3 weeks on hospital bedrest

I have been on hospital bedrest for 3 weeks now. I was admitted because my cervix was 1-2 cm dilated at 28,5 weeks. I am 32 weeks now and loosing my mind.

It is so hard to keep my focus on these unborn babies, because I miss my son sOOOOOOO much. And he misses me too, he asks to see me all the time! Missing my son is the hardest thing in this whole ordeal.

I feel incredibly guilty , because I can't put twins on the top of the list!!! I am at the point where I just want this thing to be over with. I know that they are still small and that the longer they stay inside- the better for them! But all I want to do is to cry and get it over with so I can go home to my son ... I have never left my son before, and now it is killing me.

Am I alone? Does anybody else goes through the same thing? Any advice?

Thank you

 

:hug: I was int he hospital for 2weeks so I know how you feel about being away from your little one. I honestly don't know how to survive it. I didn't. It's hard, but just remember that you are doing it for the ones that need you a little more right now...Has your doc said anything about when he will turn you loose and let whatever happens happen? My doc told me that she just wanted to get me to 34 weeks...that's 2 weeks from now, so hold on.

 

QUOTE(oh-baby-baby @ May 12 2009, 08:15 PM) [snapback]1310988[/snapback]
:hug: I was int he hospital for 2weeks so I know how you feel about being away from your little one. I honestly don't know how to survive it. I didn't. It's hard, but just remember that you are doing it for the ones that need you a little more right now...Has your doc said anything about when he will turn you loose and let whatever happens happen? My doc told me that she just wanted to get me to 34 weeks...that's 2 weeks from now, so hold on.


Thank you for replying. Are you home now, or still in the hospital?
My doctor says that the first mark is 32 weeks (which I am), and then we will see what happens. she does not think that I'll be able to go on for much longer because I have been having contractions for 3 days now, and they give me the turb shots everytime, and my cervix is about 2-3cm dilated, so there is no discussion about letting me go home.
But at this point I don't know what I want more, for contractions to stop or keep on going, so I can get it over with...

I wish I can be strong enough to keep on going, and I am not a crybaby usually, but this thing wore me down so much. I always try to stay positive, but at this point it is so hard!!!

 

Hi, I am not in the hospital ( and praying that I will avoid it) but I understand you.
Missing the son is terrible feeling. but remember you need to cook these 2 as long a you can. you are already great you made it to 32 week. 2 more week to go. jst think about that that this is ONLY 2 week after that even if they will be born they just need to gain weight ni NICU. did you get the steroid shot? do you have insteresting books to read? something what can take you time so you will not see how it is flying?
might be shop on ebay? I am sure that you see DS in the evening and this is the hardest time for you. might be if you are up to you can organize pictures ( i mean digital one) I like to play with photoshop and do the picture collage. I am not sure what else to suggest. I went to my u/s in monday and my cervix went down to 2.2cm and I understand that I am just a little bit from the bedrest. I put myself on moderate bedrest at home and working with my pc on top of my belly ( kids not always like it ) will have OB appointment on Friday to have FFN test.
Did you have yours? was is positive?

 

I have been on bedrest for 10 weeks now, 3 or 4 have been on hospital bedrest. My doc keeps saying that it could be anytime that they come, (before he would say I could go home anytime) but it hasn't happened yet! When I first got put on bedrest, I started getting depressed, which is weird for me because I usually have no problem being positive. It is a lot harder than I thought it would be to just sit here and do nothing!!! I don't have any other kids, I would imagine that being seperated from them would make it harder, so props to you for still trying to be positive and find the best way to deal with it, that really says a lot about you being a good mom!

But when you describe not being sure if you even want the contractions to stop, I know how you feel! I am sure that when the time comes, you will be so glad that you made it just that extra week or two that will make all the difference. And though they aren't here yet, soon they will be and you will be just as connected to them as you are to your son.

In answer to your question of what helps you stay motivated, here is what has helped me:
1- I try to do constructive things that make me feel like I'm making the home load a little lighter or helping someone else (etc. budgeting, going through mail, or making my sister a blanket)
2- I get completely ready in the morning (even though I am in bed all day) just cuz it makes me feel better
3- My DH will bring me simple stuff like PB&J that reminds me of home
4- I play games with visitors instead of sitting and talking about what is or isn't happening with the babies Those conversations always seem to make me dwell on the negative.
5- Do something every day that I didn't do the day before, even if it's as simple as emailing an old friend or writing a letter to my husband or something like that
6- I have been honest with my doctor when I was struggling emotionally with being on bedrest, he listened to me and did as much as he could to help me feel more comfortable.

Anyway, I was really depressed for awhile, but once I found my own way of being useful again (besides growing babies lol), I felt a lot better. Good luck, I know you can make it!!

 

QUOTE(scorpion509 @ May 13 2009, 12:39 PM) [snapback]1311978[/snapback]
Hi, I am not in the hospital ( and praying that I will avoid it) but I understand you.
Missing the son is terrible feeling. but remember you need to cook these 2 as long a you can. you are already great you made it to 32 week. 2 more week to go. jst think about that that this is ONLY 2 week after that even if they will be born they just need to gain weight ni NICU. did you get the steroid shot? do you have insteresting books to read? something what can take you time so you will not see how it is flying?
might be shop on ebay? I am sure that you see DS in the evening and this is the hardest time for you. might be if you are up to you can organize pictures ( i mean digital one) I like to play with photoshop and do the picture collage. I am not sure what else to suggest. I went to my u/s in monday and my cervix went down to 2.2cm and I understand that I am just a little bit from the bedrest. I put myself on moderate bedrest at home and working with my pc on top of my belly ( kids not always like it ) will have OB appointment on Friday to have FFN test.
Did you have yours? was is positive?

I got the steroid shots already.
And I have everything that I can possibly need, TV, phone (can you belive they are charging $11/day for phone and TV!!!!!) computer, IPod, magazines, yarn, etc. But some times I can't make myself do anything.
Today was better day for me, I've got 2 of my girlfriends to stop by.
I only have seen my son 3 times since I was admitted, my mom does not drive and my husband is working or moving us all the time. And I don't know if it is beneficial for my son to come and see me often, it looks like he misses me more after he sees me. + with the swine flu scare, I don't want to drag him to the hospital too much...
Thanks for your suggestion, I will deffinetly try playing with my pictures...

You take care of yourself and take it easy!! Hope you will be at home until it is time to deliver the babies!!

 

QUOTE(2xthefun20 @ May 13 2009, 02:59 PM) [snapback]1312263[/snapback]
I have been on bedrest for 10 weeks now, 3 or 4 have been on hospital bedrest. My doc keeps saying that it could be anytime that they come, (before he would say I could go home anytime) but it hasn't happened yet! When I first got put on bedrest, I started getting depressed, which is weird for me because I usually have no problem being positive. It is a lot harder than I thought it would be to just sit here and do nothing!!! I don't have any other kids, I would imagine that being seperated from them would make it harder, so props to you for still trying to be positive and find the best way to deal with it, that really says a lot about you being a good mom!

But when you describe not being sure if you even want the contractions to stop, I know how you feel! I am sure that when the time comes, you will be so glad that you made it just that extra week or two that will make all the difference. And though they aren't here yet, soon they will be and you will be just as connected to them as you are to your son.

In answer to your question of what helps you stay motivated, here is what has helped me:
1- I try to do constructive things that make me feel like I'm making the home load a little lighter or helping someone else (etc. budgeting, going through mail, or making my sister a blanket)
2- I get completely ready in the morning (even though I am in bed all day) just cuz it makes me feel better
3- My DH will bring me simple stuff like PB&J that reminds me of home
4- I play games with visitors instead of sitting and talking about what is or isn't happening with the babies Those conversations always seem to make me dwell on the negative.
5- Do something every day that I didn't do the day before, even if it's as simple as emailing an old friend or writing a letter to my husband or something like that
6- I have been honest with my doctor when I was struggling emotionally with being on bedrest, he listened to me and did as much as he could to help me feel more comfortable.

Anyway, I was really depressed for awhile, but once I found my own way of being useful again (besides growing babies lol), I felt a lot better. Good luck, I know you can make it!!


Thank you for sharing your story !!!! Your tips are great!! and it helps to know that I am not the only one feeling that way!!

My doctor told me from the first day that I will not go home until I deliver since my cervix was open, she would not let me go.

I was doing really good these 3 weeks, but I guess it wears me down now.

I also try to be semi orgonized and on some what schedule during the day.

How far along are you? What is the reason for your bedrest ?

 

QUOTE(leokon @ May 13 2009, 11:24 AM) [snapback]1311865[/snapback]
Thank you for replying. Are you home now, or still in the hospital?
My doctor says that the first mark is 32 weeks (which I am), and then we will see what happens. she does not think that I'll be able to go on for much longer because I have been having contractions for 3 days now, and they give me the turb shots everytime, and my cervix is about 2-3cm dilated, so there is no discussion about letting me go home.
But at this point I don't know what I want more, for contractions to stop or keep on going, so I can get it over with...

I wish I can be strong enough to keep on going, and I am not a crybaby usually, but this thing wore me down so much. I always try to stay positive, but at this point it is so hard!!!


I just made it home on Saturday from my 2nd hospital stay. Mine is due to PIH, I get real bad headaches. My BP didn't go up until they said that they wanted to keep me to monitor the babies :grr: but I have no shortening of the cervix at all...they said it looks like I'm not even pregnant <_< ...

But I do understand how you feel...you don't want to go on any more but yet still you want for you babies to be not just ok, but the best that they can be. I just keep telling myself that I will look back and laugh this time next year on how I've been acting. Really I do believe that.. You've got to believe too that we'll be getting ready for birthday parties and new walkers going in 2 diffrent directions! :lol:

We are due on the same day...so I can relate to you and the bedrest as I am feeling it the same time you are. If you want to chat more, fine, PM me, I'm here, not going anywhere for at least the next 3 weeks. I can do it, and so can you!
:hug:

 

QUOTE(leokon @ May 13 2009, 04:05 PM) [snapback]1312401[/snapback]
Thank you for sharing your story !!!! Your tips are great!! and it helps to know that I am not the only one feeling that way!!

My doctor told me from the first day that I will not go home until I deliver since my cervix was open, she would not let me go.

I was doing really good these 3 weeks, but I guess it wears me down now.

I also try to be semi orgonized and on some what schedule during the day.

How far along are you? What is the reason for your bedrest ?


It definitely wears on you to be doing the same thing every day, so I understand. Just remember how great you have done and take it just a day at a time! But the schedule is a really good idea and that helped me a lot too! I am 37 weeks on Sunday and I went on hospital bedrest because I went into preterm labor and was dilated to a 5 and 95% effaced. I am off bedrest now, but still staying at the hospital because I live too far away to go home. Good luck again!!

 

I did 7 weeks of hospital bed rest and honestly, the best thing you can do is rest. You will NEVER rest like that again! I stayed really busy during the day with u/s, NSTs and chatting up the nurses. I kept my door open most of the day and had so many visitors just pop their heads in to keep me occupied. I played a lot of solitaire on the computer and spent most of the day on FaceBook and TwinStuff. Get caught up on thank you notes and sleep as much as possible!

Good luck momma!

 

What you are feeling is totally natural. :hug: I was put on hospital bedrest after Emilie was born. And I coudln't get out of bed for anything. I was getting so depress, I had a DD at home, a DD in the NICU (who I had not even seen yet) and then a DS inside me still. One day my 5 year old called me up crying and said "Mommy I need you". :cry: That was the last straw, I just couldn't take it anymore. I just wanted my son out, but I knew it was still too early and boys didn't do as well being born early as girls. I felt so incredibly guilty for feeling like I was being selfish and wanting it all to be over. Hospital bedrest is not easy, but it's even harder when you have another child at home. Hang in there. :grouphug:

 

QUOTE(oh-baby-baby @ May 13 2009, 05:51 PM) [snapback]1312525[/snapback]
I just made it home on Saturday from my 2nd hospital stay. Mine is due to PIH, I get real bad headaches. My BP didn't go up until they said that they wanted to keep me to monitor the babies :grr: but I have no shortening of the cervix at all...they said it looks like I'm not even pregnant <_< ...

But I do understand how you feel...you don't want to go on any more but yet still you want for you babies to be not just ok, but the best that they can be. I just keep telling myself that I will look back and laugh this time next year on how I've been acting. Really I do believe that.. You've got to believe too that we'll be getting ready for birthday parties and new walkers going in 2 diffrent directions! :lol:

We are due on the same day...so I can relate to you and the bedrest as I am feeling it the same time you are. If you want to chat more, fine, PM me, I'm here, not going anywhere for at least the next 3 weeks. I can do it, and so can you!
:hug:


Good luck to you and your babies!!! Thanks for support!


QUOTE(2xthefun20 @ May 14 2009, 06:23 PM) [snapback]1314162[/snapback]
It definitely wears on you to be doing the same thing every day, so I understand. Just remember how great you have done and take it just a day at a time! But the schedule is a really good idea and that helped me a lot too! I am 37 weeks on Sunday and I went on hospital bedrest because I went into preterm labor and was dilated to a 5 and 95% effaced. I am off bedrest now, but still staying at the hospital because I live too far away to go home. Good luck again!!


Good luck to you too!!!

QUOTE(TwinsInFL @ May 14 2009, 09:55 PM) [snapback]1314393[/snapback]
I did 7 weeks of hospital bed rest and honestly, the best thing you can do is rest. You will NEVER rest like that again! I stayed really busy during the day with u/s, NSTs and chatting up the nurses. I kept my door open most of the day and had so many visitors just pop their heads in to keep me occupied. I played a lot of solitaire on the computer and spent most of the day on FaceBook and TwinStuff. Get caught up on thank you notes and sleep as much as possible!

Good luck momma!


Thanks for great tips!!

QUOTE(summerfun @ May 16 2009, 09:53 AM) [snapback]1316012[/snapback]
What you are feeling is totally natural. :hug: I was put on hospital bedrest after Emilie was born. And I coudln't get out of bed for anything. I was getting so depress, I had a DD at home, a DD in the NICU (who I had not even seen yet) and then a DS inside me still. One day my 5 year old called me up crying and said "Mommy I need you". :cry: That was the last straw, I just couldn't take it anymore. I just wanted my son out, but I knew it was still too early and boys didn't do as well being born early as girls. I felt so incredibly guilty for feeling like I was being selfish and wanting it all to be over. Hospital bedrest is not easy, but it's even harder when you have another child at home. Hang in there. :grouphug:


Thank you for sharing your feelings, it makes me feel so much better that I am not the only one feeling those feelings


I have to say that some days are better than others. I just have to go day by day as each day counts and hope for the best!!!

Thank yo very much ladies for your support and good luck to all!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Just wanted to send :hug: to all you mama's on bedrest. . . I spent the last 3 months of my preg with the twins in and out of the hospital. . .I was admitted at 28.3 when they were having a hard time controlling my contractions and had to give me mag. . . I had a positive fFn so they ended up keeping me until 32 weeks and with some major begging on my part, my doc sent me home on FULL bedrest with at home monitoring for contractions 2x day. I KNOW how hard it is. . .I have a 4 year old and he didn't understand why mommy couldn't be at home.. .I am a stay at home mom, so he is used to being with me all the time!! My husband works 65+ hours a week, so our son had to go stay with my sister the times when I was in the hospital which was even harder for him. And the hospital was 45 mins from our house, so I usually only got to see my husband and son on the weekends! IT WAS SOO HARD!! But just know that all the guilt you feel now and all the "trauma" you think you are causing you other LO's at home, it will be a DISTANT memory when you have healthy babies at home!!! Kids are very resilient, and even though DS still remembers things from mommy being in the hospital, he doesn't ever say anything bad about it (which might be in part to giving him gifts while he visited me in the hospital-LOL). He is such a PROUD big brother these days!! Please try to rest and know that this will all be a distant memory soon enough. . .

:youcandoit: You are all doing great!!

Laura

 

How are you today?! I was on hospital bedrest too and know it can be so difficult to stay positive...and I did it without any children at home. I can only imagine how much your heart aches. :hug: Hang in there and best wishes!!!!

 

QUOTE(2boysforus @ May 19 2009, 06:54 PM) [snapback]1320323[/snapback]
How are you today?! I was on hospital bedrest too and know it can be so difficult to stay positive...and I did it without any children at home. I can only imagine how much your heart aches. :hug: Hang in there and best wishes!!!!


Thank you very much!!!

Every day is different, some are easier than others. At this point my doctor thinks that we will not go longer than 34 weeks, I am having contractions everyday that they stop with turb. shots on top of magnesium and turb pills that I get every 3 hours. If I'll get to 34 weeks, they will do the amnio test for lungs development, if they will be good than the doctor will deliver my babies. I like having a plan ahead of me, it makes it easier to get through each day.
I miss my son very much, but trying to think that it is only couple of weeks out of our lives...

Thanks again for the encouragement!!

Lydiya

 

I popped into this forum because it is 1 year ago today that I was admitted to the hospital with a 7mm cervix and contractions 2 minutes apart. My boys were just 24 weeks on the dot. I was told up front that I would be there until I delivered, which thankfully was not that day. I ended up staying 11 weeks on bedrest (not allowed to even eat sitting up), and 3 more days after the birth of my sons, which was at 35 weeks exactly.

I want to tell you that you are amazing. You are doing the best thing possible for your children, and I can't even imagine how hard it is for you with another child at home.

You've made it to a huge milestone getting to 32 weeks!! Congratulations!!!! :clapping:

I survived it mainly because my boss let me work 25 hours a week from my bed. I had a laptop and a special stand that I could use while lying down. But 25 hours is a drop in the bucket compared to how many hours there actually are in a week, and I spent a lot of time thinking too much.

It helps to keep your days organized. Bed rest exercises after breakfast, NST time, etc. You have to break down your days into small chunks. I contracted the entire time I was there, and there were days that would go by in 10 minute intervals, waiting for the next contraction.

Make friends with the nurses, and they will become your advocates. They can work with the doctors and make NSTs, vitals checks, etc. less intrusive. I was able to get an uninterrupted 8 hours by asking them bring me my meds early (I was on Procardia every 6 hours).

Give yourself things to look forward to. For me, it was every Tuesday which was another week milestone. I would read from baby books about how much farther along developmentally my boys were by staying in another week. I would take an Ambien every night so I wouldn't lie awake thinking. I also drank a lot of water, and since I wasn't on a bedpan (thank goodness!), I could at least look forward to getting up and peeing! :lol:

I'm sure you've come up with a lot of the survival strategies that I did, so I won't rehash them all, but I just wanted to let you know what a great job you're doing!

 

Ladies, thank you very much for keeping my spirits up during those 5 weeks in the hospital.

I am home now.

On Friday, May 22 I started having contractions every 7 minutes. My doctor checked me and I was more than 5 cm dialated. They gave me turb shot and said if cotractions will come back, they will not going to stop them. I stated having contractions within 30 min after the shot. So they decided to have e in OR by 5:00PM
At 4:54 my baby girl was born at 33 weeks and 1 day, 4lb 2oz 17 inch.
At 4:56 my baby boy was born, 5lb 2 oz, 18 inch.

Baby Daniel was put on oxigen pump, he is off it since yesterday. Feeding with the tube.

Baby Tatiana is breathing on her own. She is nippling 2/3 of the time.

Thank you for your suuport. Of course I did not want to leave the hospital on Monday, was crying leaving my babies there!

 

Congratulations!! :Clap: Please visit the NICU forum for any support you need during their stay. I know it's hard to leave your babies there. :hug:

 

CONGRATULATION!!!! and Welcome Daniel and Tatiana!!

 

Thank you very much girls!!