A little disappointed

We found out we are having another girl. While I am extremely grateful to be having a healthy baby girl, I'm disappointed that we will never experience what it's like to have a son. I feel like I'm mourning the loss of a dream and it makes me feel so guilty for not being more excited about this baby. I'm also worried that this baby will feel left out later in life because her sisters are twins and then she is just alone. I don't know. My emotions are far too crazy right now. I just really thought this baby was a boy.

 

Sorry you feel this way, I am sure as time passews you will come to peace with the idea and you will get excited about the baby. I am sure your twins will love their baby sister also. I hope people that went through this will have more advise for you. Congratulations and best wishes!

 

We had twin girls, then a girl, then another girl. I think my husband was the one who was a little disappointed that we didn't have a boy. He is over it though and we are thrilled that we have 4 healthy kids. I knew we were not done having kids after #3. I felt that she should have a "buddy" too, but she fits right in with the twins. It's beautiful. When the twins are in school, she plays well with her baby sister too. It will all work out for you and your family. They will not know any different. I think hormones have a lot to do with it too, and having other kids to look after. I know I wasn't as excited when I was pregnant with #4, but we were just as happy when she was born and can't imagine not having her. Don't feel guilty about how you feel. You will adapt and so will the kids.

 

I have felt the same way (only all boys!) since finding out my third was another boy. It was like someone stuck a pin in my balloon, my excitement and happiness just fizzled out. I still have days where it's really hard. Back in June 2 friends of mine had baby girls, it was hard. I love my boys, all three of them, but I had a third hoping it was a girl. I know I'll never feel "complete" or whatever until I have a daughter, but honestly I don't know if I could stand the disappointment again.

But on the other hand, my third little man is such a joy to have in the family. It's not that I don't love him and am disappointed he's a boy, I'm just disappointed I'll never have a girl.

 

I am one of five girls. It meant a lot to have sisters. I'm glad my boys have each other and I'm glad Becca will get to have a sister. I mean, either way we would have been thrilled, but i'm glad she gets to share the sisterhood bond (hopefully) as opposed to being the only one (which likely would have been just fine, too). I don't know. I totally get what you're saying and i think it's natural. Don't beat yourself up about it. Your daughters will have a special relationship.

 

As a mom to 5 boys I understand how you feel! I cried at my twins u/s as I was so sure since the beginning I would get my girl finally. I was so mad as well! When I got pregnant again and saw I was having another boy I got mad at my dh and told him it was his fault I only have boys. So next time I'm not going to find out what I'm having, I'm just going to expect a boy.

Do you have any pics?

 

I'm glad it seems more normal. I feel like this is one of those things that's so hard to talk about because all I am supposed to care about is the baby's health, not gender. I don't have any pics of this scan. I go back on the 17th and will get another. I'm feeling better about it already. I completely love my sisters and we don't have a close relationship with my brother. My whole family is girls except him.

 

I am glad you are already feeling better!

I just wanted to say I am sorry for your disappointment and it doesn't in any way negate your happiness over a healthy baby girl.


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I am glad as well! Now that you have accepted that you are having another girl the fun of picking a name begins!

On babyandbump.com they added a board because of this called gender disappointment.

 

I have a distinct feeling that i'll soon join you on this.. 3 boys and truly hope this time it's a girl. but something tells me that i'll be disappointed.

Anyway, i'm trying to chime in with my personal experience - my first son got diagnosed with anomaly when i was 9 months pregnant with him and i was worried to death. luckily he turned out to be a perfectly healthy boy. what i'm trying to say is, nothing compares to a health baby therefore a health family.

Bless..