I felt like crap when...

Backstory: I watch a now 2 year old three days a week. She's into everything. Destroys. Everything. Doesn't like to get messy.

Today I was folding laundry. I spend my days either doing laundry, folding, sweeping, cooking bkfst/lunch, dishes, cleaning up their rooms, etc etc.

Nicholas came up to me and said, "Mommy, why don't you do fun things with us anymore? Why don't you play with us?"

/sigh

Talk about feeling like a failure. It's nothing I don't know, but still stings. We did play foosball before bed and they had a blast.

 

:grouphug: You are a freaking phenominal mom! Hush with the guilt, woman! I feel like crap when I realize my kids will probably never think I am fun. Not like you, anyway. But I do dress up dolls and play pretend like a pro, so my time is coming.

Lately? I feel like crap about how hard we work to be exactly where we were last year and the year before. :drown: Incomes goes up, expenses follow. My car will be paid off in March and, I swear, it's all I think about. We never go anywhere or do anything for lack of money lately so I want to go to Raleigh to hit up Marbles and stay in a hotel (the girls would looooove a sleepover in a new place) as soon as that title is in hand.

 

Pfft! No dress up/dolls here!

I hear ya on $. Hurry up March! And the girls will LOVE the hotel stay. My kids enjoy it! Not so sure about the parents... Lol!

 

I want to do something that is so all about them without any thought to how reasonable it is. Of course, going to Raleigh isn't extravagant by most standards, but I'm also kind of (very) cheap.

 

I'd like to not worry about money and be able to get the kids something they want just because I can without having to go through a mental list of 20 questions.
I also feel like crap when I am frustrated with the kids and one of them will come up and say, "Can I have a hug?" It melts my heart but then I feel bad for being frustrated with them.

Meaghan, if you makes you feel better, I don't think I'll ever be called fun Mom.
Stephanie, March is only few months away and that trip to Raleigh sounds like a lot of fun.

 

Meaghan, I get it. I can sort of plan 1 fun thing to do per day. Be it painting, cooking with the kids, etc. I just don't have it in me to cook, clean and be an all-day entertainer.

Exactly. DH has gotten a few raises this year, but we've also added another person to our family. We are so careful with our money, it's not funny.

 

This happens to me too and I feel so bad about it.

I would also love to do more fun stuff, worry less about the messes some of the fun stuff makes,worry less about getting the chores done and just live and have fun with the children.

I often feel worst in the mornings when I have to get them going to go to pre-school and get myself on the office sort of on time and they are begging to be allowed to play a bit, for me to read them a book or do a puzzle with them. How I would love leisurely mornings instead of constantly looking at the clock and nagging them and all of us getting more and more frustrated in the process, and I often ask myself why I cannot at least manage that one hour we have together to start the day to be peaceful, friendly, fun if I have to work and leave them alone for the rest of the day.

 

last week ivana said, "only kids and dads play. mommies never play." i used to play with them, but with this move and packing, then unpacking...

then after i yell at them, they come and say, "mommy, can i give you a hug?" ugh.

 

I agree, I wish I more time to do things with my DD - it's been that way for almost the whole past year, since I found out I was pregnant with the boys. :-( I tell her I'm sorry, and she says "It's ok Mommy, I understand." I feel sooooooo bad!!

 

I have absolutely no patience right now. I completely lost my mind this morning in the zoo parking lot after the kids:

1) Were running around wasting time in the morning, refusing to eat, get dressed, go potty and generally making a motion toward the door for swimming lessons
2) Had a meltdown after swimming lessons because we didn't have time to spend in the pool after, were running around like maniacs instead of getting dressed and slipped on the change room floor
3) FREAKED OUT about being hungry so I bought them muffins at starbucks which they then CRUMBLED ALL OVER THE VAN and DELIBERATELY SPILLED THEIR HOT CHOCOLATE ON THEIR CAR SEATS
4) Started struggling against putting their coats on when it was -10 and then refused to stay in the stroller in the busy parking lot while I was trying to get all their stuff sorted out and all the hot chocolate and crumbs cleaned out before it froze to the car seats.

I lost it! I completely lost it. And for nothing, because the yelling didn't even have an effect on them. I felt like such a crappy mom. I hate to say, but I can't wait until this independent terrible 3 phase goes away.

 

:grouphug: Jen! It's okay. You're not a crappy mom- your rambunctious three year old boys just worked you over today. It happens.

 

If I had butt dialed you just moments earlier you might have had something different to say, Steph

 

I might have flown up to rescue you!

Mom confession of the night- my kids watch movies and/or tv every night so that I can cook dinner in peace. I often send Paul in with them since he can be a little draining, too.

 

Ummmm I ran on the elliptical for 30 mins tonight with earbuds in but not plugged in:-0. Bc I couldn't wait for DH to get home but I had to make sure they weren't fighting! And it took more like 40 mins b of all the times I had I stop!
My complete failure moment is when I'm not mad or upset and they ask me "are you mad mommy?" . Don't feel bad kids wear you down and the great thing is they love us as much as we live them and will always give second chances

 

I can add one. When my child as to stay home from school and I have to arrange my mom or mil to watch them. I feel soooo bad leaving my baby ( yes, he is almost 12) home without me I know they are in good hands but I want to cuddle, make soup and nurse them better.

 

1) When I come home from work and one of the first things my toddler asks for is to watch tv because she now associates mommy getting home with the tv coming on. (It's how I get everyone including myself and DH fed and ready for bed in 2-2.5 hours.)

2) When I got home today to find out that Livie sat up by herself for the first time today and I missed it. I know it's unavoidable that I will miss some of this stuff but it still just plain sucks.

 

1. When I realize I can't remember what my ODD was like at the twins' age now because I was pregnant already
2. Basically, I just worry all time that I'm screwing up/failing ODD. She gets the brunt of my stress

 

Oooh are you butt dialing people now? I wanna talk to your butt.

 

I totally did. Twice. Butt dialing occurs at random and you just never know what you're going to get. Pretty exciting!