Am I Crazy?

Lately I have been thinking about adding to the family. I love this so much, I even imagine not doing it again. My hubby on the other hand was so tramatized by the birth he doesn't even want to think about having more. (the babies were fine I was not) Am I tempting fate by wanting more, I have two perfectly healthy happy lovely babies, would I be so lucky next time? And I would love to have another set of twins, but that isn't likely. Anyone else thinking this way?

 

If we were more financially stable I would be working on getting pregnant.

Dianna

 

DH already is wanting to put another one or 2 in the oven (I don't think I'd mind twins agagin) but i told him lets wait til our little ones are walking and potty trained first......but if it happens before then so be it....

 

Yes you are!!! (jk) But i am too.. I would like to have another and i have 3 already..

 

Man there must be something wrong with me. I'm thinking NO WAY these days!! I went to check your ticker and figured your babies must be older. Guess some people just have that natural motherhood instinct, and I just do not Can you tell I'm having a bad day? But if you're having those thoughts now, and even the hard early days don't phase you, I'd say go for it. Sounds like being a mom is what you were meant to do!

 

I absolutely want more... but I don't think we could afford IVF/adoption again (we adopted our twins). And we'd need a bigger house.

 

I TOTALLY want more.... I love being a mom more than I ever thought I would.... but I would like to wait until my kidlets are older and be able to go potty on their own... but no, I do not think you are crazy. I am right there with you!

 

Im not the only crazy one! lol Well, I had two singletons first, and then the twinsies. I am not very financially stable since I split with their father and I also have a desire to have a life outside of motherhood. But I do think sometimes it would be nice to have a baby-baby again.

 

Well...If you are crazy-I am too!

We "try" on October 1!

 

Um....like every day! I asked my ob at my two week check when I could start trying again. He just started laughing and then got serious and said to wait a year. Then, at my six week check I talked him into waiting around 9-10 months. So, this spring...!!!!

We did IVF (twice, worked the 2nd time) so we really can't afford another round of that. We are just hoping to be that cute little story of the couple who go through fertility and then, BAM, when least expecting it I get pregnant. I would do IVF again, but would be afraid of the risk of twins this time (sounds hilarious considering I was hoping for all three of the embryos to take last time!). I was on bedrest for four months because of a shortening cervix. I just couldn't do that again taking care of two little ones. So, if we did IVF we would literally have to transfer ONE embryo.

Another reason for my urgency is because I am 35 and I really don't have the luxury of enjoying the twins for a few years and then thinking of more. I know I want a big family, so I am just going for it now. It will be hard, but totally worth it soon enough.

Keep me posted on your situation!!

 

Me me! My ob thought I was crazy when I told him I was ready for more. I think a singleton would be nice!

 

Ummm, heck yes you are crazy, lol! I always said I wanted three but now I'm thinking these guys may be enough for us....it's all I can do to keep up with the two of them much less one more!!!!!!!! YIKES.

 

My DH wants one to two more too, but I don't. You see, in addition to the twins, I am raising my two stepchildren. I think four children is enough.

 

Dont ask me about crazy we are pregnant with #5

 

yep! but girl I am right there with you ! I think about it all the time, but then I also flip the coin and tell myself that I should be so greateful (and I Am) for my girls and they should just be it, but I do have the craving. We also would have to do IVF. I am 34 and DH is almost 37, so I think we should start figuring it out!

 

Ok, I am definitely in the minority here - but I am full of babies and don't want anymore. That first 4 months was so hard and I have not even close to forgotten what it was like, I still shudder when I think about those crying days. I always knew i was more of a toddler person, but never realized how much I wasn't a baby person until I had two! My hats off to you ladies who have twins under 4mnths and are already wanting more!

 

You are all NUTS!

 

I want another too! But not for a few years.

 

I already have 4 but I know when the boys turn 2 I will want more. I know realistically it would not be a good idea so I got Dh to get a vasectomy now so I can't make an irrational decision later. I'm a little sad that these are our last but I know it for the best.

 

NO WAY JOSE!!!
I really really did not like being pregnant & I think my DH would divorce me if he had to deal with me during pregnancy again
There is still a small part of me that would LOVE LOVE LOVE a little boy (my DH is the last boy with the family name), but I cant be guaranteed a singleton OR a boy ~ so we are calling it 'good' for now.
We can always adopt a little boy in a few years if we feel the need for more kids ~

 

Yep you can always adopt

I agree the 4 first months were the worst and I'm honestly not looking forward to that again, but I'm guessing with one it would be much easier... but given the choice I'd like to adopt again, but a 7+ month old. Maybe one day... but dh is getting too old for most international programs.

 

I love motherhood, it is what I do. (Actually, it is all I do!) We have 5, and the 4th and 5th were a total surprise. Having a big family is both overwhelming and fun at the same time. I love being pregnant and having a new baby handed to me for the first time, but that is all I will miss. I do not feel the need for more children at all, and dh had a vasectomy when twins were 2 mos. old....