3 times in 4 days

We have been going for walks every evening as well as the babies had their shots on Tuesday and the millions of doctors visit since we have come back from Montreal.

Anyways, I keep getting asked, or rather told "They were born premature" and the doctor "These were preemies then" and another woman said "Twins, so they were tiny when they were born then"

I just keep saying Nope, they were full term.

I also keep have been asked 4x by 4 different people "So you had a csection?" and "Your csection must have been painful" In the FULL waiting room at the doctors this woman was talking so loud to me and she said "so you had a sea then?" I was like "pardon me?" and she said "you know a section, painful huh?" I said "I wouldnt know they came out the old fashioned way" I was sooooo embarrassed.

Also, I have gotten "Wow they are big for twins" Which they are not. They are normal sized 6 month olds. No bigger then anyone elses. I didnt realize twins were these little midget creatures that dont grow..
I just find it so annoying and find it harder and harder to bite my tongue. And these questions are new..I was starting to get used to the old "Are they twins?" "are they yours"

I bet I'm going to have a fabulous time Christmas shopping at Walmart..(I just loathe walmart) LOL

Oh, and does anyone else after they say "yes they are twins" get people telling them horror stories of their family members or friends that have had seriously premature babies or babies that have died?
I get it ALL the time. The grocery store clerk, people at stores. When I respond yes to the age old question "are they twins" they start going on about "oh, my sister in law just had her baby, she weighed 2lbs, born at 29 weeks" or "My friend just lost her baby, he only weighed 3lbs and was born really premature"

What do you say to that? I told DH I feel horrible for them but I feel super uncomfortable and I cant relate to that, my babies were born full term and healthy so I dont know what to say. I usually just say "Oh thats awful, I'm sorry to hear that" and get out of there.

Anyone else get that?

 

We have been going for walks every evening as well as the babies had their shots on Tuesday and the millions of doctors visit since we have come back from Montreal.

Anyways, I keep getting asked, or rather told "They were born premature" and the doctor "These were preemies then" and another woman said "Twins, so they were tiny when they were born then"

I just keep saying Nope, they were full term.

I also keep have been asked 4x by 4 different people "So you had a csection?" and "Your csection must have been painful" In the FULL waiting room at the doctors this woman was talking so loud to me and she said "so you had a sea then?" I was like "pardon me?" and she said "you know a section, painful huh?" I said "I wouldnt know they came out the old fashioned way" I was sooooo embarrassed.

Also, I have gotten "Wow they are big for twins" Which they are not. They are normal sized 6 month olds. No bigger then anyone elses. I didnt realize twins were these little midget creatures that dont grow..
I just find it so annoying and find it harder and harder to bite my tongue. And these questions are new..I was starting to get used to the old "Are they twins?" "are they yours"

I bet I'm going to have a fabulous time Christmas shopping at Walmart..(I just loathe walmart) LOL

Oh, and does anyone else after they say "yes they are twins" get people telling them horror stories of their family members or friends that have had seriously premature babies or babies that have died?
I get it ALL the time. The grocery store clerk, people at stores. When I respond yes to the age old question "are they twins" they start going on about "oh, my sister in law just had her baby, she weighed 2lbs, born at 29 weeks" or "My friend just lost her baby, he only weighed 3lbs and was born really premature"

What do you say to that? I told DH I feel horrible for them but I feel super uncomfortable and I cant relate to that, my babies were born full term and healthy so I dont know what to say. I usually just say "Oh thats awful, I'm sorry to hear that" and get out of there.

Anyone else get that?

 

I got the horror stories more when I was pregnant, or maybe I just really listened to what people were saying more, I don't know! It was REALLY rude to me when I was pregnant and the horror stories came. I always wondered if they understood how scary it was anyways without everyone else's terrible experiences- Its funny how many people have comments to share...one lady looked at me and said "I am so sorry" I'm pretty good at laughing it off but that was pretty rude!!! Who would say sorry about two amazing babies....not to mention pretty dang cute ones

 

I'm sure we ALL get the questions... good and bad, smart and annoying, off the wall and what have you. The only way you can avoid it is to not go out. I remember a bunch of posts one time about this sort of thing and I remember Rodc's reply the most. It was basically that these people mean well and that you can't take it all so seriously and that you don't always have to feel so negative about it. (Not his words exactly but you get the point.) Since then, I have had a different take on it. The fact is, they are twins and any multiple birth is a true blessing and still very rare in comparison to all the births that occur. People are curious, naive, and often just uneducated/unaware about twins. So when people make bizzar comments or ask questions, I'm more than happy to educate them or correct them but in a very positive manor. I have come up with a couple of quick come backs to some of the often asked questions and comments. The one I get the most is "double trouble." I don't really care for that cause I don't find my kids to be trouble so I smile and look them right in the eye and say, "No way, double the fun!" and I get some really nice reactions from that. When a question is too private then you can simply and very nicely tell them that your just not comfortable discussing that. I don't know if it's wrong to say but...I love the attention my girls get. It's an awesome feeling that someone would want to stop and ask me questions about them or twins in general. When someone tells me a sad story about another baby, I'm truly sad for them and tell them how sorry I am and how much of a blessing babies really are.

If you want to limit your contact with people, put on the shades, have a plan as to where you are going in Wal-Mart and walk briskly. People tend not to stop you as much when they see you have babies AND are in a hurry. Then all you'll have to do is pretty much give quick smiles in return. HTH Good luck in your shopping endeavors!

 

I just got a prematurity comment today about a woman's grandson that was born a month early. UGH!!! I guess I just feel that the only people "allowed" to make comments like that are other MOMs...otherwise, what do they know?!? It's frustrating! But, it happens...I agree with pp...you just have to put on the shades and have a plan.

 

I don't know how I'm going to do my Christmas shopping this year either. I get a lot of comments about how tiny my babies are (they are very dinky) and of course if 1 person sees them they call over their 10 friends who all comment on how tiny my babies are.

I'm so glad these guys aren't my first babies!

You could always try the snappy comeback of "Why do you ask?" when people ask you ridiculously personal questions. I've used it a few times and it works insanely well.
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Oh, and does anyone else after they say "yes they are twins" get people telling them horror stories of their family members or friends that have had seriously premature babies or babies that have died?

A couple of times, the look on my face stops them by the middle of their story. I cry easily (for the past year) and seeing tears well up makes them stop.

 

First off I have to tell you that I LOVE your name choices! I named of my boys Kaeden, same spelling! And one of my closest friends, due any day with a singleton, is naming her girl Brooklyn! I am sorry to hear that you get those types of comments! We do get asked alot about the boys weights but not much of the other. Have a cookie cutter answer for these negative people! I had a friend that always had a great way of handling uncomfortable questions, she would SMILE and say "WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW?" This put the discomfort on the other person and she never had to answer! Try it, it works!

 

Just think of it as 'People are twinstruck'

Twins are so neat, people can't help but make small talk... just smile and nod.