What age are people starting CIO? We are 4 mos actual but 2 mos adjusted. What are the risks of doing it too young? Are they not able to self soothe yet? Thanks, Holly
What age are people starting CIO? We are 4 mos actual but 2 mos adjusted. What are the risks of doing it too young? Are they not able to self soothe yet? Thanks, Holly
I have heard that a good age is 6 months...we did it at 5 and it worked GREAT. I'm not sure of the risks...
I started modified CIO a little over 3 months. I would let them fuss and whine for about 10-15 minutes then. I would let them cry for a minute or two before going in. At 4 months I would let them cry for a couple minutes. They were fine by 4 1/2 months and wouldn't cry too much when I put them down. By 5-6 months there were times where they were overtired by the time I put them down so they would cry for 10-15 minutes but never too bad. They learned very young how to put themselves to sleep and soothe themselves. They have always been very happy babies because they got the sleep they needed. I could also nap them in their strollers without having to put them to sleep.. I'd just pull their canopy up over them and they would go right to sleep. I know it's not for every baby but it worked very well for Nicole and Danielle.
Mine are about the same age. I was always for CIO with my other three kids, however, since one of mine had a brain bleed, I recently heard CIO causes high blood pressure and isn't good on the brain....so...of course we won't be doing it. We have been very fortunate as my babies (just recently) go down pretty good. This is just my thought on the whole thing. I think I would do CIO if it wasn't for the brain bleed.
Tried it at 4 months (2.5 adjusted). It didn't work. Did it again at 7 months, 5.5 adjusted. IT WORKED!!! Would have tried it at 6 months, but was on vacation in the USA for a month.
I wouldn't do it before 4 months adjusted. Any earlier, they can't really self-soothe, and what they need (emotionally) more than anything is to know that their needs will be met. We did it at 5 months and it worked. As a PP said, you can start letting them fuss a few minutes at any age. I assume when people say "CIO" they mean full-blown, let the baby cry till he/she falls asleep no matter how long it takes. I wouldn't let a 2-month-old fuss more than 15 minutes, and I tried not to let them scream unattended unless it was unavoidable (as it often is with twins).
I was always told 9 months. It has never worked for us though. All it did was cause me and DH total stress. BB
Ferber says 6 mos. We did it at 7. For the first 7 everything was toally on demand, I couldn't stand the thought hearing them scream inconsolably, so I waited until I knew absolutely for sure that they could self soothe! HTH
With each subsequent child, it was later! Poor Joel, we did it at four months, the twins we did at around 8 or 9 months adjusted, and Joy we actually didn't do it at all.... I am not opposed, I just became more and more of a softie as I had more kids! I have had overall pretty good sleepers, except for one with night terrors and a few nights of a spoiled 18 month old we had to work through, but overall, I think it depends on the child. Now that I have been through four kids, I wouldn't do it before 6 months....
I wouldn't do it before 6 months. I too have heard the research lately that suggests that CIO when it is really full blown, CIO causes higher blood pressure, and deprives the baby of new, good oxygen to the brain because of the crying and stress. I had a hard time with it anyways. I never did full CIO, and if interested in a great book to get god sleepers by helping them learn to self-soothe, it is called, "Good NIght, Sleep TIght" by Kim West. The other reason not to do it too early is that babies are learning to trust you, that you will meet their needs up until 6 month, especially. Sometimes when you make them really CIO before then, they can form attachment disorders.
my boys are 8 months and we are just now doing it. Gabe did fantastic and is sleeping through the night. Something is going on with Nate (but that's a different story) so he is waking up again 1-2 times. I will do it again with him in a few days once I know he is okay (it might be teeth). My oldest, I did it at 5.5 months and it worked great. I just procrastinated the twins for fear of one waking the other up (wasn't really an issue). I only did CIO for the nighttime wakings...I am still rocking them to sleep initially (BAD MOMMY!)
