Need to vent?

I read ladybenz's vent thread, and I too feel the need to vent today!!!! So, I thought that (rather than usurp her thread) I'd start a new open vent thread!

So, anything buggin' ya? Share it here! <_<

 

So, my DH was gone on business all last week. My (retired) dad came to stay with me, but truthfully, that is helpful in some ways, and, ummm, NOT helpful in other ways...

My kids were all pretty good all week, but, after all week on duty with no time off, I really just wanted to get out of the house, just to run a few errands without all the kids in tow. So, when DH got home on friday night, I told him that I only wanted to get one thing accomplished all weekend, and that was my errands... I even said that I would happily take DD with me, and just leave the boys with him.

The weekend starts passing, and between his laundry, yardwork, the boys being fussy, etc., the first window that I got was Sunday around 5:30 pm. With DH whining about, "well, this is a horrible time of day for you to leave them" and "they are just going to cry the whole time" and "Don't worry, I will just thaw milk and give them a bottle and put them to bed without you." Now, I had just nursed the boys, and I planned to be home be 7:30, in order to nurse them again before bedtime. During that time window, the boys are typically a little tired/cranky, but they typically do not nurse until right before I put them in bed.

So, I leave at 5:30, go to one store, and call home at around 6:30 (gone for just one hour). The boys are screaming. DH, in his brilliance, took the boys up for bath at 6:15 rather than 7:15/7:30. He got through one bath, and then they were melting down. I said I'd cut my outing short, and come home. I stopped to pick myself up a coffee and dinner for DD and I, and got home before 7. Both boys are sound asleep in DH's arms. Only one was bathed and in pj's. DH said, they wouldn't stop crying, so I walked them until they fell asleep...

Which meant that I had to wake them to nurse them before official bedtime. And, since they had a nap at 6:30, they were wide awake and playful, and it took me an-hour-and-a-half to get them to sleep. I go downstairs at 9 pm, to find DH playing on the computer with DD - he hasn't even started her bath, and she is usual IN BED by 9 at the latest.

And then DH blames me for this whole schedule fiasco, saying that I never should have left the boys at such a rough time of day, because he doesn't have the parts to soothe them when they cry...

Sigh... it's tough to be the momma sometimes...

 

It is tough being a momma sometimes! My vent is that I'm at work right now. I will get home at 6:00pm to my boys all ready for bed. I get to feed them their last bottle for the day and then they're off to sleep by 6:30. I will have only held my babies for about 10 minutes all day. Mornings are crazy trying to get everyone dressed and fed and out of the house by 8:00am, there is no quality time spent with my kids in the morning That is such a drag! The only positive is that dd is of course still awake at 6:30pm, so I get to spend quality time with her, but I miss my babies! I wish I didn't have to work- that's the only reason I do- because I HAVE to! Ugh!

 

I have bronchitis and spent the whole day cleaning because my DH did not lift a single finger this weekend. He honestly wonders why I'm grumpy right now.

 

I have had several bladder/E. Coli infections since the twinnies were born and I need to go to a urologist. But FIRST I need to get a test done to see if I have reflux in my uterers (msp?) and I have get to do a nasty prep kit of one boiled egg tomorrow morning, and clear liquids ONLY for the rest of the day and a suppository on the morning of.....Sorry if TMI but I am not looking forward to this.

I am trying to think of the brighter side....they could find out what happened to my bladder...let's just hope it doesn't need surgery.

 

I bought a box of Golden Grahams yesterday because I was craving them. I just went to pour myself a bowl and they're gone. My DH and 14 year old son ate all of my Golden Grahams in less than 24 hours.

 

I went to make up a photo book for my mom only to find that I have wonderful pictures of my dh with my babies, pics of my parents with the babies but only a few pics of me with my babies. I feel like I'm not their mother because there isn't any proof. I've just been crying the past few days and I really hate my dh for it.

Heather

 

What is the deal with today? Definately a vent day. DH informs me last minute that he has picked up a closing shift at work tonight. Ugh... I had already offered to prepare dinner for a family of 8 that just had a new baby, thinking that DH would be home to help. I have never cooked for a family of 8 let alone my own family of four on the rare occasion. It took me an hour and a half to prepare the meal, attempting to multitask to make sure everything is cooked properly and keeps warm. By the way, props to all you moms out there that cook meals for your large families. I don't know how you do it, but you are amazing! DH has to leave for work and the food isn't quite done, but he has to go so the food leaves with him ( to drop it off) and hopefully its doesn't taste like a complete disaster (cross my fingers).
Girls have been fussy all day for some reason, I'm assuming it's because they are teething, but who knows. I manage to keep them occupied for most of the evening. I attempt to put them down to bed at 830 and the fight begins. One in the swing, the other in the crib and rotations start. An hour later they are still wide awake. I try swinging them in their car seats, rocking one while the other is in the swing, back and forth but nothing works. I let them cio for a few minutes in their cribs but they both completely freak out and are screaming from the tops of their lungs. I try giving them some bottle it helps for about a minute. Contemplating calling my mom at this point, but remember she's 15 min away and decide not to. I pack the girls up in their car seats and off to sonic we go. Finally 2 hours after their last feeding they fall asleep in the car. At this point I'm too afraid to order anything in case the noise wakes the girls up. I drive back home and that's the end of that. Luckily these kind of days don't happen very often. Sorry for the novel...

MJ

 

Thanks for opening this thread. My whole family has been sick and I've had the same thing. They're all on the mend now, thankfully. I just wish I was! My chest is hurting - stopped pumping 6 days ago. I'm ready for my milk to dry up already! I have another infection, which is painful and itching. I'm glad my dr. figured it out, BUT I want it to go away. I feel like I've been feeling like crap (physically) for a very long time now beginning with IF treatments, a long twin pg, tiredness from small twins and sickness. I want to feel better SOON. We leave for vacation Friday morning and I want to feel WELL.

I also hope these babies are moving more soon. They're within the normal range, doc says, but I'd like them to start rolling on milestones soon, as he says. Geez, we work with them a lot.

I wish my family would follow through with offering to babysit. We really need to get out! Paying sitters is expensive!!!

Every time I join something like a class or study with baby help, it always falls through it seems. Talk about being foiled. I swear sometimes I just want to say why bother?...but I know better. It's so frustrating feeling like I am not out much with or without the twins.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

QUOTE(b/gtwinmom07 @ May 5 2008, 11:29 PM) [snapback]757740[/snapback]
I have had several bladder/E. Coli infections since the twinnies were born and I need to go to a urologist. But FIRST I need to get a test done to see if I have reflux in my uterers (msp?) and I have get to do a nasty prep kit of one boiled egg tomorrow morning, and clear liquids ONLY for the rest of the day and a suppository on the morning of.....Sorry if TMI but I am not looking forward to this.

I am trying to think of the brighter side....they could find out what happened to my bladder...let's just hope it doesn't need surgery.


that sucks you are in my thoughts!

 

QUOTE(heathertwins @ May 6 2008, 01:23 AM) [snapback]757799[/snapback]
I went to make up a photo book for my mom only to find that I have wonderful pictures of my dh with my babies, pics of my parents with the babies but only a few pics of me with my babies. I feel like I'm not their mother because there isn't any proof. I've just been crying the past few days and I really hate my dh for it.

Heather


I have been bitching about the same thing!

 

DH is an selfish a$$ and flipped out... I am about to be a single mom of 6 week old twins. he is such a girl... you would think he was the one that was pregnant gave birth and now is postpartum. Can guys have postpartum. It is like all the attention is all about him and he is super jealous of anyone who talks to me... I am constantly monitored. going insane! Besides that he didn't do **** this weekend with the kids.... just slept and pouted. Whoa is me suck it up and get your priorities straight. GRRR

 

I'm so broke right now I want to cry. I thought we were recieving a rebate check but I guess not because I assumed I would have gotten it by now. I have bills up the ying yang that I cannot pay, my account is about to overdraft. I'm down to my last $20 that has to go to formula and diapers. I hate money!! I hate how our economy is now, it's so hard to get by nowadays. Especially when you are the only income right now.

 

QUOTE(bday111707 @ May 6 2008, 10:21 AM) [snapback]758302[/snapback]
I'm so broke right now I want to cry. I thought we were recieving a rebate check but I guess not because I assumed I would have gotten it by now. I have bills up the ying yang that I cannot pay, my account is about to overdraft. I'm down to my last $20 that has to go to formula and diapers. I hate money!! I hate how our economy is now, it's so hard to get by nowadays. Especially when you are the only income right now.


i 2nd that but my DH wants to buy a guitar that we don't need, instead of helping with bills. Yes it is a great deal, yes I like the guitar, NO WE DO NOT NEED IT. The babies do NEED food, diapers, & clothes. Oh and money to go to the doctor. But if I point that out then I hurt his feelings and the pout session goes on.

 

Thanks God for this thread!!!! My only need to vent is my DH! Everything about him makes me so mad these days! I try to take care of everything that has to do with the kids and all he does is complain about it! I take care of all the bills and finances and all he does is complain about it. I take care of cleaning the house and taking care of the yard and guess what....yup! you guessed it COMPLAINS about it! What is he around for exactly...?????
We all had a bout of stomach virus this weekend, which while sick I took care of the kids and all that goes with it including a trip to the ER with my 3.5mo dd (of course) and guess who is at home today and who is at work...me at work! DH home in bed! MUST BE NICE!
Somedays I think that if he left things wouldnt be any different except I wouldnt have to hear the complaining!!!
Thanks for reading my vent!

 

kids kids kids....!!! i am a sahm and i am with kids 24/7.. all i hear is whining and crying all day long.. i am so tired.. and DH works too much..
grrr

 

QUOTE(twinreverb @ May 6 2008, 09:00 AM) [snapback]758395[/snapback]
i 2nd that but my DH wants to buy a guitar that we don't need, instead of helping with bills. Yes it is a great deal, yes I like the guitar, NO WE DO NOT NEED IT. The babies do NEED food, diapers, & clothes. Oh and money to go to the doctor. But if I point that out then I hurt his feelings and the pout session goes on.



Oh yes, I am well aware of the pout session. It's so easy to spend money that isn't yours. He thinks while I work to TRY to pay the bills he gets to buy new hats and clothes. Nope, not happening! Babies come first.

 

QUOTE(AshleyLD @ May 6 2008, 09:48 AM) [snapback]758490[/snapback]
kids kids kids....!!! i am a sahm and i am with kids 24/7.. all i hear is whining and crying all day long.. i am so tired.. and DH works too much..
grrr



I'll take that anyday than worry about how I'm going to feed them and keep a roof over their head :unsure:

 

Might as well chime in with everyone else. I'm sick of being sick. The four of us are passing around a bad cough/cold for the second time now. This has been going on for almost a month. Both boys have to be on the nebulizer for 10 minutes at least 4 times a day. That's a lot of screaming. This morning DS1 puked on me, him, the couch, and the pillow because he was determined not to swallow the medicine from the dr. DS2 has now decided to quit sleeping through the night so DH gets up with him, but then is tired and cranky from no sleep or wants a nap after work. I get up at 5 am with them to get everyone off to daycare and me to work. I am tired of being tired. I'm tired of DH being tired and I'm sick of all of us being sick. I just want to enjoy my babies!

 

My DH brought home a "present" for me on Saturday...DIET PILLS. Humiliation...I know I have 25 pounds to lose, but I'm also breastfeeding 2 babies and managing to keep it together on hardly any sleep at all. First time I've cried after having the babies...

This was after a banner week where he had been away on a team building trip for work for 2 days (golf, anyone?), had gone on another corporate retreat the day after he got back (mountain biking, anyone?), then had spent Saturday napping, playing tennis, and "running errands" (apparently to get his fat wife diet pills) all while ditching me with the kids.

Serious insensitivity or complete cluelessness?

 

QUOTE(ChelleBadger @ May 6 2008, 11:05 AM) [snapback]758690[/snapback]
My DH brought home a "present" for me on Saturday...DIET PILLS. Humiliation...I know I have 25 pounds to lose, but I'm also breastfeeding 2 babies and managing to keep it together on hardly any sleep at all. First time I've cried after having the babies...

This was after a banner week where he had been away on a team building trip for work for 2 days (golf, anyone?), had gone on another corporate retreat the day after he got back (mountain biking, anyone?), then had spent Saturday napping, playing tennis, and "running errands" (apparently to get his fat wife diet pills) all while ditching me with the kids.

Serious insensitivity or complete cluelessness?


OMG I would be heated :angry: That is sooo insensitive. so nice that he can have all the fun in the world. I mean you only carried two fetuses inside you for several months and had to carry around the extra weight while trying to keep both babies healthy. then gave birth to two babies and now have to deal with the getting up all hours during the night to breast feed, and change diapers. while trying to also get day to day stuff done as well.

He REALLY deserves HIS time away <_<

 

QUOTE(bday111707 @ May 6 2008, 02:10 PM) [snapback]758705[/snapback]
OMG I would be heated :angry: That is sooo insensitive. so nice that he can have all the fun in the world. I mean you only carried two fetuses inside you for several months and had to carry around the extra weight while trying to keep both babies healthy. then gave birth to two babies and now have to deal with the getting up all hours during the night to breast feed, and change diapers. while trying to also get day to day stuff done as well.

He REALLY deserves HIS time away <_<


I KNOW, right? And to top it all off, after crying my eyes out in the shower for 20 minutes, I decided to leave to blow off some steam since all 3 kids were in bed (trust me, he didn't help get them there...) and I wasn't up for hanging out with DH after his loud and clear message that he finds me completely unattractive...so I go to a late movie by myself, and what does he say?! "I'd like to go to a movie by myself sometime...must have been nice."

The babies are 16 weeks old. Has anyone else lost all of the weight after 16 weeks?

 

QUOTE(ChelleBadger @ May 6 2008, 01:29 PM) [snapback]758748[/snapback]
I KNOW, right? And to top it all off, after crying my eyes out in the shower for 20 minutes, I decided to leave to blow off some steam since all 3 kids were in bed (trust me, he didn't help get them there...) and I wasn't up for hanging out with DH after his loud and clear message that he finds me completely unattractive...so I go to a late movie by myself, and what does he say?! "I'd like to go to a movie by myself sometime...must have been nice."

The babies are 16 weeks old. Has anyone else lost all of the weight after 16 weeks?



Men are such jerks! I feel your pain! And NO everyone does not lose all the weight by 16 weeks! My babies are 6 months old and I still have about 20 more pounds to go!

 

QUOTE(ChelleBadger @ May 6 2008, 11:05 AM) [snapback]758690[/snapback]
My DH brought home a "present" for me on Saturday...DIET PILLS. Humiliation...I know I have 25 pounds to lose, but I'm also breastfeeding 2 babies and managing to keep it together on hardly any sleep at all. First time I've cried after having the babies...

This was after a banner week where he had been away on a team building trip for work for 2 days (golf, anyone?), had gone on another corporate retreat the day after he got back (mountain biking, anyone?), then had spent Saturday napping, playing tennis, and "running errands" (apparently to get his fat wife diet pills) all while ditching me with the kids.

Serious insensitivity or complete cluelessness?


NOT nice....I'm so sorry....don't even acknowledge them!!
Men can be SOSOSOSOSOSO clueless.

Heres my vent:

DH is spending money like a maniac lately (new edger = $200, online stock craziness = $350, uhhhh....NEW FORD F150 crewcab, etc). UM does he realize that next month I wont be bringing in an income??? (my company paid me my full salary through the end of june when I decieded not to come back to work).

Then come the weekends when I get a little bit of a 'break' supposedly - he seems to forever be needing to mow, edge and other things in the yard (even though he also just got Scott's Lawn Service to come out = expensive) when all I wanted to do was take less than ONE HOUR to go to the drugstore to pick up a prescription & maybe go tanning for 12 minutes...NOPE....couldnt fit that in. Or even have him watch the girls for a few hours so that I can acutally hang up clothes in our closets instead of having them in folded piles in the rooms????

He said that I was getting Sunday 'off', when I had to go to my moms storage unit to sift through 30 years of her **** looking for clothes for her (she lives in a home right now).
So I guess that my time 'off' from the kids was sifting through heavy boxes. FUN. not.

I need a break! I would love JUST FOR ONCE to go run errands without him saying 'hurry back' or 'be back before (insert something dumb here)'. When he goes to run errands I never say 'hurry back' or give him a time frame. whatever.

 

Here are my vents:

1. Sophia will not nap. Rather then nap, she is sitting on me squealing.

2. I hate DH's job. He is Philadelphia police officer and we lost another officer over the weekend. I just cannot handle the danger of his job. I know I cannot ask him to switch careers and he always says things like what else can he do, he believes he has no talents (which is not true, he has plenty of them). I just worry too much about him and worry that he will be the next officer down....I just need to hope for the best.

 

I haven't had sex in a month and a half. Enough said!

 

QUOTE(mommymeg @ May 6 2008, 02:00 PM) [snapback]758833[/snapback]
I haven't had sex in a month and a half. Enough said!


haha 6 months here

 

My stupid printer would not work this morning when I was trying to proof the coffeetable book that I made for the g-mas for mothers day and then the pharmacy did not have the meds I needed to fill my script. After that I tried to play with the babies but they ONLY want to be outside right now and pound on the door demanding to be released. They are turning 1 at the end of May and I finally realized that their need to be outside may have something to do with the fact that they do not have any age/ability appropriate related toys anymore. I am obviously going to buy them some new stuff for their b-day but I am sooo overwhelmed by the options that I am completely unable to even know where to begin. In the meantime they wandered down to our two year old neighbors house while we were out walking around today and began playing with her toys which was fine until Lily started taking everything away from her and the little girl basically wanted us to go home and I did not even know where to start with Lily as far as keeping her from taking the toys. When we came home I was totallyl thinking about the new toys we need only to walk into my house and realize there is NOT ANY ROOM for anything else because it completely looks like BRU threw up in our entire house!
Whew..thanks for the place to vent.

 

I can't tell you how VERY happy I am to read all of these "vents". Not that everyone has problems or is unhappy, but that I'm not the only one! I read everyones posts all the time and everyone always seems sooooo happy with their babies and lives. I'v really been feeling like I'm missing something?
I thought my DH was the only A**, and that I was a horrible mother for needing a break from the boys.
So anyway....my vent is that the boys have been teething like CRAZY!!! Logan had a fever all weekend and Lucas was really fussy and didn't want to be away from me for a SECOND!!!! AWWWWW!!!! And to add to it they have both been awake all night for days now. My DH is no help to me b/c his job is more important and it gives us money so he needs HIS sleep!!! Yeah I know! Complete BS.
Thanks for the vent! Trust me I have much more but there isnt enough time in the world!

 

All I want to do is continue to BF my boys, but for reasons unknown to me or any of the LC's I've met with - they continue to have a shallow suck and leave me with blisters, scabs, and open sores on my darn nipples, multiple bouts of mastitis and nipple blanching/vasospasms. After 3.5 months of dealing with the pain, my OB said I needed to take some time off and just pump. So, I'm pumping 5x's/day and supplementing with formula. And it ticks me off! I'm sick of washing bottles and I'm tired of the darn pump. But I'll keep doing it b/c I want my boys to get at least some BM until they are 1. But it sucks! Especially when BFing was so easy with my 3-year-old. It's been a real "slap in the face" for me to have bfing problems this time around.

 

QUOTE(twinreverb @ May 6 2008, 10:10 AM) [snapback]758276[/snapback]
DH is an selfish a$$ and flipped out... I am about to be a single mom of 6 week old twins. he is such a girl... you would think he was the one that was pregnant gave birth and now is postpartum. Can guys have postpartum. It is like all the attention is all about him and he is super jealous of anyone who talks to me... I am constantly monitored. going insane! Besides that he didn't do **** this weekend with the kids.... just slept and pouted. Whoa is me suck it up and get your priorities straight. GRRR



wow, that's not good.