ANOTHER Late Potty Training question

We tried training them both last September with the 3 day method and Gavin picked it up pretty quickly and is now 99.9% potty trained day and night.

During the 3 day it just wasn’t clicking with Warren so we figured he just wasn’t ready. Since then we have tried all sorts of ways methods and he just flat out isn’t interested. I think the longer we go he is getting more and more resistant. We just moved into a new house a month ago and they just started at a new pre-school 2 weeks ago, so a lot of changes recently. He is currently being held back a class since he is not potty trained – in the class he is in they actively work on potty training. I was really hoping that he would see the other kids in the class and want to participate. So far no such luck but I know it is still a bit early. Right now the only way I can get him to even sit on the potty is to bribe him with being able to play Angry Birds on my phone. I need to come up with a new plan of attach so I am here looking for ideas.

Thanks!!

 

Evan was over four when he finally potty trained. He'd go and be successful if I told him to go, but he'd go potty sometimes every 15 minutes. He couldn't feel when he needed to go. He was pooped trained several months before being potty trained because he could feel that. I think all the changes could be affecting yours. Sometimes the more pressure they get, the more resistant they are. Other than talking through it, the idea has to be his. If it isn't his, then your frustration level will be high. :hug: It'll happen.

 

To be honest with all those changes and him strongly resisting I would just totally back off for a while. Give him at least 4 weeks where the potty is not mentioned-don't bribe him to sit on it, don't ask if he wants underwear, don't read him stories about using the potty, nothing. Also ask your pre-school to do the same and not work on potty training at all with him for that time.
I think it sounds like it has just become too stressful and there's too much pressure around potty training and he's choosing to dig his heals in. Taking a complete break for a little while may give him the time and space to decide he does want to wear underpants for himself (as well as letting him adjust to all the other changes), which would make it a lot easier. If, in a month or two, he still is showing no inclination to train then you may have to revisit the 3 day method or try naked training or something, but I would give him (and yourself) the chance of having a break first.

 

Our boys just turned 3 last weekend, and they aren't anywhere close to being potty trained. 6 months ago when potty training was new they liked sitting on the potty and being big boys and getting all the praise. But now when we ask them to sit on the potty they often times immediately start whining and/or run into another room. We probably should have been more consistent with PT 6 months ago, but I kept hoping they would just pick it up at daycare, trying to emulate the other toddlers in their room using the potty. But that didn't happen. And this week their daycare teacher struck fear into our hearts and told us it was time to get rid of the pullups and put them in underwear. Shriek! However...we know she is right. She said they won't like the wet/dirty feeling and it will only take about a week or so to pick up. We have just been postponing the inevitable. So this Saturday morning the boys will be put in underwear, and we'll just have to deal with the messes until they catch on. I dread it, but I think at 3 years old they are ready. And I must admit, it will be nice to have their daycare teachers dealing with the messes starting on Monday, so hopefully by the following weekend they will be mostly potty trained :lol: I still plan to pu them in nighttime pullups for a while - can't imagine doing away with those just yet!

Good luck with your potty training! I know it is every parent's nightmare...times 2 with twins!

 

I'd wait for now. If he resists, it will probably not lead anywhere. Wait a couple months and try again, with a reward he really likes as an incentive.

Telling you, my son is 4 year and 3 months and still has accidents all the time, even though we spent 3 weeks in underwear. Back to diapers for a while (we have a trip anyway), then I'll try again. It's frustrating but that's just not something we can do for them.

 

I agree! I would do the same.

I also have to say that I'm glad I'm not the only one who hasn't pushed the idea of potty training too much if at all with twins. It seems that EVERONE elses child was PT since birth lol but I really don't think anyone fully understands that with twins its a whole different story. My girls are 26 months and I've only recently put potties out and encouraged them to use them once or twice a day - far from consistent! I defend myself by saying its winter here though.