An open letter to mothers of twins (from a friend)

I posted this in the Expecting Twins forum earlier this evening, but it's much more relevant here ... and I'm a little post happy tonight ... these babies and my two big kids about sent me over the edge this evening (to the wine, actually - maybe to the Betty? do they have kids at the Betty? if not, sign me up! kidding. sort of.). Here's an open letter to mothers of twins. This comes from a girl I went to college with - she and her husband decided to give up a very comfortable life in a very comfortable part of town to begin a ministry to serve inner city families, particularly children, in Dallas. They have four of their own children - between 5 and 10 years old - and have taken in a number of children who have been rescued from their own homes. They recently had a set of nine-month-old twins placed with them by Child Protective Services ... here is her assessment, which I found hilarious - and true. Should you be hanging looking for entertainment while feeding babies (I am proficient at holding a bottle with my chin and scrolling with my other hand, heresy, I know), you might find her blog entertaining - here's the link - http://hoodmamamel.blogspot.com/ - I am addicted. And inspired.


Sunday, October 4, 2009
An open letter to mothers of twins.
Over the past week, having new twins in my house, I have come to the realization that I may need to apologize to some of you for comments I may have made, and things I may have done in my dark, unenlightened past.

To save time, I am writing this post instead of calling or writing each of you individually or whatever Emily Post would say was proper form and all.

If this doesn't apply to you, read along anyway, you may be unknowlingly guilty of the same offenses.

Dear Mothers of Twins,

Please forgive me for ever saying how nice it must have been to get two babies and only have to lose the baby weight once.

Or that it must be so fun since they're both doing the exact same thing.


Or, "I could never have a night-nurse. I wouldn't like someone in my house all the time, and besides, I cherish that time to bond with the babies alone."


Or for ever inviting you to meet me for lunch at a busy, hectic place without good parking or a door that will accomodate a side-by-side double stroller.

Or for being slightly judgmental when you gave your older children chocolate cake for breakfast. It DOES contain eggs.


Or for wondering why you fell asleep during our conversation about leggings vs. skinny jeans. And wondering if you realized you had spit-up on your left shoulder and smushed cereal bar on your right and neither of those "accessories" were featured in People Magazines Style Watch.


And finally, at least for now, forgive me for not being sympathetic enough when you were racked with guilt because if you were holding one crying baby, the other was just sitting on the floor crying by himself and you wondered if he would be scarred for life because of it.

Or for not praying for you every stinkin' day.

Sincerely,
Hoodmama


And for the mothers of triplets or more. I am wearing saccloth and ashes for you, and sending you a case of Diet Coke. And a medal.

 

I LOVE it when someone else finally "gets it" as in they finally understand how hard it is LOL. ^^^ This is the worst for me and I do worry about scarring them because of it haha. Thanks for posting this!

 

Very nice letter. I liked very much her blog and admire a lot her generosity of taking care of so many No. of children.

 

Gotta love that!

 

:Clap: Great letter!

 

I have a new thing to read online! I really like this blog- & the letter! Thanks amy!

PS- My BFF 'got it' last month and gave me the verbal equivalent to the open letter (boys were a month old). She's a veteran of 4. This really is hard stuff we're doing here!

 

Love it Amy, thanks for posting! What a great family.

 

Wow, thanks for posting that! It is so hard to have two crying babies the want/need to be held, and to only have one set of arms!

DH's SIL volunteered to watch the babies overnight for me, while we stayed with them, so I could get some uninteruppted sleep when the babies were about two months old. Boy did she look rough come morning! She had a new found appreciation for twins --- and for parents of twins! She was a nanny for years and has two kids --- she thought she was prepared. opcorn:

I just moved over to the 1+ yr forum as my twins are now one year old, and I can say raising twins is hard but what a sense of accomplishment to survive the first year!

Good job Ladies!

 

Awesome letter. I loved it. My SIL watched my twins when they were about 2 months old so we could go see Fiddler on the Roof and when we picked them up she said I don't know how you do it, I'm exhausted after just a few hours. It gave her a whole new respect for mothers of multiples too.

 

That was great to read! Thanks for sharing :Clap:

 

Love it!!

 

So great...thanks for sharing!

 

Thanks for sharing that. Loved it!

 

THANK YOU!!!!!!