A lot going on but nothing changing

Is there anyone out there that has a similar situation as I?

I have a 3 year old and 10 month old twins. There is so much going on and I am exhausted.

My 3 year old is in the process of potty training (ugh!), he isn't doing a bad job. It is just such a long process.

My twins aren't crawling yet and don't feed themselves whatsoever. They hardly put anything in their mouths. I am constantly working on these things. They do get around by rolling and scooting backwards. It is just they get bored easily which doesn't help the situation.

I just feel like nothing is improving on anything we are all working on. UGH!! I know these things will take time, it is just really wearing on me. I am trying not to get so frustrated so my kids don't get even more frustrated then they are.

With all that is going on and taking in the fact that I am such a control freak but can't control their progress, it is hard for me not to feel like a failure on a daily basis. I am trying to not internalize all of this but as you can see that is hard to do.

Hopefully in a few months I will look back and laugh. I SURE HOPE SO!

Thanks for listening, here is hoping to a change SOON in something! Gotta go my son just had an accident. Oops! :rotflmbo:

 

i know this is taboo since a lot of us mom's of multiples (me included) hate it when someone says "boy you've got your hands full don't you" but in this care you do!

don't stress too much.

i wouldn't put to much worry into the twins not crawling yet, even if it is 10mo. i believe, could be WAY of but, i *think* the average age to learn to crawl is between 6-12mo so i wouldn't worry.

as for the bottle holding business...boy i can sympathize. on a daily basis i feel like i'm preventing the boys from learning how to feed themselves because they just don't care about food, or haven't for the first 7mo. we've JUST NOW started to have feeds take normal amounts of times but i'm still uneasy about letting them try and hold the bottle for fear their just going to knock it out of their mouths completely and refuse the food which right now is their main source of nutritian. i'm also preventing them from trying to spoon feed themselves because since they are teething so heavily they just put the spoon in their mouth and chewing on it..gum on it i should say.

so while i cannot sympathize with have 3 kids in diapers with one potty training (i am giving you MAJOR kudos for being able to do that!), i get the twin frustrations. so you're not alone.

we, well i - i won't speak for others, just kind of go with the flow.

ust for giggles i did give them a sippy cup and they know exactly what to do with it so when DH goes to the store today he's going to get some juice to put in one and see if they will actually drink from it.

hang in there!

 

:grouphug: Momma! You are doing a wonderful job! And my two boys NEVER put anything in their mouth. NEVER. And now that I have Annabella who is ten months old-I can see a huge difference! She puts EVERYTHING in her mouth-and I mean everything. It's driving me crazy! I certainly didn't have to worry about that with the boys! And now I have to worry about the boys leaving all their little toys around for her to get!

The crawling is hard. Annabella rocked for months before she actually started moving. Drove me bonkers. But in her own time-she did it. Are they getting up on all fours? Are they rocking if they do? And some kids just don't crawl. They go straight to walking. It's hard now, because they are on the cusp of moving and that's all you want them to do-but once they do-watch out! LOL! It's a whole new world out there!

You are not a failure at all! Your kids seem to be doing well. They do things at their own pace. My boys didn't start talking until almost 2! Most other kids-they started MUCH earlier than my crew-and we had speech, etc. Another one of my boys didn't roll back to belly until he was a YEAR old. It's hard not to compare the twins, or your kids to older kids. But just know they will eventually conquer various goals-on their own terms.

Hang in there momma!

 

:hug: My twins and singleton seem to be about the same amount apart as yours. I remember having 9 month old twins and a new 3YO. :faint: Its a blur. :lol:

Hang in there. I felt stuck when my the boys were just blobs. They were hard to entertain, hard to keep entertained, and didnt really want to sit still, but werent mobile. Add to the mix a get up and go 3 year old and well, you can kind see how my days were as well. Lots of crying on all ends. And lots of gray hairs on my head. :headbang:

I will tell you that I was very happy when the boys learned how to crawl, cruise, and walk. It was great that they had independence and I could move about more. Plus it came in really helpful that I didnt have to carry one of them in and push a stroller with the other, to pick up my DD from school. I loved that they could find me where ever I was. I just babyproofed the kitchen and the family room and made it one great room with gates and gave them all a large area to hang with me.

Can you put your 3YO in preschool a couple mornings a week? That made all the difference for Leah my DD. She really needed more than I could give her with 2 babies in the house.

I can tell you now that the boys are almost 3.5 YO and Leah is 5.5 YO life is much better for everyone involved. It was hard having kids so close together, but now it is paying off. I think I will even take them all to their first movie together this summer. :faint: So keep with it and keep up the good work. :youcandoit:

 

Thank you for your replies. It helps a lot, being a sahm your world can get really small and you sure can get stuck in your own head and time just seems to stand still. I am trying to keep in mind the overall picture in that kids grow up too fast and I need to enjoy this time because in a couple of months life will be really different, especially when the twins start walking.

My twins are getting up on all fours and rocking but not moving on all fours. My girl is a very good butt scooter and does get around pretty well that way. My boy really likes to roll everywhere.

My 3 year old is in a children's day out program 2 days a week, which does make a difference. But summer is almost here and he will be home all the time :shok: but hopefully by then the twins will be crawling and have some independence (fingers crossed).

I know having them moving a lot more and easier will bring upon some other problems but at least it will be different, which I think we are all waiting for it to happen and so ready for it. I know it will come no matter what happens just trying to get through this hard transition period. Your support is GREAT!!!

 

I forgot to mention that I know exactly what you mean about wanting them to reach certain milestones faster. And I think that is totally normal. Heck, there are plenty of days where I cant wait for the boys to go to preschool. :blush: I would say enjoy them while they are little, but I secretly hate when people say that to me. Almost as much as you have your hands full. :80:

 

Well, you're not alone! I'm in pretty much the same over here...minus the potty training. My DS is 3 and my twins are about to turn 9 months. Honestly, I can't even begin to imagine trying to potty train with the twins, it's a LOT of work. However, I will tell you this...stick with it and don't bother with pull ups. Use underwear and put them on EVERYDAY. You'll have to clean up a lot of messes, but I think having them in underwear is key. My DD was pee-pee potty trained in a day, but he pooped on Elmo EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR 6 WEEKS!!!! I was very pregnant at the time and exhausted all the time, but once I started I refused to "go back" so we pushed forward. The day that I went to the hospital to have the twins was the first day he went poop in the potty and that was it...clear sailing after that.

As for the twins, I get that too!!! I have a little girl who is pretty content to not do anything, until recently. She now wants to move but just can't seem to get the hang of it. And my little guy wants to skip ahead to the next step, before he could crawl he would get frustration because he couldn't do it. Then he learned to crawl, but instead of actually crawling he gets frustrated that he can't walk!!! AUGH!!!!!!!!

All in all, the days are non-stop and exhausting.....but at least you know you're not alone!! :hug:

 

:hug: I have the twins who are 7.5 months and my toddler just turned 22 months today, yeah I totally feel your pain momma!!!! It is hard, more than hard and the only way we are making it through is one day at a time. So many days I say I can't do this anymore and my hubby just says well you have to lol. Aint that the truth! It will get better we just have to hang in there!!! (I hope heehee.)