Advice...that I didn't ask for

The thing I'm having the most trouble dealing with is the advice I didn't ask for!

DH and I went to a health fair at our church yesterday. There was a woman there talking about nutritional supplements. I was walking past her (did not intend to stop) when she stopped me to ask what I was having. She started going on and on (and on and on) about how important DHA was during pregnancy and asked me if I was taking extra. I said no (while thinking it's none of your business). You would've thought that I said I was drinking a bottle of vodka every night. She said she worked for a local OB/GYN (who I met before I was pg and did not like), and she said that the babies he delivers are much smarter then other babies. I laughed because I thought she was joking and she got mad and said, "this isn't a laughing matter. you should be worried about your babies." I had to walk away from her or I would've said something not very nice right there at church!

As we were walking out the door, a (female!) rep from Viacord stopped me with "I noticed your bulge. Have you thought about banking your babies cord blood?" Excuse me? My bulge??!!

What is wrong with people??? I'm still thinking about calling either the church and/or the doctor who that woman said she worked for and complaining. Am I just hormonal and should let it all go? Or should I call someone and voice my concerns??

 

I don't blame you at all for feeling the way you do. Some people just do not know when to keep quiet...like it is any of their business! If you call anyone i would call the dr's office that they lady worked for. I think when you are pregnant people feel like they can tell you anything!

 

People seem to think they can say whatever they feel like to pg chicks. More so with women pg with multiples, from what I've heard.

I would be very annoyed/pissed at both remarks, but then again, this pregnancy I have found myself to have a hard time keeping my mouth shut when people say rude things to me.

I don't have any advice. But, I would probably want to call the woman's employer. To say that the doctor she works for delivers smarter babies, well, that is really ridiculous.

 

i know exactly how u feel! i am soooooooo sick of all the unwanted and unsolicited advice; especially, when it comes from know it alls who either have no children or singletons. these are always the people who are 'experts' on how screwed me and dh are once the babies show up. we have just quit listening to it all and live in our own blissful bubble. my experience with people like this is that they generally haven't done their research and only know one side of the arguement. my solution is always to research as much as possible and challenge their position. they almost always back down because they only know their 'sales pitch'. i do think hormones make it worse, but you being pregnant or having twins doesn't give the world at large an open door policy into your or your childrens' lives.

 

I dont know why people think they can tell you whatever they want when you are pg with multiples. The ONLY advice I listen to when it is given without asking is from two of my best friends here that both HAVE twins!! If you havnt had them... then you dont know the first thing...am I right ladies? Well I usually take a deep breath and try to remind myself that at one time I was "twin ingnorant" too and I probably said some stupid things to someone at sometime... although I am POSITIVE I didnt get as dumb as the women you encountered. But I am sure I have looked at a mother with twins and said something along the lines of "wow you have your hands full" And now I kick myself for it!! lol Well you just hang in there and way to go with holding your tongue when it was appropriate... now however I would call and report something to someone! Good luck , keep me posted!

 

The DHA lady was really crazy. NO ONE should offer advice about taking something except your doctor. I should have said this to her, but I was just too mad and too shocked!

I listened patiently to the Viacord lady's pitch, said no thanks and tried to walk away but she followed me! I finally turned around, told her that I would donate the cord blood before I would ever pay to have it privately banked. Once I mentioned the public donation, she knew I had done my research and left me alone.

Even the twin moms I've met can get a little scary with their advice. I had one woman ask me if I had a level 2 u/s. When I told her no, she spent 15 minutes lecturing me about it. Another twin mom that I barely knew went on and on about what to use to get baby poop off the walls - but what was weird is that I didn't ask, never even brought it up, and am not sure to this day why it came up in the conversation in the first place!