35 weeks and so ready for this to be over

The last few weeks have gotten really hard. Although I can still do everything (so to speak) I'm just miserable. I won't go into detail because I'm sure everyone past 30-32 weeks knows what I'm talking about. I just keep thinking how am I going to keep this up for another 5 weeks. I wake up and want to cry because my body hurts so bad (even my fingers and toes ache like I worked them out to no end the night before), and I go to sleep wanting to cry because of how bad my back hurts and can't lay in one spot for more than 5 minutes. I will be 35 weeks tomorrow and the doctor said anytime I can go into labor and the babies will be fine but that we should shoot for 36-37 weeks. But they won't induce until after 40 weeks. I feel like a horrible person and mother wishing that I would go into labor early but it's just so hard!!!! I want to be able to bend and breathe, not spend more than half the day in the bathroom. And eating, thinking about food makes me want to throw up and eating it puts me in more pain. People have been saying it looks like I just shoved a basketball under my shirt. Well thats what it feels like. Only under my skin and it kicks my ribs constantly. They are bruised. I can hardly touch that area to try to push the baby down so he's not laying on them.

How did you make it through these last weeks? Any advice? I just want to curl into a ball and cry most of the time. I know there are people on here in a lot worse situations and I just can't imagine. I guess I'm a lot weaker than I thought.

Sorry I just needed to vent a little. DH isn't very simpathetic. He thinks I'm just being lazy resting all the time.

 

:hug: You aren't weaker then anyone, you're human! It is really tough towards the end, I know it was for me and I didn't have a two year old that I needed to take care of. :hug: You are doing a fantastic job Momma, you really are. I know right now things feel soar and numb and you are in pain... like you just don't see an end to this, but there will be an end and you will have two gorgeous little babies that are healthy and happy, and all of this will be SO worth it. I promise. That's what kept me going towards the end, just thinking of my babies. And that if they were to come early, yes I'd feel better but there could have been a chance that they'd need to be in the NICU and it made me suck it up for a little bit longer. You can and will do this. :hug:

 

Hi,You almost took the words right out of my mouth!!!! I know exactly what you are feeling.I wonder how long that I can take it. I literally can not walk at times because of exscruciating (SP?) pelvic pain...and forget about bending! I also have a husband who do not understand exactly what I am feeling.I guess that is because he is use to me being such a strong person that he kinda don't believe the pain that I sometimes feel.And the bathroom trips.....simply turning in bed hurts and sometimes I have to just sit at the end of the bed until me stomach settles before getting up to go to the restroom.I also want to know how others did it.Because at this point I really wonder how in the heck did they do it! But once I reach 36-36.5 wks. I will start doing alot of walking to help me go into labor naturally...at least in labor by 37 wks.

 

I can sympathize with you completely. I am almost 32 weeks, and am done. Seriously. I don't know how I will make it to 37 weeks, if I go that far. I am thinking of upping my walking dramatically by the time I hit 35 weeks, just so maybe I can go into labor naturally around 36/37 weeks!

 

I'm only 33 weeks and I feel the same way. I tell my husband almost every night that I am done with the pregnant thing. I'm sure he is tired of hearing it.

 

I'm right there with you all...my newest complaint is an insanely itchy tummy. I seriously can barely stand it!!! Add that to the nosebleeds, achy hips and back and pretty much everything else you all mentioned and I just want to shake these babies out!!! I'm on bed rest right now and am thinking I'll start being a little more active at week 36 just to see if I can get things rolling.. 37 seems way too far...

 

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Hugs to all of you.

 

I am right along side of you, oh also my down ther area is swollen like crazy which is killing me to and the rest less legs....ugh. I feel like a bad mom at times two just wishing that it would be over at this point. I am 3 cm dialated (for over a week now) but I feel like they'll never come out, I do sit on an excersize ball alot because it seems to relieve some of the pressure. I also use ALOT of icy hot on my legs. The hands and feet pain seems to be a swelling pain or so the L&D nurses always tell me at my NST's even though I am very barely swollen and very much in pain. I know once it is all over it will be worth it that we made it thus far and then some, because I saw a friend of mines twins in the nicu for 19 days with tons of tubes after being born at 32 weeks and I dont think I could emotionally handl that....but now that I'm so close to the end I really hope I dont make it past 36/37 weeks.

Also my OB who insists on a csection (whole other story) agreed on a date at 38 weeks so I know I'll be done at least by the 25th. Going all the way to 40 weeks with twins to be induced seems crazy.....even just two weeks in this conditions seems like eternity. Have you pushed for a little sooner? I pushed and got from 39 weeks to 38.....not much but something.


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Is it bad that i'm starting to feel this way and i'm only 28 1/2 weeks? yesterday morning I cried in bed because I was already so sore and i hadn't started the day yet. I am really scared about what this is going to be like when it gets even worse. Good luck to you ladies! you're almost there!

 

So sorry ladies! I am not that far along yet and already I have a hard time with everything, it's mostyly all still doable in that I can push through the pain etc but I just can't imagine being in your shoes. Guess I will know soon enough. Hang in there! You are all strong, and someone who hasn't carried a baby let alone 2 just can't understand what it's like. It's beyond hard! :hug:

 

I can totally sympathize too. I never ever imagined it would get this bad. The rib pain is excruciating I can't even go into the grocery store for 5 minutes w/o feeling like I might pass out.

We're doing reno's right now and I don't have the energy or the desire to sort the kids toys. These babies will be coming home to and unorganized house at this pt lol

 

I have military doctors. The nurse that did my last NST said oh you only have a couple weeks left then they will induce you. I told her they said they wouldn't til 40 weeks and she knew who my doctors were. She said they are real sticklers and stuck in their own ways. No wiggle room. So I am just hoping to go on my own before then. And sooner rather than later.

I'm glad to know I'm not in this alone. I started getting really bad swelling Friday night and can't do anything now because of it. My blood pressure is still great so hopefully it's nothing bad. For those still in weeks in the 20s good luck and hang in there. It does go by fast even though right now it sure doesn't feel like it. I luckily didn't get miserable miserable until 32ish. And you guys still have a lot to go.

 

I definitley don't think you're a bad person for feeling that way AT ALL! I can soooo relate! I really was miserable those last few weeks. Just take one day at a time and know that you're in the home stretch!! Soon you will have those babies in your arms and then you will think to yourself "where did that time/pregnancy go"!! Hang in there! You're doing sooo great!

 

HUGS!!! I feel so bad for you ladies! The last several weeks are HARD! I actually had my babies right about where you are now at 34 weeks 6 days. I wanted to be done so much until I went in for an NST and they told me I'd be having a C-Section in a couple of hours! Then I freaked out and didn't want them to come yet...it was too early!

I know it won't make you feel any less miserable, but every extra day they are in there is so good for them (although 40 weeks sounds excessive! My doc wouldn't let me go past 38). It's devastating to not be able to see your babies, because they are in the NICU, while you are in recovery. Mine were only in for 2 weeks, but one had to go to a different hospital, and it is so horrible to see your babies struggle to breathe etc.

Hang in there! You're almost done!

 

I cried when I felt like it. I sat in the recliner a LOT. I watched a lot of TV and took a lot of naps. I worked until 35 weeks, and I was miserable but it seemed so much worse when I was home from 35 weeks on. I tried to get out and do some shopping, see movies, etc., but it was just so painful. It WILL be over soon. Hang in there and do anything you can to make your day more pleasant!

ETA: Oh, and smack your husband! Like he has a clue!

 

I'm right there with you girl. It kills to roll over in bed, I can't do simple things like load the dishwasher or vacuum the floor. Going shopping in Wal-Mart brings on Braxton-Hicks contractions. Sitting at this computer in this chair makes me feel like my pelvis is breaking. Its driving me crazy. There are so many things that need to get done, but I am instantly out of breath as soon as I stand up and walk into another room.

Here's something that might make you laugh... we bought an above-ground pool this weekend and I was super excited to be able to float weightlessly in the water. Wellllll -hehe- we all ended up having so much fun in the pool that we didn't put on enough sunscreen and all three of us are toasted now! We're lobsters! :blush: I can't wait to hear what my doctor has to say tomorrow when I go in to see him with my normally lily-white face as red as a beet! lol

Hang in there. Hopefully when this is all over we'll barely be able to remember how miserable we are!! :hug:

 

Ooh, yes you should all try to get out and get in the water somewhere. I remember it being such a joy at the end of my pregnancy to float.

 

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I'm right there with you girl. It kills to roll over in bed, I can't do simple things like load the dishwasher or vacuum the floor. Going shopping in Wal-Mart brings on Braxton-Hicks contractions. Sitting at this computer in this chair makes me feel like my pelvis is breaking. Its driving me crazy. There are so many things that need to get done, but I am instantly out of breath as soon as I stand up and walk into another room.

Here's something that might make you laugh... we bought an above-ground pool this weekend and I was super excited to be able to float weightlessly in the water. Wellllll -hehe- we all ended up having so much fun in the pool that we didn't put on enough sunscreen and all three of us are toasted now! We're lobsters! :blush: I can't wait to hear what my doctor has to say tomorrow when I go in to see him with my normally lily-white face as red as a beet! lol

Hang in there. Hopefully when this is all over we'll barely be able to remember how miserable we are!! :hug:



Ditto.....I spent the weekend at my moms pool....I loved the feeling of the weight off my back and feet!!!....didn't like laying in bed that night going from hot to cold every other minute from the sun burn

 

Oh, this is a fantastic post to remind us we are not alone. I am only 27 weeks and in a place of misery that I didn't know existed... I can only imagine what it could possibly be like at 30-35 weeks. You ladies are my heros for getting through it right now! With DS, I didn't feel as bad as I do now the entire time I was pregnant.

I'm pretty sure there are parts of me that will never recover...

 

I had my girls at 35 wks and 3 days, but I can understand how you are feeling, I was so miserable towards the end.
I agree with whoever said to smack your DH, I'd like to see him go through what you are! You can do it!

 

Oh hang in there!! I had my baby dolls at one day shy of 35 weeks. I was also MISERBLE!!!!! I spent a lot of time in our hot tub (low heat) I put my arms on the side of the hot tub so my tummy was down. It was wonderful on my back. It took all the pressure off my back. It will be over before you know it! I did take Ambien per my Dr. ask if you can't sleep. It is sooooo important you need to sleep!! Try to hang in there. If you are having a boy or 2 the more they cook the better. My daughter at 35 weeks (almost) did great my little guy had a hard time breathing. His little chest probally went up and down an inch because he had a tough time breathing. It still kills me to think about it. Although I had a c-section and the fluid was not squeezed out of his lungs... He was perfectly fine in a few days but not what I wanted to see the first time I saw my tiny baby. So hang on the more they "cook" the less days in the NICU!! Having said that you have a GREAT chance this far that if you babies are born this second they will come home with you, and have no NICU time!!!

Hang tough! I promise it is just a blip in your raidar. I soooo know how you feel. I was 103 lbs when I got pg with them and am barely five foot four. I NVER thought my body would do what it did! For now enjoy the quiet!!!!! And give those babies a little squueze for me when you get to hold them.. I sooo miss those newborn days!!

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