I have posted about their sleep issues before but I guess I am just wondering if anyone else is or has dealt with this AND when will it get better? My girls will be 5 mo. on the 14th and sometimes STTN (rarely) but for the most part wake up crying in the middle of the night, anywhere from 1-5+ times a night. They aren't hungry they just need soothing, but I am SICK AND FREAKIN' TIRED of soothing. When will they stop doing this. We swaddle (which they break out of), white noise, paci for one the other won't take it. Please just tell me I am not the only one going through this exact same thing? Thanks for all of your responses!
I'm sorry :hug99: but you said be honest, our boys are good sleepers.... They have been worse about going down now though.... I just wanted to give you one of these :hug99: Shannon
Mine were the same way (but I did nurse them every time they woke). Are they crying for paci's? Cryign because they brake out of the swaddle? Do they wake each other? Most nights is it 1 time or 5 times?
My two just started sttn abou a week ago.. sometimes DD will wake up and sometimes not. Before that it was every 2-3 hours up until about 7 months when i changed their schedule. My twins were still in a swing at 5 months!!
You are NOT alone!! My twins will be 6 months on Monday and have NEVER sttn... never not even once... Mine don't need to be "soothed" but need a bottle... they only drink a couple of oz and then fall back asleep, I try to keep them up to eat but it just doesn't work. It is very frustrating, and unfortunately we're actually pretty used to it... Good nights, they go to bed at 7pm and are up at 12a, 4, and then up for good at 6am. We did start reading that HSHHC book and that really helped get the naps in order, so at least they nap really well during the day. If we have to do CIO in a couple of months then we'll try it, but for now we just deal with it. I hope this helps you know that you are NOT alone!! :hug99:
My twins didn't STTN until about 7 - 8 months, consistently. You are not alone. But I can tell you that now they go to bed at 7:00 p.m. and I rarely hear a peep until 6:00 a.m. You'll get there - some babies just take longer than others. And I know it's hard until you get there. :hug99:
We aren't there yet either. We were at getting up just once a night- but last week we transitioned them out of our room and into the nursery and they have "regressed" to waking two to three times per night per baby. :angry:
At 6mo my girls started sporatically sttn but never on the same night, I was up 1-5x a night as well. At 8mo I did CIO, it took 1 night and they have been sttn consistently since. Start making some rules, like only feed them if its been 3hrs, or dont go to them unless they have been crying for 10mins. I think my biggest problem was that I did jump everytime they made a peep because we share a bedroom. Also, start weaning from the swaddle if they are breaking free of it. I remember at that age I was having to get up in the middle of the night just to reswaddle! It was ridiculous! I freed a limb every Friday morning. You are not alone! Hope this helps!! Good luck!
OK, sorry, mine started sleeping through at 2 and 3 months. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but to tell you that it IS possible. And you have the right to good nights sleep. How much they weight matters a lot. My advice is if they weight at least 13 lbs, then they should be able to make it through the night without feeding. So you do have to make sure they're getting enough feedings during the day. On the other hand, if as you say they're not hungry and only want soothing, I totally agree with the advices below: QUOTE(cohlee @ Jul 2 2008, 10:16 PM) [snapback]857772[/snapback] Start making some rules, like only feed them if its been 3hrs, or dont go to them unless they have been crying for 10mins. I think my biggest problem was that I did jump everytime they made a peep because we share a bedroom. Also, start weaning from the swaddle if they are breaking free of it. I remember at that age I was having to get up in the middle of the night just to reswaddle! It was ridiculous! I freed a limb every Friday morning. Hang in there! :hug99:
Mine are getting pretty good now, at almost 7 months, but we are still swaddeling them (2 blankets and a swaddler). If we don't swaddle, I am up at least a dozen times!!!!!!!!!!! and they only sleep about 7 hours. With the swaddle, they sleep 10 to 11 hours. I usually have to sooth once or twice...sometimes not at all, but rarely. Most of the soothing is just giving them a paci and leaving, but once in a while (esp when teething...yeah, THAT is coming for you) I am up with one for 15-30 minutes...which is when we crack open the Tylenol.
At 5 months I was still getting up a few times to replace a binkie for Jimmy. Quentin would not sleep past 3:30 or 4 am. They slept in our bedroom together in a PnP and if they didn't settle down within 5 minutes I would remove the waker and take them downstairs and lie down with them on the couch. I did this with Quentin every morning at his 3:30 4 wake up. He would fall back to sleep with me, or sometimes in the PNP we had in the kitchen. At 6 months we bought a 3 bedroom house and all our kids slept through to at least 5am that very first night. It made a big difference having thier own space to sleep.I still was up to replace Jimmy's binkie a few times a night until around 8 months. For the past few weeks they have been going down at 6:30 pm and are up at 5am on the dot and I have not heard them during the night. My sleep issue is: how do I get them to sleep past 5am??? It does not seem to matter when I feed them or put them down at night...but I will post our current issue on another thread. It does get better but much slower than we tired mommas would like. Good luck! Loralyn
You are not alone! :hug99: My girls were like this so we did the CIO method to get them sleeping through. It was so hard to do, but I am thankful for it. Good luck! :hug99:
you aren't the only one, BTDT, but after CIO (started @ 5 1/2 mos) I'm convinced that's the only thing that really works. I worried about it, but now I know that it doesn't hurt them, and they will be much happier and much more rested after they get out of the habit of waking up. I'm not trying to talk you into anything but I know it works. Our boys are excellent sleepers now, 7-7:30 pm - 6:00-6:30 am. They only wake up maybe once every couple weeks, and then only cry out maybe 10-15 seconds. Good Luck! :hug99:
*hugs* My boys just started STTN. Here and there one will wake up once or so and need his paci. I don't know about the swaddling, we never did that. They hated it in the hospital and I tried telling the nurses to leave it be, but of course they didn't, but we didn't do it at home. Are they waking up b/c they are breaking out it? Is it time to stop swaddling? Dianna
I didn't swaddle at your age but mine were tummy sleepers. I put them on their backs when they were very small but when they didn't seem to shut out the world, I found they did better on their belly. I am aware of the SIDs but I chose it anyway.
Your not alone :hug99: … I think it’s a combo of every baby IS different and a little to do w/ mom jumping (again this is only my opion)… I only say this because w/ my oler ds he didn’t sleep through the night until he was 9m when I finally cio (I think I cried more out side his door then him :cray: )… BUT my twins are starting to STTN… I don’t consider it STTN but one or the other sleeps 7 solid (the other will go 10) and then I have to sooth him on and off for the next 3 and then I give them a bottle they never finish and then back to sleep for 2 more hours… the diffrence is a little me (I don’t jump) AND weight… my older DS was tinny… like 5th percentile… and my twins both just hit 13 pounds @ 2m they were 85% at 7 w (born 36w 4d). I don’t necessarly agree w/ my ped BUT when I asked him his opnion on sleep… he said he belives its weight, and when they hit 13 pounds each they should STTN… and if I wanted to do CIO they should be ready by the 4th of July… well I didn’t plan on doing CIO w/ 2 monthers, but this week was the week they went 10 hr between bottles… and the 4th is Friday… just some thoughts to add to the confusion GL Elizabeth
To be honest mine are usually really good sleepers. They started STTN very early. I don't know at what age you can let them CIO? (and I know that's easier said than done, I can't let mine CIO if they wake in the night). Maybe you could try waiting 10 minutes and see if they calm themselves down before you go in? Are you using a baby monitor? I found that turning the baby monitor off helped all 3 of us sleep better, because I couldn't hear every little noise.
Definitely not alone. I was doing the same thing you are at that age and it sucked! I was exhausted! The good news...it doesn't last forever. We finally did CIO when the boys were nine months old and they became amazing sleepers after that. CIO worked for us! Hang in there, I know it's hard and getting up that many times a night is horrible. :hug99:
My kids were like that. It was very frustrating. They got to the point where they would only sleep 15-20 minute stretches at nite and wake up screaming. They did this until they were 10 months old and we just couldn't take it anymore so we tried CIO. We were at a last resort and didn't know what else to do. It worked, I felt horrible (and still do) about it, but we just couldn't get any sleep at all. :hug99:
I am with you-mine go to sleep at 7:30, wake anywhere between 12:30-2:30am and then again at 4:30-5:30am to eat and then sleep until 7-7:30...It hasnt really bothered me too much because they dont wake to be soothed they just want to eat and go back to sleep. My dh feeds them the first time and then I do the next. We are only waking once each. We have discussed CIO in the near future but for now mine arent great eaters during the day so I figure they must need an extra bottle in the middle of the night. Hopefully we can get them to take more during the day and it will just fix itself-wishful thinking, I know! I just wanted to let you know you are not alone-FWIW my dd didnt sleep through the night until she was well over 1yo so hopefully these two do better then that! Are you thinking abot CIO? Do they eat plenty during the day? If so they may be waking out of habit and need to learn to self sooth-it is up to you.
We had to do CIO during the night with our boys just a few weeks ago because they were waking out of habit for a bottle, not for the need. It was tough the first couple of nights, but now they are great sleepers, they sleep right through (pretty much- they're usually awake at 4:30 and I give them a bottle then and they go back to sleep til 6:00)... but they are learning to self soothe. I never thought I'd be an advocate for CIO- I didn't do it with my first, but I wish I had because she's 3 and I'm still laying in bed with her til she falls asleep. Because my boys are learning to self soothe and fall asleep on their own, we'll all benefit from it!! Good luck- I know it's hard, but it gets easier!
Mine didn't STTN consistently until we did CIO at 8 months. I think most people get to the point where they're so tied and so fed up that they're finally ready for CIO. Maybe this is your breaking point? I also agree that you can start easing into being less responsive at night by first waiting 5 or 10 minutes to see if they'll stop crying on their own. Also, have you tried the Miracle Blanket for swaddling? I swear babies cannot break out of that thing. It's worth a try if you don't mind prolonging their need for swaddling.
Mine will soon be 6 months, and rarely STTN. They usually wake from 1 to 3 times to nurse. It would be nice to get more sleep, but it's usually no big deal! Of course, I will have my periodic 4 am hissy fits ("I just want to sleeeeeppppp!"), but overall, no problems - they are babies, so I don't expect them to STTN... and it will be a long time before I consider CIO... like if they are still night-waking at age one. Edit to add: While night-waking (especially to feed and go right back to sleep) doesn't really bug me, I get really frustrated when the boys don't nap properly - like when one won't go down for nap, but the other does, or when one wakes after 30 minutes even though they needed 2 hours... Today I'm dealing with a series of 30 minute naps, and 2 cranky babies... makes me feel like going back to bed and sticking my head under my pillow!
Have you heard of the book, "On Becoming Baby Wise"? I started using this method at 2 months and after just one week my twins (now 4 months) have been sleeping 9-11 hours at night. Included some crying in order to teach them to self-sooth...but now they can nap anywhere (3 naps a day for 1.5-2.5 hours) and sleep all night. They provide support regardless of how you feed your baby (breast or bottle). Deffinilty worth taking a look at. Good luck
Dont feel bad, my boys are 7 months old and one STTN and one does not even close! So I know its not my parenting, as they are treated the same. They are both over 18 lbs.
My frirst three were all like that. Please, my two-year-old is still in my bed! Some kids are just not good sleepers. :mellow:
You are definitely NOT alone...I'm right there with you. DD seems the worst and she has a lot of gas issues. We recently have worked on weaning them from their swaddlers and geting DD to sleep on her tummy (helps with gas issues). We are taking her to the chiropractor too. Lastly we've been letting her CIO a little bit (just a few minutes at a time) so she can start learning to self-soothe (part of the reason we are weaning from the swaddlers). GOOD LUCK...I know how exhausted you must be b/c I feel like a walking zombie!!!
I can't give you any better advice then the pp's. I just wanted to give you a :hug99:. Hang in there, it will get better!
Nope, you are not the only one. It took mine until 9 months to STTN. And believe me, I was so ready for them to do it way earlier than that. It was one of the hardest times of having twins for me...the nighttime
Ughhhhhh!!!! This was a really annoying time for me too so I totally know how you feel. :hug99: Honestly mine didn't start consistantly STTN until almost 10 months. It finally got better around 8.5 months but they were up at least twice to nurse until then and a few other times just because. I finally had to just let them work it out if it had been less than three hours since they had eaten. I couldn't take it I was a walking zombie all day. I never did a full blown CIO but I figured that if they could go for 3 hours during the day then they could go for at least 3 hours at night without eating. Once they figured out I wasn't running in there every single time they cried they started only waking to eat. I really hope it gets better for you.
You're not the only one. Our boys are almost 7 months. The big guy will sleep 8 hrs a night. Our younger guy will do about 5 usually then wake up. He's usually 1x/night....sometimes 3-7x's/night. But being he has GERD pretty bad + teething (4+ at once).... I'm going with that might be our issue. Hang in there! Our guys didn't sleep decent until 5+ months
