hi all i have 4 month b/g twins that i canot put down. they cry and have been this way since 2 days old. you can imagine my day i'm sure of just changing a diaper, feedings etc. they both want to be held constantly the only break i get is when i can somtimes have them sit at the bathroom counter and stare at each other in the mirror. we have a bouncer, swing, gym you name it! the moment they go in is the moment they cry and imediatly stop when i pick them up. they both want my undivided attantion 24/7 i cant even get into my purse without them going off! they are very sensitive...and my arms are ready to fall off! i'm so sick and tired of having these two babies still conected to me, it's like i'm still pregnant. i have a sling and a maximom double carrier that i use but dont want to anymore lol! i have never read a post or heard anything like this from any mom i know....wondering if i'm the only one and what i can do if anything. i cant wait untill these guys are mobile and i REALLY DO MEAN THAT lol! maybe then i can go to the bathroom or eat something during the day. as soon as they wake its all over! i know we say this a lot but if it was just one baby it would be so much easier lol but its not, there are two!!!!!! thanks for reading the vent, hope there's someone out there who can relate! rebekah
LOL when they are mobile they will just crawl around after you crying. My 3 yo DD would crawl in the kitchen after me and hold my legs the entire time I cooked! My twinkies have went through stages of this too. My only advice is to tell yourslef "this too shall pass" (advice I got from another TSer). Someday soon they will be 2 years old and will refuse to let you hold them and you will cry on the inside because your babies dont want to snuggle anymore. Wow what a downer I am today!! LOL Just hang in there mommy!!
i have one that loves to be heald.. granted hes two and i tell him when its time for me to cook.. it gets easier.. i promise..
I can say it definitely gets easier once they can sit on their own and crawl. Mine were like you described until they became mobile. Katie on the other hand is an angel, she is content doing anything.
My son was a bit like that and being that it was 13 years ago, I sort of forgot some of what I did and at what ages but I do remember making a conscious decision to stop holding/carrying him and he eventually learned to like being on his own. I think it's a learned skill like anything else. What about putting them in the p-n-p or on a play mat and if they fuss, they fuss. You go about your business and talk to them but don't pick them up. Just try it in 15 minute stints. I would think that eventually they will learn to entertain themselves and each other. That is a skill they will need.... good luck! It sounds like a lot of work.
"What about putting them in the p-n-p or on a play mat and if they fuss, they fuss. You go about your business and talk to them but don't pick them up. Just try it in 15 minute stints. I would think that eventually they will learn to entertain themselves and each other. That is a skill they will need.... good luck! It sounds like a lot of work." hmm...well they dont 'fuss" they both turn beat red and hold their breaths (its like torture to them) theirs no talking to them i dont think they could hear. so having them go 15 monutes is out of the question lol. they know how to "play" and will happily as a lark while being held but i go to put them in the bouncer with the same toy they were just playing with and they imediatly start up. if they are in the same room together it gets the other one going quite uncontrollibly. they are even snifleing a few minutes later after being picked up.
I had one who turned red and held his breath as well. Plus he had acid reflux!! Honestly, the whole first year is pretty much a blur, LOL You will make it through I promise. Just try not to get stressed, because they do tend to feed off of that. :hug99: PM me if you have any questions.
I know its early but it worked for us... try putting in Baby Eistein and put them in there saucers or walkers what ever you have .... walk away and peek at them to see if it works.... we did and it was god sent I actually got to take showers and go to the bathroom without rushing ...
Ok, the boys will be a year old this Saturday and Cameron still does this. He follows me around the house crying. This past weekend I decided I wasn't going to pick him up and he threw a fit screaming, kicking, arching his back and turning beet red for over an hour until I gave in. I hope you have better luck than I have.
My Evan was the same way. I was going crazy in the early days and I felt horrible all the time because I was ignoring James, who was a much more content little guy. Around 4-5 months Evan started to change and now he's the happiest, most independent baby I've ever met. He was just insecure as a newborn. He still loves to snuggle and actually hugs and kisses me many times per day (so cute!) but he's also happy to sit on the floor with a bunch of books for up to 30 minutes at a time. You'll get there.
