A trip to L&D last night

So on Wednesday (I'm 21 weeks today w/ BB twins)I had went into the "twins clinic" at the military hospital (it's basically just a high risk doctor, so I no longer see the regular OB). They did the typical quick ultrasound to check on the babies, then she continued on to measure my cervix. First, she started by using her fingers which was one of the most painful things I've EVER felt! Then when she thought my cervix felt thin she did a transvaginal ultrasound and said that my cervix was closed and measured 4 centimeters. I had mentioned to her that I had been feeling some cramping/tightening like feelings and tons of pelvic pressure that's why she measured my cervix I guess. She said I might spot a little. At the end of that day (appointment was at 10am). I noticed that I had more than spotted and it concerned me a little, but it was brown. So I went to bed and noticed the next morning I was still "spotting." So I worked my typical 5 hour shift from 4am-9am. I noticed that whole day that my cramping/tightening had begun to get more of a painful feeling to them. So at about 10pm, my husband and I decided to call L&D and see if they thought I needed to come in, they told me to go ahead and come in to be safe. I went in and they said it appeared that my uterus was agitated from the cervix exam and I was having false contractions from it. They also said I was slightly dehydrated and had me drink 2 liters of water before I left. So here it is... almost 2am when I'm leaving the hospital and I'm scheduled to work at 4am (meaning I would have to wake up at 3am). I can barely function normally at work anyways because I have next to no energy and am so tired, you think I want to go to work with less than an hour of sleep? I work at Starbucks. It's honestly NOT a stressful job at all, BUT my store manager is also pregnant (I think 5-6 weeks ahead of me). I called in sick, I told them I had been at the hospital and I was way too tired to come in, plus the doctor at the hospital had told me to rest and drink more fluids. I noticed the cramping/tightening feels worse when standing and walking around. So I made it my decision not to go into work. My store manager had the nerve to ask for a doctors note stating that I was there and that I wasn't supposed to work for the day. That's fine, really it is, I can get that note because I was there, but I KNOW it's not a policy to ask for a doctors note until you've missed 3 or more days in a row. This is one 5 hour shift that I missed. My manager has been nothing, but a stress to me since we found out we were pregnant (we both announced it within a week of each other). She then had the nerve to ask if I could work the 4pm-close shift. What makes you think that I am going to work later in the day when I still feel uncomfortable!? Plus it's outside of my availability. I don't have availability past 2pm because my husband is military and I don't like to work opposite shifts of him when he deploys every 2 months (which includes leaving again in less than a week ) I was already told not to work more than 5 hours a day (they initially said 4hours but I talked them into 5 hours because my typical shifts are only 5 hours).

I'm just wondering if anyone else has had any other issues with their work? My manager constantly compares our pregnancies. First, no 2 pregnancies are ever alike. Second, hers is a singleton, mine is twins. I tried calling my district manager because all of my conversation with my manager we had about me missing work today was via text! What manager TEXTS her employees? I honestly just want to quit now and just relax the last 2-3 months of the pregnancy. I have never stressed so much in my life!

What would you do?

 

:hug: I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I'm glad you went in to L&D though and that everything checked out just fine. :good: That's always most important.

As for your manager, I really don't think it's fair she compare your pregnancies at all. <_< That's not professional, nor is texting. I would definately get in contact with someone above her and let them know all the "hoops" she's making you jump through because you called out one time. :good: Worst case would be to leave, and if you aren't depending on your salary then that would be what I do. Work isn't worth the stress you are putting on yourself and your body. :hug:

 

Yeah, I had already planned on quitting by the beginning of August (when my husband gets back from deployment). I'm due October 16th and we both know how bad the job market is right now. Starbucks had been my part-time job and I had been working w/ autistic children, but funding got cut, so did my job. So we just planned on me quitting and staying home w/ the babies because finding a job right now that'll make enough money to pay childcare for 2 plus still have extra money isn't very likely right now. We figured we'd try again when we move from Hawaii in Jan 2011.

 

Do you plan on going back there after the twins arrive? If not I would quit and enjoy the rest of my pregnancy and my dh while he was in town, chances are you may be put on even a modified bedrest later in the pregnancy anyway. If you do want to go back - ask your dr if and when they want you to stop working - maybe they could bump it up a bit and you could go out on medical leave before dh leaves?

 

Sorry about the stress caused from your Manager :hug: Totally not worth the headache/stress!! I agree with Liz in talking to someone above her position.

Glad that everything is OK though & good for you for going to L&D ~ always best to checked out if you are feeling unsure!!

 

So sorry you have to deal with a manager like that! I would definitely see about your dr pulling you from work if its adding too much stress. Good luck and :hug: your way!

 

:hug: So sorry she's being like that. I have actually had some other women be worse about pregnancy than some men, like theirs was so easy so they don't understand the rest of us it was definitely weird. Definitely go above her, she doesn't have the right to ask if you have the 3 day rule. She doesn't sound like a good manager to me. Do what you feel is best for you and your babies. Good luck! Glad it all turned out ok!

 

First off- I am glad things seem to be ok and that you are feeling better. Your number one priority is you and those babies. Your manager can compare the pregnancies all she wants- but she is ignorant to think that your two situations are similar. Pre-term labor is nothing to take lightly in any situation- but especially multiples. If it is company policy not to provide a medical note unless you have missed three straight days- I would not provide one. I would let her know that you do not lie or take advantage of your sick time and that you will provide a note to her once you "meet" the requirements. As for working a later shift in the day- if a doctor has told you to rest- that is what you should do and she is ridiculous to ask you to come in later. If you can afford to quit- and really want to quit, I would. If you cannot afford to- or want to keep working, then I would continue to try to get in touch with the district manager and discuss things personally with them.
Good luck- keep us posted!