Almost 10 month old not STTN

What do I do? She has very rarely STTN. She's always woken for a binky, which I never minded. She'd go back to sleep. She goes down fine, but wakes around 4am or so and WON'T go back to sleep in her crib. She just got a bottom tooth, so I thought she might be teething. We've tried giving her Motrin, but it doesn't help. She ends up in bed with us. This morning, my husband went to get Abby and I was still asleep and wouldn't you know she woke up and dove off the bed. Thankfully, she was fine, but now I know we have to do something. I'm so bad at CIO. I try for naps, but there is always a reason I go get her. She stands at her crib and screams. She knows how to get down now. I've been going in and laying her back down and sometimes that works, but not always. I'll end up getting her eventually and she'll sometimes sleep on me. Either I think she's not feeling well or she has to take a nap because we have things to do, etc. At night, she wakes Abby and then forget it. We have 2 screaming babies. I'm thinking maybe it's time to take the binky away too. I don't know if that would help or make it worse. I know I need to CIO for at least naps and maybe that would help at night? Who knows? I'm so tired, I can't think straight today.

 

This won't be any help, but my DS didn't sleep through the night until he was 11 months old. We tried CIO with him many times and he would just cry for hours. You can try it at nap, it worked for us at nap times. If she does well with it, then maybe you can give it a shot at night. Good luck!

 

Ugh, that sounds rough! I was always jealous when I heard about babies STTN early because mine never did until they were almost 9 months old and we did some CIO. I think you need to decide if you're ready to do some CIO with them. If you're not really ready to do it and be consistent, then don't try it because it can be confusing to the babies who don't understand why sometimes you come when they cry and sometimes you don't. For us, we did a Ferber-style CIO for night time only around 8 1/2 months. Baby Center has a good article on the CIO methods: http://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-tra...hods_1497112.bc

If you're not ready to CIO and don't mind them in bed with you, you could always put your mattress directly on the floor so they won't fall far if they roll out.

 

I'm not sure my boys STTN even now. Maybe 2-3 times a week, but with the milestones and illness and teeth, it seems we really struggle. Ryan is much more consistent, but Jake wakes for the paci a lot. I'm beginning to think he is talking in his sleep. Before DST, the boys work at 5am every morning. I got them to go until 5:30 by making bedtime 1/2 hr earlier. Can you play with her bedtime a little and see if she sleeps more? I also read somewhere (possibly HSHHC) that if you disrupt the pattern (by slightly waking them at a different time) they would sleep longer. I know of more than one person who had this backfire on them, but if I went in when I went to bed and gently touched Jake's back, he tended not to wake up as early. Hope it gets better for you soon, but know that you are not alone with the struggle!

 

Christie: Im so sorry you´re having to deal with this. Mine have sttn since they were 4.5 months old and I cant even begin to imagine how things are for you.

I would do what you feel comfortable doing. Im not a fan of CIO but there again Ive never had to do it. I was going to do it with DD as she was resisiting her day naps but luckily didnt have to in the end. I expect your DD has some separation anxiety issues and is also getting her own way, hence the screaming. Whatever you choose to do, I would be consistent with it.

:hug: I hope it gets better really soon and you get some sleep.

 

Mine are 8.5 mos old and they still don't STTN, maybe once a week. :hug:

 

Ugh, the paci... love it - hate it!! we went through a few months of that being a big issue... sometimes it still is.

We got our to sttn early from 3-6 mo w/swaddling... then went through a spell of on & off... what I've learned...

*sometimes too much daytime naps = no need to sttn...
*sometimes they were still hungry at night... we started giving an extra frozen milk bottle at night and at 7 mo they start sttn again...

now we've been having the issues again... yesterday they didn't get their afternoon nap, so I thought I'd do a quick dream feed/nursing at 10p before I went to bed... and sure enough they sttn (YAY!) (so now I'm wondering which is it, sleep or food??)

so today, they got a good 2hr morning nap and I cut their afternoon one to just a little over an hour... and did the dreamfeed... I'm hoping they will sttn...

anyway, not sure if any of that helped you or not... I hope you can get some sleep soon! I love uninterupted sleep...

 

:hug: Sorry you are having issues. I would try CIO for naos and see if that helps. Mine did not STTN until the end of their 9 months. I was sooooo exhausted. So I know where you are coming from. For us there was nothing magical that we did. I just rode it out until they were ready to do it.

 

So glad I'm not the only one dealing with this right now. Last night she woke up around midnight and I gave her Motrin for her teeth and rocked her a bit and she slept til 6am. I guess I'll take that. We'll see how tonight goes. The rocking seems to be working for naps too. I know I need to CIO, but I want to read about it first, so I do it correctly. She's staying at my mom's Fri. night too and I know she'll undo everything I do. I'll wait until Sat. night to start. Wish me luck. She is so stubborn. I know it's going to be hard.

 

I'm not bragging... but mine did sttn again last night... I do believe for us its a tender mix of naps/food/bedtime.

In the past weeks I've tried to move the bedtime earlier and I think that really helps... at some point they just get "over it" waiting for bedtime and then wind up and can't go to sleep easily. Last night I strived for 7pm, but it was 7:30p and they were exhausted, I never heard a peep out of them.

Like I said in my earlier post, I limited the naps to about 3 hrs and it seems to have worked... I'm not sure what sleep your getting during the day, or routine or bedtime. But if you want a book resource I really liked Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Baby... I keep checking it out of the library and not quite getting through the whole book before someone else requested it... He talks about "sleep begets sleep"... and that earlier bedtimes don't make "logical" sense, but are "biological"... (I was keeping mine up b/c dh doesn't typically even get home until after 7p and I wanted him to help and be w/them while they bathed and do the bedtime routine... but... since I've started doing the routine earlier they are sleeping better... and if he has to miss out but we get sttn from the babies, then its all good!)

As for CIO... I'm not a huge fan of it either, if I can tell the tone of it and it is just "babbling" I have to leave it alone, otherwise they'll get excited that I come back in to check on them. If its too much or I heard a pacifier drop I'll go in and very calmly lay them back down and pat a few seconds and just say "nap time"... and leave. Sometimes I do this a few times... and some days nap time is just lost.

I hope you get some sleepy babies soon!