Advice/support question

Hey ladies,

First, I can't believe I will only be here for one more week and then I will be off to the next forum! It seems like just yesterday I was hugely pregnant, now the girls are 8 days away from being one.

With that - They need their one year vaccines. I have had some of their vaccines - not all. I went with they, "If it is something they can catch then we will get it - all others can wait," philosphy. The really aren't at a high risk for getting polio or hep A - so we skipped on them.

Well - as I have said in many posts - my seven year old has autism. He had it pre-birth - the vaccines did not cause it. I can say that. Allison really has warning bells in my head for it as well. She still has no words. She is very lovey and cuddley - but there is just something not right. Ellie is talking up a storm. Crawling. You get two way "conversation" from her (all babble but it is two way), Allison has none of that. Over the last week Allison has stopped nursing and starting beating her head on things rythmically - just like Gabe did at that age. I don't know if she is just teething or what - but it scares me.

The closer we get to that one year marker the more my gut SCREAMS -"Wait to have any more shots until they are at least two, possibly three." I work at the health department so I know I will be attacked by the immunization lady there. Plus, I just don't want that fight with my MD. I really like him and I don't think he will question me - but everyone else there does (last time I was there and I passed in the imms the nurse really made me feel like a bad mom.) If it turns out that she does have autism - I don't think I could live with myself if it got worse after being immunized. If she doesn't get immunized and it gets worse than I know it was meant to be. I just feel like she is on that edge and she could go either way. She understands "patty cake" and "Peek - a- boo " Which my son never did - but there are other things there that remind me a lot of him. I just really feel like this is a crucial point and it could go either way.

Any advice. I already talked to my husband and he said he would back whatever I decide to do. I looked at our protective service policy and passing on immunizations is not grounds for protective service referrals (I don't want that mess). More than likely I won't have them done - I just wanted to sort of vent here and see what other people think/would do in my situation.

Thanks!
Angel

 

Angel, talk to your Doctor and tell him your plan and concerns. I am sure he'll back you up! :hug99: As for the immunizations lady at work, she doesn't have to know - really..... you can skirt the issue and just say that you had their appt. and it was "traumatizing" or something. That way, she'll assume that you did your vaccines and you and your doctor only have to know what your plan is etc.

As far as no words at 1 yr. I wouldn't really worry that much aobut that. We had some babbling and some sounds etc., but language didn't take off till they were 18 mos. I hope you are just being overly analytical about it and that she's fine!! :hug99: Good luck! :hug99:

 

No advice, just wanted to give you lots of hugs. :hug99: It sounds like such a tough dilemma. I hope things turn out better than you expect.

 

Angel-I am so sorry you are having this scare. I would definitely trust your instinct and do what you feel is best for her. As for the words mine only said one at 12 months. Now at 20 months have about 20+words and are constantly repeating me. It sounds like you have a good handle on things and are keeping your eyes open since you have experience with you older DS. I hope everything works out for you. Diane gave you some great advice. :love0028:

 

QUOTE(Gabe Evie Allison & Elouise @ Oct 29 2007, 05:27 PM) [snapback]472493[/snapback]
The closer we get to that one year marker the more my gut SCREAMS -"Wait to have any more shots until they are at least two, possibly three."



I don't know anymore than anyone else about this issue but I wanted to say that I believe the above quote from your post is your answer. Moms should always follow their gut. Best wishes.

 

Your mommy instinct is what matters most here. I really hope you get the back up you deserve. Good luck.

Reyna

 

You are such a good mom, I'd follow your gut. Nick has Asperger's or is on the "spectrum." We are on a wait list to see the developmental pedi but I have suspected this for YEARS. I had him tested at 18 months and they put him on the spectrum but since he started talking, I put it on the side but I always felt like there was something there. Now, I hope there is nothing I did but my gut tells me that this is just Nick and his illness with nothing I could have done.

With Nevan I see he has some repetitive motions (doesn't help he's signing!) but I am on the watch. We selectively vaccinate anyway but the motions started long before the cocktails. Anyway, my point is you know, just follow your gut!

 

I would definitely trust your instincts. A dear friend of mine has a 3-year-old with autism, and she has done a ton of research, traveled to consult many experts, etc. She definitely thinks there could be a link to the vaccines (though she suspects her son already had a suppressed immune system, and the vaccines pushed him over the edge, as you mention).

Based on that, she has delayed all vacs for her younger son (who also showed some tendencies at a very early age).

Many hugs to you -- I hope it turns out okay, and that your little one is not actually on the spectrum.

 

Definately trust your instinct. It is is there for a reason!