Am I doing the right thing?

Hello- I am 26 weeks pregnant with twins. When I went to see my high risk ob 4 weeks ago he said that I was effaced at 32% two weeks later when I went back I was effaced at 26% and having some contractions which I could not feel. He instantly said I needed to be on bed rest (which I was not happy about) so I went to my regular OB and she said I could keep working. However, since the high risk OB was so instant and made it sound like I would go into preterm labor if I didn’t stop working right now…I surcummed and went on bed rest. I don’t know if I made the right decision or not. Is it unrealistic to think that I may be able to go back to work after my next appointment on April 11th?

 

Here are my thoughts. The High Risk OB has more experience with High Risk Pregnancies than your regular OB. Your pregnancy is high risk. If that doctor thinks you should be on bedrest, I would follow the doctor's orders. The longer you keep those little babies in there, the healthier they will be. If you are not feeling the contractions, you could go into preterm labor which is not healthy for anyone. So, I think by accepting the high rish doc's orders and stopping work, etc., you are definitely doing the right thing for your little ones. Their is a bedrest forum here in Expecting so you can connect with other mothers to be that are in the same situation.

ETA: Welcome to TS!!! Congrats on your twin pregnancy!!

 

I would say that if you were told by the high risk doctor to be on bedrest, than you should probably stay on bedrest. I know it is hard, but things can change so quickly, especially when it comes to twins. It is so much better to be safe rather than sorry. As far as going back to work, I would leave that up to your Dr that took you out of work. I fought my Dr about continuing to work, and looking back I wish I would have listened in the first place and just taken it easy. :hug:

 

i fully agree with pps. your high risk ob has way more experience with this than your regular ob. and if you aren't feeling your contractions and you are already starting to efface things can change really fast. i never argued with my docs when they told me to do something, i was always to afraid that if i didn't follow their orders and something bad happened i would never be able to forgive myself, but i was a super paranoid pregnant person... :unsure:

good luck with the rest of your pregnancy, you are almost there!!

 

Thanks for the encouragement. It is so tough to exceot that you can't do any thing for the duration of you pregnancy...especially when you feel good! I will continue to follow his orders and maybe things will be better for me at my next appointment.

 

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Thanks for the encouragement. It is so tough to exceot that you can't do any thing for the duration of you pregnancy...especially when you feel good! I will continue to follow his orders and maybe things will be better for me at my next appointment.

Big :hug: for you! It is incredibly hard, but I can promise you that it is all worth it in the end!! Good Luck!! :hug:

 

I had the oppostie happen to me.

I had a reg doc (not mine) do an US at 17 weeks adn tell me I needed to go on complete bedrest right away. It just didn't "feel" right to me so I had my doc get me right into a peri. I saw then a few days later and they told me no bedrest, I was fine. I never went on bedrest adn was running errands, shopping, driving etc right up until I had them at 36 weeks. Docs can be wrong but I'd trust the peri more. Personally, if it were me, I'd get a second opinion.

 

I'm sorry to say that I agree w/ everyone that says listen to your specialist. I don't envy your position one bit and I'm SO sorry that the "b" word came up so soon for you, but if it were me, I know I'd never forgive myself if I put my babies at risk of complications because I second-guessed my doc. It's just not worth it. Cook, cook, cook those babies and who knows...maybe if you follow orders, you'll find yourself off bedrest at some point. I doubt that NOT listening to him/her will improve your condition, tho.

Good luck and big :hug: to you!!!
Eve

 

I agree with everyone else, that eventhough it is hard to be on bedrest, it is the best thing for your babies right now. :hug: :hug: You can do it momma. Hang in there. :hug: Welcome to Twinstuff, and congratulations on your twins!

 

thank you for everyone support! I am so glad I found this sight!

 

I was lucky and met a twin mom who went at 26 weeks and the struggle she endured with months of her babies in NICU and one of her daughters lost sight in one eye. It really scared me even more than listening to stories on here because it made it soooooo real. After that I really took care of myself and slept when I could, rested when I could, etc. There are two babies that you are responsible for in there. You want to be able to look back with NO REGRETS. Amazing how being a "mom" starts even before they are born.

Heather

 

Please listen to your dr. I was on complete bedrest (only getting up to pee and shower) for 8 weeks. Every day in the womb is less days in the Nicu and less risk for health problems in the babies. The HR doc knows best

 

Personally, if either doc mentioned bedrest to me, my head would be on the pillow until I was told otherwise. I know it's hard, but it's just not worth the risk to the babies. :hug: (9 weeks of BR here!)

 

I agree with everyone here by saying - get to bed!!! And listen to your doctor. You can't risk an early delivery. I spent just about the whole first trimester on bedrest. It sucks, but it's important. I'm 31 weeks now, and my doctors are telling me to slow down and rest more. It's hard to give up the freedom & listen to them, but I don't want to deliver early if I can avoid it. It's hard watching my husband go to work everyday (BTW, I got laid off from the auto industry in Jan - I'm in MI) he works 50-60 hours a week, comes home and does just about everything around the house too. I try to help and all it does is get me into trouble... I start contractions... :mellow: It's hard being busy & then having to stop. But it's for the little lives growing within us..... (OK, now I need to take my own advice here.... )