31.5 weeks and miserable....help

K, im 31.5 weeks with my b/g twins and im so incredibly ready to be done with this pregnancy. any tips for surviving the last weeks - im having incredible pressure in my groin/pelvis, lots of sharp back pain, contractions - but no progress. only dialated 1cm but am 50% effaced. i'm just miserable, i can't move/sit/stand/bend....ugh.

so im in need of some encouragement, advice, support.

 

Just wanted to say that I understand how eager and ready you are to deliver; however, it is best to keep those babies in as long as possible. I remember having the same feelings and at 35 weeks my doctor told me that I would probably go to 38 weeks because I had an an uneventful pregnancy. I cried all the way home because I was so tired of being pregnant. My water broke that night and I gave birth to my sweet babies. When they had a hard time breathing, maintaining their body temp, etc. and spend time in the special care nursery, I was so sad that I wished them out of me. I felt some guilt because I knew they would have been healthier if they would have been delivered later. Anyway . . . just remember that they are in the best place possible right now. I do know how difficult that is when your body is so miserable. Keep up the good work!

 

Hi there!
:hug99: Those last few weeks seem endless & can be really rough physically & emotionally.
The way I got through it was a LOT of laying on the couch & resting (and complaining to my husband every single day on how hard it was!! )
Now that you have found Twinstuff, you can spend your day on here complaining to us!!! This is a great place to vent or to tell us about your great days and how excited you are - wonderful way to pass the time until your due date! :good:
Hang in there mama...you are SO close!!

 

thanks ladies. i need all the ooompf i can get. i feel at the end of my rope. but i also know that if the babies WERE to arrive and have problems, i would feel so guilty about wishing them here so soon.

i didn't feel this way with my first pregnancy (my son is now 2.5), but the twin pregnancy was unexpected and has been just awful to date. so i feel helpless, alone, miserable, the whole nine yards.

keep the encouragement coming. i need it...

 

I am so sorry that you are feeling so badly. I can relate to all the symptoms you have. I also have rib issues and severe muscle pain in my upper abdomen. I also have thoughts sneak into my head that I hope I don't go all the way to 38 weeks etc. but I know that would be best for babies. I feel much better when I am not pushing myself physically (which is very hard because I am a SAHM to a toddler and preteen). Try to relax as much as you can and I am sure the time will fly by before you know it. It usually does. Good luck and maybe go and get a massage or pedicure that may give you some temporary relieve. As far as the groin pain I use TONS of pillows. My poor hubby has one and I have the other 5 plus my 2 pregnancy pillows!!

 

Awwww, sweetie! I'm only 16 weeks on and tired of it already, so I can't imagine how rotten you must feel. Just try and lay around as much as possible and let anyone who wants to help do it!! I know what you mean about feeling alone and scared. I wonder everyday Can I handle this? Will it ruin my marriage? Will it make my older son feel left out and alone? I can only assume that these feelings are normal! Hang it there-you're almost done!!

Becky

 

I just wanted to tell you I definitely know how you feel..I get pains all the time ligament pain I think and I have to curl up and wait them out sometimes. I have acid reflux so bad I can not sleep at night I throw up more now than in the beginning (not food just stomach acid from the reflux) so I am always tired and all I want to do is lay down, but I hate to lay down LOL I can not bend either and it seems like I drop stuff now more than ever :blink: most of the time I will leave it there until DH gets home LOL There is so much pressure on my pelvic region I cant even stand long enough to cook dinner..Getting dressed and moving too much is so uncomfortable I hate to leave the house I just wanna stay home in my P.Js I take a shower and put on new P.Js LOL I feel disgusting and huge most of the time!!! So you are not alone don't feel guilty :hug99: I wonder how much worse twin pregnancy is compared to a singleton (this is my first pregnancy)..

 

Ugh. I remember that. I remember getting the epidural and telling everyone in the OR that it was the first time in 2 months I hadn't been in pain. All I can tell you is that most of it goes away immediately upon delivery and before you know it, you'll have 6 month olds!

 

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I was in your same position and I begged from 32 weeks on to just have the babies every time I went to the doctor, and every time he'd say I wasn't progressing and I was so disappointed. I was just so incredibly uncomfortable. I found that baths really really helped me. I heard pools were good too, I think its the whole weightlessness in water. I spent the entire day before I delivered in the bathtub because I couldn't take the discomfort any longer.
I agree with PP, keep those babies in as long as possible, try to stay off your feet and know that it will all soon be over and just think of the wonderful little babies you will have to show for it.

 

I ditto the bath the thing i would take 3-4 a day just to get a little relief from the pressure. ALso if you can get in a pool that helps alot. I had to have two people to haul me out though! hehe

 

*UPDATE* Lisa (OP) has been admitted to the hospital and given steroid shots. Expecting birth within 48 hours.

:hug99: Take care of yourself Lisa!

 

Hello ladies...it's Lisa - at the hospital on bedrest. I'm 32 weeks 4 days now. Came in 5 days ago with PTL (dilated to 4cm and 80% effaced). Thought we were having babies but progress stopped, so here I sit. Bored out of my mind. I'm willing myself to go into labor I'm so uncomfortable. I feel like the doctors and nurses are great, but just don't get it. This is torture. I just want the hard part to begin (the babies arrive!!).

Thanks for the posts, they've kept me going.

 

Hang in there. :hug99:

 

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Hello ladies...it's Lisa - at the hospital on bedrest. I'm 32 weeks 4 days now. Came in 5 days ago with PTL (dilated to 4cm and 80% effaced). Thought we were having babies but progress stopped, so here I sit. Bored out of my mind. I'm willing myself to go into labor I'm so uncomfortable. I feel like the doctors and nurses are great, but just don't get it. This is torture. I just want the hard part to begin (the babies arrive!!).

Thanks for the posts, they've kept me going.

Hey hun.. Just remember every one uncomphy day in the hospital is so much better for your babies!!! You got the steroid shots so that should help some if they decide to come soon.. But try to keep them in for just a few more weeks!!!

You are doing wonderful!!

Heres a lil story.. I went to L&D at 35 weeks (they said they wouldnt stop labor after 35 weeks) and they stoped my labor!!! I went home crying. And i still went to 38 +3..

 

Hang in there Lisa! I think you are doing great and are incredibly brave for sticking it out!