32 week OB visit (venting)

well I just got back from my OB visit and NST. the NST went fine. everything is looking good.

then I had my OB visit, and I had some questions for him. he did his best to answer them I guess, but I'm feeling less than satisfied. basically my only hope of getting this over with b-4 38 1/2 weeks is to go into labor since he just won't scheduel anything b-4 that. fine whatever, maybe I'll go into labor anyway, maybe not? who knows?? I would really like to get this over with as soon as possible because I'm tired of the pain! what I really wanted was for him to scheduel my C/S closer to 37 weeks because I'm concerned about going into labor. and I really think that if it was just a week sooner my chances of going into labor would be less! I know I'm having a C/S and don't want to go into labor! I'd just rather avoid all the pain, and stress. we live an hour from the hospital, and I really don't know what I'd do with my kids if I went into labor in the middle of the night. so he didn't give me any hope of not having to worry about being in full blown painful labor to begin with. then I told him that I'm concerned about accute TTTS, and he acted like I didn't know what I was talking about and that everything I'd read was bogus and someone that didn't know what they were talking bout must've just made it up! so then I was mad at him! not scheduleing the C/S when I want was kinda frustrating, but to have him tell me that what I'm concerned about doesn't exsist! oh I was so mad! just because he hasn't heard of something that is rare doesn't mean it doesn't happen, and it doesn't mean I have no reason to be concerned. and I think if I'm concerned about it then HE should be too!!

oh! and if you read about my ER visit here's an update. I got the statement from the hospital. the bill submited to thie insurance was for over $1800!! and all the ER Dr said was "hhhmmm I don't know" I figure that if the bill was $1800 then he should care $1800 worth! and he certainly didn't!

I'm so fed up with Dr.s right now! I don't want to see anymore! I don't want to go to any more apointments, and I don't want to go to another hospital ever again unless it's for a delivery! I'm just so fed up with all medical professionals telling me that it's perfectly normal and nothing to worry about to be dizzy most of the time, have really low blood pressure, and be passing out in grocerie stores. what do I have to do? passout while driving!? would that get someone's attention? probably not, unless I had an accident and died!

OBs always "claim" that the health of the mother comes first! what a bunch of crap! I'm not saying I want to deliver today, but I'd like for someone to say something other than "hhmmm..." when I tell them something that's just not right. I've been dizzy durring pregnancy b-4, and all of this is not normal! but oh I don't look dead so I'm fine!

ok enough ranting for now. thanks for listening.
Michelle

 

well I just got back from my OB visit and NST. the NST went fine. everything is looking good.

then I had my OB visit, and I had some questions for him. he did his best to answer them I guess, but I'm feeling less than satisfied. basically my only hope of getting this over with b-4 38 1/2 weeks is to go into labor since he just won't scheduel anything b-4 that. fine whatever, maybe I'll go into labor anyway, maybe not? who knows?? I would really like to get this over with as soon as possible because I'm tired of the pain! what I really wanted was for him to scheduel my C/S closer to 37 weeks because I'm concerned about going into labor. and I really think that if it was just a week sooner my chances of going into labor would be less! I know I'm having a C/S and don't want to go into labor! I'd just rather avoid all the pain, and stress. we live an hour from the hospital, and I really don't know what I'd do with my kids if I went into labor in the middle of the night. so he didn't give me any hope of not having to worry about being in full blown painful labor to begin with. then I told him that I'm concerned about accute TTTS, and he acted like I didn't know what I was talking about and that everything I'd read was bogus and someone that didn't know what they were talking bout must've just made it up! so then I was mad at him! not scheduleing the C/S when I want was kinda frustrating, but to have him tell me that what I'm concerned about doesn't exsist! oh I was so mad! just because he hasn't heard of something that is rare doesn't mean it doesn't happen, and it doesn't mean I have no reason to be concerned. and I think if I'm concerned about it then HE should be too!!

oh! and if you read about my ER visit here's an update. I got the statement from the hospital. the bill submited to thie insurance was for over $1800!! and all the ER Dr said was "hhhmmm I don't know" I figure that if the bill was $1800 then he should care $1800 worth! and he certainly didn't!

I'm so fed up with Dr.s right now! I don't want to see anymore! I don't want to go to any more apointments, and I don't want to go to another hospital ever again unless it's for a delivery! I'm just so fed up with all medical professionals telling me that it's perfectly normal and nothing to worry about to be dizzy most of the time, have really low blood pressure, and be passing out in grocerie stores. what do I have to do? passout while driving!? would that get someone's attention? probably not, unless I had an accident and died!

OBs always "claim" that the health of the mother comes first! what a bunch of crap! I'm not saying I want to deliver today, but I'd like for someone to say something other than "hhmmm..." when I tell them something that's just not right. I've been dizzy durring pregnancy b-4, and all of this is not normal! but oh I don't look dead so I'm fine!

ok enough ranting for now. thanks for listening.
Michelle

 

Oh Michelle, your post breaks my heart. Deep breaths and try to relax!

Have you had your blood sugar tested? That is the first thing that comes to mind in regards to the dizzy spells.

Is it possible for you to switch docs at this point? Pregnancy is a long enough road to travel without having the doctor issues you describe!

I am sorry you are soo uncomfortable at this point. My peri would not even discuss setting up a date until I reached 39 weeks (unless of course there was some issue with me or the babies). Actually we never discussed it but when I got a copy of my files I saw in the notes section where he said, if Dianne reaches 39 weeks gestation then an induction date will be discussed.

You have done such a great job carrying these babies! I would suggest reading through some of the recent birth stories and looking at all the gorgeous babies in our member's avatars (of course you can start with mine ) and try to use that as incentive to get to the home stretch.

 

Diannne,
thank you. your reply is very sweet. I don't think that now would be a good time to switch OBs seeing as how the one I have now knows my history, and I don't really care to explain it all to someone new. I know he's just doing what he thinks is best, I'm just upset that what I think doesn't seem to matter at all.

maybe after a good night's sleep I'll feel better? so let's see... that should be about Eater! can't wait! I think Easter will be my new favorite holliday to look forward to.
thanks again,
michelle

 

Michelle--I'm sorry things have been so frustrating! It is so annoying to have the feeling that medical professionals don't truly care about you or what you're saying. Like you said, I'm sure they're doing what they think is best...but what they get is that this is YOUR body, and you know better than anyone what is normal and not normal. I have so many friends with experiences similar to yours. I think you should just listen to your body, and follow your gut. Be persistent if there is an issue that is really bothering you. I don't think it's crazy to ask for a scheduled c-section so you don't have to go into labor. I don't see what the big deal is with that! Try asking your dr, "what will it take for you to schedule my c-section so I don't go into labor unecessarily?" Really dig to find out what his policy is and why. Maybe he can help you understand better instead of just brushing you off. I hope your next appointment goes better, and that you can have some peace of mind soon!

Reyna