3 yo girls

my girls are discovering their bodies now lol and do an occasional 'inappropriate' action when in the bathtub together, it upsets my mom anyway, but anyway, she is talking about them needing to bathe separately. when did you find this necessary?

 

I still bathe mine together. Not planning on stopping any time soon. I already bathe the baby separately. I don't plan on doing 3 baths each evening any time soon.

 

It's perfectly normal for them to explore. Just explain to them that it's something to do in private. I assume my girls will be getting baths together for as long as they'll let me.

 

My girls are 3 & are completely fascinated by each other's bodies - they like to look & touch. When they do, we just explain that some body parts are private parts & that we don't touch other people's private parts. Otherwise we don't make a big deal out of it. Their interest is perfectly innocent & I don't plan on disabusing them of that any time soon. I'll probably let them bathe/shower together until they don't want to anymore.

 

I'll let my girls take baths together until they're too big to fit (or until they want to shower and can't fit in the shower together). Mine went through a period of being interested in each other's bodies around 3, but we consistently explained that certain parts were private. Now they don't really care except on the rare occasion that they're tormenting each other and then they seem to forget about the private part rule and I hear things like "Stop sticking your finger in my ear! No, you may not scratch my knees! Get your finger out of my bottom!"

 

This is how it was for my big girls. They were still taking baths together at 7, but they were getting pretty squashed. Between 7 and 8 they gradually moved to separate baths and showers, I don't think they go in together at all any more.

I agree with everyone else, just use it as an opportunity to explain appropriate boundaries.

 

My kids all still bath/shower together. My older 2 (9yr old ds and almost 5yr old dd) usually shower together at night before bed because they need to get to bed on time for school.

 

My girls still take a bath together. It's a phase and will pass. I just gently told my girls to stop and went on like it was no big deal.

 

I agree with the others that it is a normal phase. My b/g twins were still bathing together past the 3 yr mark. We just recently stopped per DD's request. We would just simply address it by saying we keep our hands to ourselves...no touching other people's privates. I think the time to separate them is when one or the other becomes uncomfortable with the idea or requests more privacy. Until then, I wouldn't make a big deal about it.

 

I think age 7 sounds reasonable for taking showers alone. I'm kinda thinking that's when they'll stop taking baths w/ assistance.. but not sure.

 

I agree with Laura. Mine are over 3 and b/g twins and still bathe together. Once they start getting too big for the tub or request privacy (whichever comes first) then I will separate. When they were interested in body part differences, I just non-chalantly reminded them that they do have different parts and it's not nice to touch there.

 

Mine still take baths and showers together. Like many others said when they are either too big to fit, or say they want privacy, we'll stop. But for now its too much time and effort on my part to bathe them separately.

 

I started bathing mine separately sometime between 3 and 4, but only because they got taller and each wanted to stretch out in the tub. The bickering and fighting were more of a pain than just bathing them separately.

As far as the "inappropriate" behavior, I agree with everyone else. Not a big deal.

 

My b/g set still take baths together. They'll be four next week. I will bathe them together until one asks to be bathed separately. When we went through the inappropriate behaviors a year ago, we just told them to keep their hands to themselves and to not touch each other's bathing suit areas.

 

mine are over 5 and still bathe together - we went through a phase on Abby's part where she thought her brother's winky was a bath toy but it passed...

 

:rofl: I just spat water on my keyboard.