all of the things that I swore I would NEVER do...

I am doing. I feel like such a bad mother
I have not been as attentive to my older boys school work,
I don't cook anymore
I am supplementing the twins with formula
I just propped a bottle up - mother octopuses are lucky - I would love to have just 3 arms.
schedule - what's that?
and I think me and the girls may run into Kohls today (shhh.. dh would be mad!) but I cannot stare at these 4 walls much longer!
and I am NOT about to wake this baby up to change her diaper!!
OH YEAH! and this little dog is driving me nuts! she sits at my feet and cries ALL DAY!!! anybody want a dog?? (Just joking about that but
SHUT UP RAISIN!!!)
I have a short fuse lately and I hate that - I hope it is just hormones -
I thought that being a SAHM would be so easy and nice - which I LOVE
being able to be here with the kids but - I have been busier here than I ever was while working!!

I am not complaining - I just feel so bad because I CANNOT keep up!!
you should see my laundry room!!!

 

I am doing. I feel like such a bad mother
I have not been as attentive to my older boys school work,
I don't cook anymore
I am supplementing the twins with formula
I just propped a bottle up - mother octopuses are lucky - I would love to have just 3 arms.
schedule - what's that?
and I think me and the girls may run into Kohls today (shhh.. dh would be mad!) but I cannot stare at these 4 walls much longer!
and I am NOT about to wake this baby up to change her diaper!!
OH YEAH! and this little dog is driving me nuts! she sits at my feet and cries ALL DAY!!! anybody want a dog?? (Just joking about that but
SHUT UP RAISIN!!!)
I have a short fuse lately and I hate that - I hope it is just hormones -
I thought that being a SAHM would be so easy and nice - which I LOVE
being able to be here with the kids but - I have been busier here than I ever was while working!!

I am not complaining - I just feel so bad because I CANNOT keep up!!
you should see my laundry room!!!

 

Yeah it is funny when people think staying at home is so easy because afterall don't all stay at home moms (and dads) just sit on the couch and eat ice cream and watch soaps all day??? I completely understand where you are coming from! I am just waiting until I can get it together. I am trying so hard to get my girls on a schedule...which is hard to do when you have three other kids and running them all around. Plus, I am attempting to work from home...get that word "attempting". And my dogs, cat, and birds are driving me nuts, too! One day I had a beer at 10 a.m. (I don't really drink that much, or at all...but I needed it). Hang in there. Enjoy it while they are little...these are the easy years. I have a 16 year old that is driving me nuts and requiring much more attention than my twins!!! UGH!

 

At 4 weeks, it would take 4 mothers to keep up with everything -- particularly with older kids (I don't know how you moms do it; I feel crazed by just the two). Cut yourself some slack -- and go to Kohls! -- the laundry can wait and the twins won't be harmed by small things you do to make things managable and keep your sanity.

 

I have my kids sitting in front of the TV right now watching a Veggie Tales DVD, and I swore I wouldn't let them watch any TV until they were 2. Oh well! Thirty minutes a day isn't going to kill them, right?

 

Like pp said, I don't know how you moms with older kids do it. I only have the twins and I work outside the home (I would love to be with them all the time) BUT I honestly don't think I could handle it. At 4 weeks, our house was a disaster & dh only ate take out or fast food, unless some blessed soul brought us a home cooked meal.
Go to Kohl's, I was at home everyday at Christmas for 10 days and I was going stir crazy... Plus the twins may like a change of scenery too.
Oh... & I swore that we wouldn't put them in the bed w/ us either, but guess what?? It happened & that's ok too.

 

I seriously contemplated getting rid of one of m dogs for fear the babies' first words would be, "SHUT UP MATILDA!"

This is survival mode... fix the schedules and behaviors later when they can honestly be fixed. I have just started doing more in the house but only after I have time to drink some tea and eat. Also realize that no one expects you to do anything with two babies at home. My husband is delighted when I cook but whole heartily expects to have to make dinner when he gets home. My son is so very understanding and once DH is home, he gets my full attention. And yes, at least for me, my short fuse was hormonal. I am back to normal or at least a sleep deprived form of it!

 

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Originally posted by Brockgirl:
Yeah it is funny when people think staying at home is so easy because afterall don't all stay at home moms (and dads) just sit on the couch and eat ice cream and watch soaps all day???


Wouldnt that be nice


I think once we become parents we all start to do things we never thought we would do...goes to show you how our idea of parenting is no where close to the reality of parenting and especially of being a SAHM

 

being a good mother is hard!!! too bad that for some reason the world doesn't understand that. even mothers, as they get older, they forget what it is like to go grocery shopping with kids...never mind twins!!! we should make a pact that when our kids grow up we will never forget the hardships that mothers face and always give a smile to a mother in the shoprite with a screaming toddler!!

 

I think the hardest part of being a SAHM is the mental health aspect. Doing the laundry isn't really hard, doing the dishes isn't particularly back breaking, etc etc... BUT some of the stuff you do everyday as a SAHM is soooooooo boring, it's really a challenge to stay out of a rut. I, personally, think it's very important for SAHMs to do something for themselves at least once a day. It doesn't have to be a big thing either.

I think of SAHMs as CEOs of their house. I also think many moms feel like they have to be a slave to their children in order to be a good mom. CEOs get better pay and perks as a reward for running their company, slaves have a thankless job and are treated badly. I'd rather be a CEO and enjoy those lovely perks.

Anyway, I'm totally going off on a tangent ----- yes, you should get out of the house! Go to Kohls and enjoy yourself, forget about the laundry for a while. giving yourself a mental break will allow you to come home refreshed.

 

you know what - my 9 mo olds LOVE Sesame Street - it gives me nearly an hour a day to do a load of laundry or some dishes or hop online...

you're a good mom - you're attentive and you love your kids...

 

My poor dog never gets walked anymore- just let out the back for bathroom breaks. Well, she's started peeing on the carpet to get back at me I think!
We have to do what we can to survive.
Hang in there!

 

Don't beat yourself up so much! You are going through a very stressful time. I can remember before the first set arrived, I thought I was so organized and had it all together. Then they were born and all my "best laid plans" went out the window. Sounds like you are a very attentive mother. Go to Kohl's--get out of the house!! You will feel like a new person. The laundry will eventually get done and things will get easier for you.

I find myself doing all kinds of things I never said I would do. My TV is constantly (GASP ) on Nick Jr. or Disney. They hardly sit still and watch it, but I do enjoy the Wonder pets....LOL! I said I wouldn't feed my kids junk, but they get their fair share of fruit snacks and "sickles" (that's slang for Flavor Ice pops). When you have two 2 y.o. yelling sickle,sickle,SICKLE!!! it tends to make you cave in.

Pat yourself on the back!!!! You are an awesome twin mom!!!

Crystal

 

YOU HAVE 4 WEEK OLD TWINS!!! I think I was still shell shocked then!!!! Give yourself and break and go to Kohl's if that is what gets you through the day. I totally agree with Jenny. You have to do something for yourself once a day!!

 

I am surprised how BUSY I am during the day too! I'm way behind on laundry. Seems like as soon as I get somewhat caught up, I have a mountain of laundry to do AGAIN!! I never cook anymore. My 4 year old is watching a lot of TV and movies..

I'd definitely get out and go to Kohl's! My highlight of the day is going to Walmart

Hang in there!

 

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They hardly sit still and watch it, but I do enjoy the Wonder pets....LOL!


I LOVE the wonder pets! and like PP I swore they would never watch TV...but sometimes you have to do what you have to do to get by - and I feel this way with just the two of them - can't imagine what it would be like with more!! Hats off to you!

I think the hardest thing is that we struggle to get our kids on a schedule - but then we end up in the same schedule and routine day in and day out - there are no weekends - everyday's a monday...

 

Oh my gosh! TV for us too! I swore no TV until AT LEAST 1, but guess what? At three mos. my girls loved it so they get one show in the am. I get to sit and wake up with them.

Hey Erykah, ditto on the pet yelling! I think my girls think their name is Sam (our beloved cat) because everytime I yell "SAM, NO!" which is at least 50 times a day, they cry! Yikes!

Sometimes it helps me to just hop on and read stuff like this for my own peace of mind. I just told a friend the other day that I feel like everything is spiraling out of control. I used to be on top of everything in the household and now...HAHA!