Another baby (or 2)

Who is planning on having more? If so, how old will your twins be when you start trying? DH and I are talking (JUST TALKING) about MAYBE trying one more time FOR ONE (my luck it would be identical twins, LOL). I go back and forth...if we did, I would think I would want my kids to be at least 2...but then I think about being preggo with two "terrible twos" and I am just not so sure about that one.

What are you thinking?

 

Who is planning on having more? If so, how old will your twins be when you start trying? DH and I are talking (JUST TALKING) about MAYBE trying one more time FOR ONE (my luck it would be identical twins, LOL). I go back and forth...if we did, I would think I would want my kids to be at least 2...but then I think about being preggo with two "terrible twos" and I am just not so sure about that one.

What are you thinking?

 

First let me say that I'm done. Later I'll explain why.

I think you can plan for whatever you want or think is best. But keep in mind that it may not happen that way. I know so many people who had unexpected pregnancies. And alot more who had miscarriages, losses, infertility, etc. Basically, you can try to plan. But life (and death) sometimes just happens.

Most of my friends that have more than 2 kids, have help (either alot of family or hired help).

Anyway, for whatever reason my body makes ID twins. We lost our boys to TTTS. We could have lost our girls to Acute TTTS. Drs predict I'd get pregnant again with ID (with shared placenta and risks of TTTS again). There is no way I can live through that again. So we are done. DH needs to go in for the "V".

 

We are open to as many children as we're given and we couldn't be happier. There have been losses along the way and many pregnancy complications and asthma and apraxia are currently rearing their ugly heads with a few of the children - and I wouldn't change a thing - even if I could.

We take what we're given and we're given the graces to handle whatever is thrown our way. btw - we have no relatives in the area and I homeschool the children. Everything important finds a way of getting done. We are not wealthy by worldly standards, so paid help is out of the question.

I'll be 42 in a month and dh just turned 50. If we are given more children, great! If we aren't, that is what is meant to be, and thus, that is great, too. fwiw, our children have been asking when/if we're going to have another baby/babies. Even though it is a lot of work for every one, they truly appreciate being members of a large family.

 

I would like to try for another baby in about 2 years. I'm 26 and DH is 31. Honestly though, I am afraid of having more twins!! I love my girls and I would be incredibly blessed to have twins again but four children would be alot for DH and I. Actually, we would have to buy a bigger house! Anyways, trying for another isn't out of the question. Good luck with whatever you decide!

 

I have three now - and I wouldn't trade it for the world. There are even days I think about more (and then my husband gently reminds me that I'm crazy )

Seriously, if you and DH want more children, go for it. I don't think having twins should deter you from anything. I do have help but not tons of it. I could if I asked, but you learn to manage and you get into routines and things run smoothly after a while. I actually made it to work by 7:30 this morning! That's great for someone who gets three kids under four dressed, changed, fed, loaded, and dropped off at school.

Good luck with your decision! We are all so blessed with what we are given!

 

We are waiting until the babies are 2 1/2 before we start trying. I'm hoping for another set of twins! I know I'm nuts but that is the plan. We'll see how it works out. We were NOT TTC when we got pregnnt with these guys...

 

We definately want more! I say one, two more max. I was thinking that we should wait until the twins are at least 2 before trying for another, but DH says otherwise. He's in the military and he'll be gone for about a year, with a "short tour" (one month home) next December for the holidays. He says that we should get pregnant on his short tour (the twins will be about 18-19 months). I don't think so. With four kids and no help for a year, I think a pregnancy just might put me over the edge.

Good luck to you and everyone else no matter what happens.

 

I would love to have 1 more and we may(?) start trying this summer when the boys are 15 mos old. Dh says he doesn't want to have any kids once he hits 40 so we are on a time limit We have said that we will not seek any treatments this time but may use our 1 lonely frozen embryo in an unmedicated cycle.

 

Ideally, we would like to try again in July or August (right after the girls turn 2) for another baby. I would LOVE to have twins again! I didn't have a smooth pregnancy the first time (7 weeks of bedrest, 4 weeks on hospital bedrest, 17 NICU days), but I would do it all again! I figure I might as well keep my mind open to the fact that having frats again is a 1 in 5 chance for me....so why not!

Best of luck in your decision!

 

We were talking about having another one but not for about 3 years. I'm kind of scared because I had such a bad pregnancy with the girl's that I don't want to go through that again and I don't think I could handle twin's again. Good luck!!

 

We are done. There are times when I contemplate another pregnancy, but then something happens like all the kids get sick or something, and I quickly change my mind! Unless we have an unplanned pregnancy, we aren't going to actively try. The further away I get from the baby stage, the easier it is to say that we aren't having anymore!

For me, I wish I would have waited until oldest DD was 2 before we started trying. Her 2's were pretty tough on me. Granted, she had a LOT of life changing events then (the twins, moving states, leaving her friends). Now that she is 3, things are somewhat easier. At least I know that when she pushes me to the edge, she can go play in her room for awhile without me constantly watching over her. I can't imagine how tough things will be if the twins are the same way that she is - very talkative, active, and in your face type of child. I need 1 quiet child!

 

I want one more - but dh is not so sure!! i had a tubal reversal -
that didn't work - so wedid IVF with these babies - I hope
my reversal will work now that I have had these girls - if not
depending on how it goes - I have 17 frozen embryos I would just
implant 1 next time! so I hope we are not done!!

 

Wow 17 embryos?! Thats amazing... I have friends who were only able to retrieve 3 or 4!

 

We have an appointment with our RE doc in about a month to talk about doing an FET. I'm so excited to get pregnant again! My husband thinks I'm crazy to want another baby so soon. I want to get pregnant this summer, and if it works on the first try, the girls would be around 2 when the new baby or babies arrive. We have 6 frozen embryos, all day 5, so chances are they will be good ones, as long as they survive the thaw. Our plan is to only put one in this time around. We'll keep trying to get pregnant until our frosties are gone, and then we're done. No way am I going through the whole IVF process again, plus it's just too expensive, even with our insurance paying 50%.

Good luck with your decision

 

DH and I have agreed to try for another one and are hoping to start trying no earlier than the summer, that way they would be about 2 years apart (plus my DH turns 40 next May and he says he doesn't want to be any older). He agreed to have them 3 years apart max but I am not sure what age gap I should have them. 2 or 3 years? I know I would be busy either way. I would like them close in age and I know there would be alot of diapers but then again 3 years would be nice too? I have to think some more about the age gap but I am leaning towards a 2 year age difference. I just can't wait! I love my babies and I would have lots if we could afford it!

Meg, Mother of Fraternal Twin Boys
Born June 10, 2006 @ 37weeks!

*Stats*
Jacob William
Birth-7lbs & 20 inches long
1 Month-8lbs11oz & 22 inches long
2 Months-12lbs4oz & 22.5 inches long
3 Months-14lbs10oz & 23.75 inches long
4 Months-17lbs & 25.5 inches long
5 Months-18lbs3oz & 26.5 inches long
6 Months-19lbs1oz & 27.75 inches long
7 Months-20lbs2.5oz & 27.75 inches long

Nathan Alan
Birth-5lbs7oz & 19.5 inches long
1 Month-7lbs7oz & 21 inches long
2 Months-10lbs7oz & 21.75 inches long
3 Months-12lbs10oz & 23.5 inches long
4 Months-14lbs3oz & 25.5 inches long
5 Months-15lbs12oz & 26.5 inches long
6 Months-16lbs5oz & 27.5 inches long
7Months-17lbs2.5oz & 28 inches long

 

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But keep in mind that it may not happen that way. I know so many people who had unexpected pregnancies


I got pregnant again when the girls were 7.5 months old...didn't plan that, but we are so glad that it happened. Dh really wouldn't mind 1 or 2 more, but I don't think I can handle another one right now. Maybe when Chloe is a little bit older.

Sue

 

We are definitely trying for a few more. I'm from a family of 8 children and would love to have a larger family. Maybe not 8 kids though We are thinking 5 or 6. Me 5, my DH 6. We'll see what happens... We hope to try for our next right before the twins turn 2. Hopefully there will be an almost 3 year span between the twins and our next baby. And we hope for one at a time

 

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Crystal

 

We want maybe one or two more, we will probably start trying when the twins are two and half or three. DH has optometry school to finish and we will be away from the help of family. Also, since my babies are spontaneous fraternal twins I have a 1 in 5 chance of having them again. Another thing, is looking back now, I wish I would have put some more gap in age between ds#1 and the twins. He and I needed more time of him being the baby. I think it is a decision that only you, your dh and if your religious God can decide what is best for you. Hope this helps!

 

We haven't decided yet if we'll have any more kids - part of me is still amazed that we suddenly have 3 children after just 2 pregnancies! Still, DH and I are only 30, and I've had very easy, healthy pregnancies (the twins were born at 38 weeks), plus I had a VBAC with the twins so I'd be comfortable trying that again. I can't definitively say "We're done" - it's hard for me to believe that I'll never be pregnant again, plus DH and I have always said we wanted 3 or 4 children... but since our little guys are fraternal, we have a high chance of MORE twins, and 5 children seems crazy right now! Basically, we're going to wait a couple of years and reevaluate our family then.

 

I am now done, but I think having two 2-year-olds and an infant (or two) would be really hard. Keep in mind, though, if you wait until they are 2 to try, the twins would probably be 3 before one arrives.

That said, my daughter was 3 when the twins arrived, and it is still pretty challenging. She is just at that age where she still needs a lot of help with certain things, so she's not quite old enough to be a big help... but she's just old enough to be great at sabotage. So who knows? Maybe even age 4-5 is better.

All said, though, there is probably no perfect age. One could argue that once the older children are too old, they will have a harder time adjusting to a newcomer.

I do know I have a friend who had twins and then had another baby when they were 12. She was in town and we met up for dinner. I was so envious that she had so much HELP with her baby from having older girls!!! I'm sure that makes things a ton easier. I also know someone who married a man with teenagers. When they had a baby, she already had babysitters and the teens just loved helping with the baby.

Good luck with whatever you decide. I do know someone posted here that your chances of a second set of twins if you have fraternal twins is insanely high, like 40 percent. So I would only go into it knowing there are good odds of having another two, and wait until you're both ready for four children.

 

It's interesting to hear everyone's perspectives. I guess I should have added to my original post that we did IVF to get the twins and that will be the only way we will be able to conceive again. So if we want more, it will have to be an full-on try for it.

I am much like the pp that said she found it hard to believe she wouldn't be preggo again. I often look at my babies and am amazed that they are here and they came from me AT THE SAME TIME, LOL. We tried for so long and it's just amazing to me.

I need to soul search a little more. DH thinks I am CRAZY for thinking about this so soon, esp. since this is the first month I have really felt like I have a pattern to my days and weeks, and in an actual routine. He is so in love with the babies that he said he'd be up for it if I were. And the bonus is there's no added pressure since we have b/g...I would even be up for being "surprised" the next time!

I love my twins, but I really would like to experience a singleton as well. I'd love to give breastfeeding another try as well! It's a lot to think about but I've got time so that's good!

Anyone get preggo on a FET??

 

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Originally posted by 2peasNApod:
I love my twins, but I really would like to experience a singleton as well. I'd love to give breastfeeding another try as well! It's a lot to think about but I've got time so that's good!




I had so many issues with BF my first (all of which were caused by bad hospital nurse advice and discouragement in the NICU) that I really did feel much better prepared to BF with the twins, so I can understand that. It filled me with guilt with my first. I did BF, but was never able to do much than supplement in a minor way with BM with my first. With the twins, I was determined not to let that happen again... and I exclusively BF both for three months (even with one in the NICU for three weeks and the NICU nurses and doctors pressuring me EVERY VISIT to supplement), then had to supplement from three months on but they still got quite a bit of BM until just a couple months ago when they both lost all interest in feeding.

Anyway, I just wanted to say it is easier the second time around when you have more knowledge of it.

Good luck!

 

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Originally posted by Safari:
I think you can plan for whatever you want or think is best. But keep in mind that it may not happen that way. I know so many people who had unexpected pregnancies. And alot more who had miscarriages, losses, infertility, etc. Basically, you can try to plan. But life (and death) sometimes just happens.

Well said, speaking from a similar experience myself. Our "plan" after our singleton was to have one more when she was 3. However, we experienced secondary infertility (dh and I were both only 27 at that point), and then finally conceived another singleton, only to lose him half-way through my pregnancy. My third pregnancy was with the twins.

So, as you plan to possibly expand your family, just remember to be open to whatever comes. We are done. I couldn't hold up under another pregnancy after losing our son and then going through a twin pg. So that's it for us. Dh had the big V done when the twins were 2 months old; no regrets.

Good luck to whatever it is you decide to do!

 

My husband and I would like to be done having children by the time he is 30, so we can retire early and enjoy our golden years. The girls will be around 2 when we plan to start trying again and if all goes well they will be 3-4 when a new little bundle arrives (hopefully only one bundle this time). We only planned on having two children but since the twins, I keep thinking I would like to be pregnant one more time. I feel 3 will be the perfect number for us.

My cousins waited until her twins were 4 to have another and she likes that time gap a lot. The boys can help with their little sister and aren't jealous about not having all mom's attention.

 

I want to start trying in a couple of months for another one (or 2 if we're lucky ), but DH says he is done. However, when we start putting away stuff we're not using for the boys anymore (clothes that are now too small, bottles from the hospital, etc.), DH wants to save everything, just in case. I think we will actually start trying again when the boys are about 9 months old. I think DH secretly wants more but is afraid to go through what we went through with my delivery. Also, if I got pregnant with twins again, I would be thrilled! I love having twins and I wouldn't mind having more!