9 Month old bedtime

OK Ladies, I need some help and advice! My LOs are now 9 months old and for the past several weeks I feel like every time we put them to bed it is the first night of doing CIO. They start crying from the moment they hit the mattress and will usually cry for 30-45 min. They have always cried or fussed for 5-10min but this is just getting crazy! I don't know what to do to help them.

This is our schedule:
Wake up/nurse 7:00am
breakfast 8:00am
snack 9:00am
nap 9:30am
nurse 11:30am
lunch 12:30pm
snack 1:15pm
nap 1:30pm
nurse 3:30pm
snack 4:00pm
dinner 5:30pm
bath,nurse,bed 7:00pm

They usually nap for 1.5 hours to 2 hours for each nap and go down for both pretty easily. The last several days we have been moving bedtime back because they are acting tired during dinner time. Tonight we had them in the bath at 6 and in bed by 6:25 and they are still crying right now as I type. Once they finally fall asleep they will stay asleep for several hours. They usually wake once, sometimes twice, to eat during the night but they are usually short feedings and they go right back to sleep. I'll take any and all advice...let me have it! Thanks!

 

before i finished reading your post i was thinking that they needed an earlier bedtime... but you are already in the process of doing that. i think you should keep trying the earlier bedtime and give it a couple of days for them to adjust. other than that i don't have any advice, sorry, not very helpful.. we have gone through phases like this too and then they will just stop doing it for no reason that i have ever been able to figure out.

 

Maybe they are teething? 6:25 sounds like a very reasonable bedtime for 9 months old.

 

Mine are the exact same age and that is almost exactly my schedule. I would try giving them a soothy or glow to bring to bed with them. My son that puts himself loves his little soothe blanket and glow worm. He just listens to the glow worm (its actually a sea horse glow worm I like that one better since the music stays on for like 10min) and plays with his little blanke thing. Then after he falls asleep I take them out, but it kind of distacts him from why I am putting him in there and he falls asleep playing with them. Not sure if you are already giving them something, but it seem like you are nailing it on the head as far as the time you are putting them to bed in relation to their schedule and amount of time they are napping for. I have no idea why they are fussing, but I hope it goes away soon for you.

 

My girls are 8 months old ( will be 9mos on the 30th) and their bedtime is 8pm, but now its 7:30. Is this too late?? They are up 6:30-7am

 

I would guess that the crying is probably related to separation anxiety. A lovely phase!

We were going to bed at 7 that age, and up for the day around 7am. If it's not broke, don't fix it!

 

We have the exact same schedule.
I think they don't want to sleep, they want to play with you and explore the world some more.
You can only teach them that this is not okay by letting them cry a bit, it should subside.

 

My boys really like their blankets and use them to self sooth. For wyatt I had to keep plugging in his soother over and over again for a few days and then he went to bed himself sometimes I also turn on his mobile which projects stars on his ceiling. How do you guys get your boys to bed so early? my boys go to bed between 8:30 and 9:30 and sleep till 9am(usually getting up once around 4am).I was thinking maybe you need to either push their bed time back or cut out a nap because maybe they just aren't tired and thats why they are fussing? good luck

 

Ironically enough I just asked my pediatrician about this today. My boys have been CIO like we are starting all over again. He said I am putting them to bed too early (7:30PM) and that an average 9 month old should sleep from 9pm to 7am. I am going to try pushing their bedtime later and our dinner time up. Also, they are starting to eat solids, so we will all have dinner as a family from now on. We shall see what happens.

 

I was going to guess separation anxiety but I'm not for sure.. we haven't gotten to that stage here yet. Can't wait. Lol!

7:30 is too early? Mine sleep from 7:30/8:00 til around 7:00. So, almost 12 hours.. mine just won't stay up that late and we have a similar schedule to the OP.. *shrug* Everyone's different.

 

I think your routine sounds good. Give the new bedtime a few nights. I bet they settle in.

"Ironically enough I just asked my pediatrician about this today. My boys have been CIO like we are starting all over again. He said I am putting them to bed too early (7:30PM) and that an average 9 month old should sleep from 9pm to 7am."

Ly LO's would never make it to a 9pm bedtime. They aren't big nappers in the afternoon so 7PM is often a struggle to make it to! They sleep from 7/7:30 to 6/7am.

 

I tried the new schedule last night and so far so good. They boys went to bed at 9pm and woke up a little before 7am. They were not napping well during the day (maybe two 20 min naps). They just took an hour nap….hallelujah! I didn’t think they would stay awake either, but they did. Their schedules have to change as they get older. Before you know it they will be toddlers. My pediatrician insisted that they were sleeping too much during the night. The boys were crying at the 7:30am naptime (not ready for sleep). Last night they went to sleep on their own without a peep!

 

What time did they take naps during the day? There is no way my LOs can stay up from 3ish until 9pm.

 

They were sleeping for 20 - 30 min around 10:30AM and then again around 3:00PM. Not much sleep at all during the day. Today they slept for a little over an hour at 10AM and then another hour at 3PM. They seem happier. I take them baths at 7PM every night and I pushed it to 8PM. It usally takes 3 days for kids to adjut. They previous schedule worked from 4 months to about 7.5 months. It was time to adjust for us.

 

I read this and had to comment! Pediatricians are not always experts on sleep. Most sleep experts agree that the opposite is actually true...and it has been in our case anyway! When we put ours down later in the evening and they are over-tired they ALWAYS wake earlier the next morning. When we put them just 20 minutes earlier they sleep later in the morning! Personally I think 9pm is way too late for that age...mine would never last that long! Of course mine also do not nap for longer than an hour twice per day. Maybe if naps are 2 to 3 hours then they might last that long.

 

All kids are different. My pediatrician gave me advice based on my boys’ reaction to going to bed at 7:30. It worked for us. They are happier and napping longer during the day. Schedules have to change as kids get older. Again, all kids are different. This schedule is working for them. They made it clear to us that 7:30 was way too early for them. So, in this case my pediatrician was correct. It was specifically for them. The beginning post was going through exactly what my boys were going through. Maybe changing their schedules would work for her little ones...and maybe not.