I can for these babies and the rest of my family so hopefully something will give....

 

Does your state do TDI?
Your doctor could say that you need to stay home and you could collect in that case.
Look into it.
Quick way to know is to look at your pay stub. If it says Short term disability or temporary disability (something like those) you should be covered.

 

You need to stay positive and confident that everything will be OK. Take care of yourself and trust your Dr. Honestly, don't let these setbacks bring you down, is not good for you or the babies.
I know how difficult it is, I was put on bedrest at 28 wks and had to stop working just when we were buying a house, so it was a big hole in our pocket, but things happen for a reason.
All I can advise you is for you to have a positive attitute, it really helps! :winking:

 

QUOTE(Joanna416 @ Nov 24 2008, 06:09 AM) [snapback]1084109[/snapback]
I hear what you all are saying and I will speak to my OB about all of this today - I planned on calling him anyway. And trust me, if I could go on bedrest and survive I would but I live on Long Island, pay an incredible amount each month for my house and bills and unless I can get disability support, I have no choice but to work. I wish it were different but it's not and I have to think of my daughter and keeping her whole as well.

I'm trying to do all I can for these babies and the rest of my family so hopefully something will give....


You are doing an amazingly wonderful job. Don't feel guilty for one second! Keep communicating with your doctor, and see what he says. Trust me, I understand about the money issue. Luckily my job let me work from home ... but my doctor did not put me on bedrest. I did take terb from 28 weeks to 36 weeks, and it really helped. It makes you feel a little crazy (jittery) at first, but your body will adjust to it. I had to take my meds every 6 hours on the dot, so I had to set my alarm at night to get up and take it ... the first couple of nights I didn't feel great, but I got used to it. I was like you in that I was having a ton of contractions, but none of them were affecting my uterus.

Take care of yourself. You are doing a great job. Since you have to work, make your DH do EVERYTHING else once you get home ... park on the couch and drink your water!

Fingers and everything else crossed for you!