Am I Wrong?

I am 23 Weeks pregnant with fraternal twins. I recently went for a check up and started to discuss my birth plan(my office has 4 doc's and this appointment wasnt with my primary doctor).....before i could even get a word out she says "just so you know since you're having twins there is a 95% chance you will be having a c-section" I said but i am only 23 weeks how can you make that call already? and i was told that delivering twins vaginally is "too risky". Am i wrong for being totally pissed? I mean if the positioning of the babies makes it necessary for a c-section then fine, but to tell me so early i just feel so not in control...and i would like to try and deliver the way i want to if possible...

 

I would be PISSED.

In fact, and this might be a little late for you, when I first found out it was twins, I actually changed doctors because the doctor I was seeing immediately started talking about a C-Section and I was only 12 weeks! When I asked about a vaginal delivery, he said we could "try"...but it was very condescending and sounded only like he was appeasing me than telling me the truth.

So, I interviewed three other doctors until I found one that basically said that a c-section would be a LAST RESORT. In other words, we would obviously not jeopordize my health or the babies, but that a vaginal birth would be the ultimate goal.

You are pretty far along, so changing docs might be out of the question, but if you don't clear up this issue, I would seriously consider just transfering all of my paperwork elsewhere.

 

I would be so pissed too. Are you more likely to deliver twins by c-section, yes. However, it is up to you and the comfort level of your Dr. In my case, Baby A is head down and my Dr is happy with a Baby B breech extraction. I was not expecting the amount of complications that comes with Baby B and that I should have an epidural.

If I were you, I would put that Dr on the, "I do not want to see" list.

You have to be happy,
Jenn

 

You have a right to be pissed and i would find a dr that wasn't so set on a c-section. Both my lil guys are transverse and my dr still is positive about them having the ability to move into position for vaginal delivery. I have to say it makes a difference having a dr that is positive and on your side when it comes to all aspects of pregnancy, L&D.

 

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I am 23 Weeks pregnant with fraternal twins. I recently went for a check up and started to discuss my birth plan(my office has 4 doc's and this appointment wasnt with my primary doctor).....before i could even get a word out she says "just so you know since you're having twins there is a 95% chance you will be having a c-section" I said but i am only 23 weeks how can you make that call already? and i was told that delivering twins vaginally is "too risky". Am i wrong for being totally pissed? I mean if the positioning of the babies makes it necessary for a c-section then fine, but to tell me so early i just feel so not in control...and i would like to try and deliver the way i want to if possible...


I think csection rates for twins are actually roughly 50%. Not 95%. I would be annoyed.

 

Would I be "pissed?" No. But, definitely irritated.

I think it's important for women to be prepared for a c-section. That doesn't mean you have to resign yourself to having one, but that you educate yourself and be ready in case it happens. Be glad that you know that there is a chance ahead of time (my first son was born via emergency c-section at 36 weeks) and use it to your benefit. I should probably say here that I am not a big fan of c-sections. I've had two (and a VBAC) and they aren't fun. But, it's so much easier when you know what to expect.

That all being said, if you're uncomfortable with any doctor...never hesitate to ask for another opinion or find another doctor. She should have been more encouraging and given you the opportunity to make your own choices.

 

I agree with previous posts. I would talk to your Dr. and possibly consider finding a different one. My Dr. has been very encouraging about a vaginal delivery. Baby B is breech and she is still confident that I can deliver vaginally. You should have a say in your care but, realize that a C-section may be necessary. I will be delivering next Wed. I am wanting a vaginal delivery but, have decided I will have the C-section if needed. Maybe that Dr. is not very experienced with twins. You may need to find one who is more experienced. Good Luck!

 

i guess i should have maybe brought the issue up sooner but i figured when im about halfway along to start to discuss my birth plan....these are my first babies so i am kind of new at this whole pregnancy thing(plus for the first 4 months my head was in the toilet bowl most of the time) I made an appointment with my primary doctor in the practice next week so i will discuss with him, but now im worried that he will have the same outlook as she does! I wouldnt even know how to go about switching doctors if need be

 

Not to add stress to your plight, but keep in mind that even if your primary doctor doesn't necessarily share the 95% c/s views, if you go into labor when that other doctor is on call, you might still have to deal with him and his perspective on the whole thing. I would consider calling a few other doctors (and you can even call the LD nurses and ask them for their opinion)...and probably interview a couple of other places. I know it seems late in your pregnancy but you only get to birth these babies ONCE...it should be in the way that you want it (barring an emergency or complications of course). Of course a c/s may end up being necessary, but it is YOUR body and YOUR babies and if you want to attempt a vaginal birth that is YOUR decision. Remember, you are a consumer...you wouldn't put up with a plumber or landscaper who didn't share your views on how to do the job...

 

Just a quick hello and on a side note, you could still be having Identicals. I assume you have 2 sacs/2 placentas and are presuming they are Frats. There is a good chance they are, BUT there is no way (other than an amnio) to tell while in utero if they are frats or not. You will need to wait till birth and blood types.

The only great way to tell in utero is Boy/Girl. Or ID's sharing a sack and placenta.

I was in the same boat. At 12 weeks, the Dr. said they would probably be c section. We always were going vag though, but at 36 weeks, they werent down far enough, so I settled for a section at 37 weeks.. It worked out well with family flying in. Dates and Flights and all.

Hugs, M

 

I gave birth vaginally and it wasnt decided until 2 days beforehand as DD looked as though she might flip once DS was born. In fact my OB/GYN had told me the week before that I had a 50% chance of a c/s. I was adamant that I didnt want a VB with one baby and a c/s with the other but my OB/GYN felt confident to go for the VB. DD did flip when DS was born (she enjoyed having all that space to herself!) and she came out feet first. There were a few tense minutes as her head got stuck but everything turned out OK.

I think they tell you c/s as a precaution as 50% of twins are born this way. Also, in Spain, if you are over 35 years old they automatically perform a c/s. I wouldnt worry too much until later down the line when the babies are positioning themselves. GL & KUP!