Am I Overreacting?

Hey.

So today one twin woke up pretty early from a nap, burped a couple of times and was just fussy. It wasn't quite time to eat & his brother was sleeping so well, so my DH offered to take him to the mailboxes in our apartment complex. It's about a 2 minute walk. I'm on the phone, so I'm not really paying attention to all of this. All of the sudden, I realize he's taken out our 3 month old in literally 13 degree weather in just his normal clothes. No hat, jacket, mittens or socks on.

I freaked out. I actually saw him leave & opened out slider and told him that he needed to cover up the baby. He did not listen & proceeded on his walk to the mailbox. When I realized this, I threw a dry towel in the dryer to warm up & waited for their return. I took the baby from him, crying, & wrapped him up. The baby was not crying or fussing when he came back in, but it really upset me. My DH doesn't see anything wrong with what he did. He thinks b/c he was holding the baby up close & personal, the baby was fine.

So I'm asking- am I nuts? My DH said he'd put socks/hats on in the future, but only for my sake. He thinks I'm just overreacting.

Thanks for the input.

 

:hug: It wouldn't have bothered me... especially since it was only out to the mailboxes and back but that's just me. I'm sorry it upset you.

 

I would have probably reacted the same way you did. Sure, he was up close to your DH body, but his skin and head were exposed to the frigid air. At least socks and a hat would help this.

 

I don't think I'd be too upset, although I do agree that socks and a hat in the future would be a good idea because of the exposed skin. That temperature is way too cold for bare feet and hands, especially at their age.

 

I would not have cried over it, but I might have been a bit ticked that he didnt have any socks or a hat on.

 

He needed socks and a hat at least. But since the baby seemed ok I wouldn't be too upset, as long as your hubby agrees never to do it again!

 

I would have freaked out. My DH doesn't think before he does things. You may want to remind him that your hormones are still all over the place and even though you didn't handle it as calmly as you could have, he was in the wrong.

 

Did your DH go out without any shoes or socks?

I probably wouldn't have been terribly upset if it was me (and since it was a short trip)...but like pps...socks and a hat would be nice for the exposed areas in the future.

 

Oops. I should have mentioned I'm a bit of a crier by trade (it doesn't take much, LOL).

My DH isn't a good indicator of weather. He wore a short sleeved shirt, pants & my Crocs w/o socks on. He would walk outside through snow barefoot, though. That's why I don't trust his judgement in this. He used to leave his windows open when it snowed before we were married. I think he secretly wants to live outside! :lol:

:thanks: :thanks: :thanks: for giving me a bit of perspective. It's so hard with babies- I don't want to be overprotective (& generally am not), but hypothermia is scary!

 

I agree that it would probably have been a better idea to dress the baby a bit more warmly, but I'm sure a quick trip like that won't actually hurt him/her. :hug:

 

This thread is really kind of funny. I love all of you. Original poster.. God bless you. I'm totally the opposite of you and so it tickles me. I think I used to be you but after five kids I'm not so much anymore. I guess I would say this is probably not enough of an offense to let it cause marital discourse. Give him a hug, tell him you'd prefer for your youngsters to stay toasty this winter. On the bright side, your son will probably be just like his dad, tough as nails I would assume based on his tolerance to the weather.

 

I kinda have to agree with Leslie, I'm pretty lenient about a lot of things (especially after 4 kids) so I wouldn't have let it bother me too much But I understand how worrisome it can be to be unsure! :hug:

 

I would not have liked that either but then again it gets into the -30s here so I tend to err on the side of caution.

 

If my husband had come back in and I realized the baby wasn't dressed to go outside I would have been annoyed and told him not to do that again. The part that would really tick me off is that you told him to cover up the baby and he ignored it and went outside anyway.

 

i do think you over reacted a bit...i also think a hat is important in cold weather, but i think it's important for EVERYONE to wear one when it's cold outside...that or have a really full head of hair, which my babies never do (hair, not hats)...at least you got him to agree to a hat...

 

:hug: I would have done the same think :gah: . After all, your son is still a 3 months old baby, and 13 degree outside is quite cold...and WITHOUT socks and hat!!!..Obviously DH believe that their LOs are tough and strong like their dad forgetting that they are still newborn babies Fortunately that things ended fine and your son didn't got a cold or flu because of that. :hug:

 

Hahaha! This was my thought too! AND after also having 5 kids things just seem different I guess... Besides, 20 years from now little things like this will be forgotten, but 20 years from now I still want to be with Jim!

 

I would have been pissed. Seriously, they are so little! And yeah, the trip wasn't far and they weren't out for long, but that doesn't really matter. Your babies are little and in that kind of weather, a little bit of bundling would have been better. Just my opinion.