16 Week U/S

I am new to the forum. I just had my 16 week visit with one of my midwives today. She wasn't able to find the heartbeats with the doppler, so she pulled in the ultrasound and did a quick scan. My husband and I started getting nervous, but soon enough we saw the two babies. One (Baby B) is really tucked behind the other (Baby A). Our midwife was a little nervous because she had a hard time finding the heartbeat of Baby B. Also, Baby B wasn't moving. All the while, Baby A was moving all around and opening and closing his/her mouth. She went out to get the OB to take a look because "he is better at this," but he wasn't in. After some more moving of the device, she told us she saw a heartbeat and then she said she saw a little movement. It reassured us for the moment, but as we drove home, we really worried. When I had asked her if she was worried, she said, "No." And, she was a bit rushed to get on to her next appointment as I knew she was running behind. Anyway, have any of you experienced this where one baby was sleeping/not moving while the other was jumping all over the place? I wish I could have really seen the heartbeat like I could see with Baby A, but the positioning was really difficult. By the way, these are di/di twins, and their two other u/s have been great in the first trimester....strong heartbeats and concordant growth. I am scheduled for my anatomy scan in two weeks, but it seems so far away right now. Thanks!

 

Hi again. Now I am worried. My midwife left a message on my cell to say that she was a bit concerned, and she thinks I should try to get into the anatomy scan sooner. She said she is worried because of the difference in movement and perhaps that Baby B did not have as much fluid in his/her sack. Can anyone reassure me? The ultrasound office is closed, and I won't be able to get a hold of them until Tuesday!

 

Oh my gosh, poor you, you must be so worried,she is very unprofessional IMO, if it was me i would be fuming, no matter how behing on her appointements she may have been, she should have kept going until she was 100% sure everything is ok, not call you few hours later to tell you she is worried, that is really bad :angry: :angry:
I don't really know what to say though, she wouldn't have said she saw the heartbeat and movement if she hadn't, so that should be positive.
Could you go to the hospital and get an emergency scan? or when is the earliest you can get an appointement?
Sending you my best vibes, please let me know how you get on, im so sorry you had such a horrible experience, i can only imagine how you must be feeling :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

I would go to ER too if it would ease you. That was so unproffesional!!

 

IMO, this is why women carrying multiples don't generally get the option of seeing a midwife for their primary care. Multiples are considered high-risk and you need someone who can make informed, accurate conclusions on the spot. You should NEVER have to go home and then get the call, "You know, I've been thinking..." Again, just my opinion but I think your midwife is reaching out of her realm of expertise and I agree that what you experienced is unprofessional and not in your best interest.

I hope you can get some peace of mind soon...please keep us posted.

Eve

 

I agree I would go to the ER if you can't get in ASAP. She was completely unproffesional and I would get a second opinion.

FWIW-DD never moved much in my u/s. She mostly moved if DS was kicking her, she was very still most times and she was fine!

 

Yep, off to the ER I would go. I would say my midwife sent me

 

There's no way I'd be able to wait till Tues. I'd head off to the ER as well to get a quick scan. I'm sorry she's got you freaked out, but going should help put your mind at ease for the weekend.

 

Thanks for all of your replies. My husband and I did head off for an emergency scan with an OB, and we found out that the baby passed away 2 weeks ago (at 14 weeks). We are very sad, but we know things happen. Unfortunately, as with everyone, we didn't think it would happen to us. I know this is rare, and I hope it doesn't scare anyone here. The remaining baby looks very healthy, and it looks like we are having a boy (our first baby).

Thanks again, and I wish we had better news. The OB we ended up seeing was very kind and very sorry for us. He spent a lot of time taking scans of our remaining baby to leave us with some positive news.

 

Oh April... :cry: I can't begin to properly express my sorrow for you and your husband. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself...hopefully time will heal your grief. I'm glad you found some compassionate care.

((hugs))

Eve

 

April, I am very very sorry. This is heartbreaking news. I will be praying for you. I hope and pray everything goes great with the rest of your pregnancy and your new little guardian angel will help you. I am so sorry your midwife told you she did see a heartbeat and then you had to face this tragedy.

 

April, I am so very sorry you had to find out about the loss of one of your babies in this way. :cry: My thoughts are with you and your husband.

 

OH MY GOSh.. Soo sorry.

Can I ask tho, you said the midwife DID find a h/b?? I'm confused. What happened? You might need to report her.

I am soo sorry May your son continue to grow and thrive.

 

:hug: I am so, so sorry April. I cant imagine what you are feeling right now. I hope you have a happy and uneventful rest of your pregnancy.

 

I am so sorry for you loss. :hug: :hug: :hug: Please continue to stay on Twinstuff and update us on your pregnancy.

 

Big hugs to you and your husband. I suppose this is the way it was meant to be; and it's very sad to hear the type of service you received from your midwife. I would say something to the office. Hugs again and good luck. A BOY--wow that is great news! Especially for your first so congrats on that. Take care of yourself :good:

 

I am so so sorry for your loss April :hug:

 

April, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you a happy and healthy remainder of your pregnancy. You'll always be a TS mommy, please keep us posted on how you and the baby are doing :hug:

 

I am so sorry for your loss. :hug: to you and your DH.

 

April, I am so very sorry. :cry: :hug:

 

April, I'm really sorry to hear about the passing of your little one. I pray that you and your husband will have great support and comfort during this time. Congrats on your healthy baby boy!

 

Oh my gosh April, i am so deeply sorry for your loss, i can't even begin to imagine what you must be feeling and i am so sorry. :hug: :hug: :hug:

 

I'm so sorry. If you feel you need to talk about it, please come over to our Prental Grief Forum. :hug:

 

:hug: I am so sorry for your loss.

 

Oh no sweetie, I didn't respond last night because I hadn't experienced what you did, but I'm so sorry for your loss now! :hug: and prayer for some peace!!

 

:hug: Oh goodness :cry: I am so sad for you! I'm sorry this happened. Congrulations on a healthy boy growing in there

 

:hug: I'm sorry. No one deserves this. Please take care of yourself!

 

:hug: April! I am so very sorry for your loss! :cry:

 

April, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. :loss:
Please visit us at parental grief forum. There are many incredible women there who have gone through what you are right now.

 

My thoughts are with you :hug:

 

I am so sorry! (((HUGS!)))

 

April,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I really wish no one had to know such pain. I however lost a baby at 20 weeks gestation (not a twin baby) in 2007. The grief is tough and you need to do whatever it is to grieve. Please do not let anyone tell you what is the right or wrong way to grieve. I knwo that was a struggle for me. Also, please heed the advice of others and find a grief forum that suits you. This was an immense help in my healing process. Finding others that know what you are going through is so helpful.
Please take care of yourself and your little man and certainly feel free to PM me if you would luck. BIG HUGS!!

 

April I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel. I will be thinking about you, your family, and the healthy baby you have with you.

 

I am so sorry for your loss. Good luck with your son.

 

I am so very sorry to come back and read your news. I wish you the best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy to be healthy and uneventful. I would be calling and placing a complaint with someone about that midwife.