8 months and it just feels harder

So we moved, so we would have more space, two cribs, etc....but everything still feels so hard. Back when they were 4 months old, my weekly newsletter from baby.com said your babies will be crying a lot less - well Jake and Becca clearly didn't read the email. I work full time, so I only see them in the morning and at night.

At night, we are trying hard to keep structure and routine so they will go to sleep easily, which means I come home, bathe them, dress them for bed and then the 'whack a twin' routine begins. Jake goes in the crib, cries, doesn't want his bottle, back in the crib, cries, takes his bottle, finally goes down. He actually has been better lately, going down within 15 minutes of when we try to get him down.

Becca, who used to be our good sleeper is a nightmare. I think it's because her eating is messed up with solids - so she gets hungry at night and can't settle down. It's just frustrating becuase I can't play with them (not the right time of day to stimulate them) and she wants to be held, so I can't get anything done.

On top of everything, I feel like a failure when I read posts about "i put the baby in the crib and 5 mintues later the baby is asleep."

Just going through a tough time and feeling like everything with the babies is reactive, not proactive.

Thanks for listening.
Miriam

 

FIrst you are not a failure!!!!! It's just hard - but you'll get through it. I promise!!!!!!! Maybe it's the move that's got them a bit unsettled and they'll settle down in a few weeks. Good luck!!!

 

You are not a failure! It's just a phase and you will get through it!! Maybe it was the move causing problems for them?

I work full time so I know how you feel. We don't put our girls down now until 8:30 so I can spend more time with them! I am lucky that I get home at 4:00 so at least I get some play time.

Please try to hang in there.

 

Around 8-9 months was a rough time for us. It seemed like they were never happy. I think that they were on the verge of a developmental growth spurt, and it messed up everything...eating, sleeping...etc, etc, etc! :hug99:

 

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she wants to be held, so I can't get anything done.


Have you tried a Baby Bjorn? I swear I would not get a single thing done without one of those.

Meanwhile, lots and lots of hugs. :hug99: I hope things get better soon.

 

You are not a failure! Our house would not be normal if we didn't have sleep issues almost everyday. Try to remember that most things are just a phase (that's my mantra) and it will get better at some point. :hug99:

 

I am right there with ya'! And we didn't even move!!! Lately my good sleeper has been needing extra TLC too when I put her down. The other one was always torture to get her to settle down, but I was used to it. Now I'm like a fool dancing in between them back and forth...trying to get them to settle.

And like pp's said, you are sooooooo not a failure! You a hard working mommy who loves her babies. We'll get through it. :drinks: