A silly story

Here is something silly and rather stupid.

My mom works in an office with a bunch of women. In the fall there were three of them who were expecting grandchildren (Mom included). Needless to say, when Mom announced that she was expecting twin grandchildren, everyone's attention was focused on how the twin pregnancy was going and after they were born, how are the twins?
One of her co-workers is extremely jealous that Mom's grandtwins had usurped the attention from her granddaughter. She did not speak to Mom for a week after announcing about the twins and when Mom shows pictures of the twins her reaction is not amused and a very flat, "Oh, that's nice." When anyone shows new pics of their grandchildren or children, she gets out pictures of hers and starts showing them again (like no one else can be the center of attention besides her).
DH and I went to Mom's work on Thursday and this same woman, everyone told us, made sure to be out of the office when we were there. Needless to say, the twins were a hit of the office and everyone was talking about them when she came back. She said to Mom in a phony voice, "Oh, I can't believe I missed the babies." Mom replied, "Oh well. That's your loss."

I just cannot believe that someone could be that jealous over two babies!

 

Nancy,

That's ridiculous. Why would anyone let this bother them, especially that much? It must be hard being her...to let good things be upsetting. So glad everyone else was excited to see them!

 

Pamela is right- it must be VERY hard being her- to be so bothered by something so silly! She should just be happy that she's a grandmother and that her coworker is, too.

 

I know. I just don't get it and neither does my DH. She has a healthy, happy granddaughter and should be happy for her good fortune as well as the good fortune of others.

 

People never cease to amaze me!! Its so funny we are suppose to be the adults not the children... yet some adults act like children all the time. Babies are suppose to be a joy no matter the number, and if she has to be a meanie and not share in the joy well it's her lose! I say to your Mom brag away!! Enough being a grandmother!

 

Is it possible that the pregnancy began as twins and they lost one thus causing the discomfort (aka jealousy) from the grandmother? There is a thread in the Parent's Club forum this week about mom's who were going through infertility issues not being able to be around people that were having babies and/or that had families. It was just too hard for them. Some of the posters shared that now looking back they think they may not have gone about it the right way but that it was soo painful that was the only way they could cope. Sounds like this coworker is doing her best to put on a happy face and not put herself in a situation where she would be uncomfortable (soo much like the posters I mention from the other thread, if it is going to hurt to be there then don't be there) that I can't help but think her 'issues' go much deeper than being a meanie and reading your story made me immediately think about a loss.

 

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Is it possible that the pregnancy began as twins and they lost one thus causing the discomfort (aka jealousy) from the grandmother? There is a thread in the Parent's Club forum this week about mom's who were going through infertility issues not being able to be around people that were having babies and/or that had families. It was just too hard for them. Some of the posters shared that now looking back they think they may not have gone about it the right way but that it was soo painful that was the only way they could cope. Sounds like this coworker is doing her best to put on a happy face and not put herself in a situation where she would be uncomfortable (soo much like the posters I mention from the other thread, if it is going to hurt to be there then don't be there) that I can't help but think her 'issues' go much deeper than being a meanie and reading your story made me immediately think about a loss.



It's possible. It could also be possible that her daughter has decided not have any more children and maybe that has upset her.